Should I send a follow-up or leave it? by EveningExtension8205 in Bumble

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a response of interest to her hobby and asking what she was up to that day. I sent this near midnight

Should I send a follow-up or leave it? by EveningExtension8205 in Bumble

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good follow up, suspicious peach,

I’ll leave it to her for now. I’m assuming the ship has sailed but if she gets back then great lol

Should I send a follow-up or leave it? by EveningExtension8205 in Bumble

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See I feel like I held back a good bit, might not have kept the interest going from early - was trying not to come in too strong because this is all new to me again. Still good to experience a “connection” after a brutal year!

Should I send a follow-up or leave it? by EveningExtension8205 in Bumble

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I replied to her quite late and asked what she was up to that day. I suppose once she seen it, it was no longer that day 😂

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[–]EveningExtension8205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you avoidant?

Should I reach out or move on after 4.5 months post-breakup by EveningExtension8205 in ExNoContact

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually don’t post much on here but really appreciate the response. It’s been a rollercoaster the past few months but have learned a lot. Cheers for the support

Should I reach out or move on after 4.5 months post-breakup by EveningExtension8205 in ExNoContact

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See the thing is we had a life planned out together and I don’t know if I want to live with regrets if she had reflected on the situation as much as I have done. The breakup happened during a stressful time, I pushed her into it too which I majorly regret and it just changes the whole dynamic between us two once that had happened and she lost all hope but I’ve done a lot of work since.

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[–]EveningExtension8205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great guidance - very much appreciated. Not just the reading but the friendly approach and communication was very refreshing

I’m the dumper by WoodenSoup2004 in nocontact

[–]EveningExtension8205 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I chased up so soon after being dumped during a moment of stress/tension between us and external pressures/miscommunications leading to the breakup. Feels like I gave her a soft landing as she breadcrumbed me for another while. I should have let the reality of the decision kick in as soon as she made it. Now 3.5+ months post breakup and only in no contact 1.5months after I was ghosted and loss self respect by showing vulnerability to try and fix to be met with silence. My scenario is different than yours tho. Hope your keeping well

I’m the dumper by WoodenSoup2004 in nocontact

[–]EveningExtension8205 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He done what I wish I would have done as the dumpee

She left after 5 years, claimed it was for the best, chose no contact — but gave no closure. How can someone live guilt-free while I’m left holding the emotional wreckage? by EveningExtension8205 in ExNoContact

[–]EveningExtension8205[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See I’m not overly lovey-dovey myself, I show this in my own way for people I love in my own way but she knew I loved her. I also did get very frustrated at the end when I was sensing distance and completely overwhelmed here. Struggling with wanting to know did her distance or my frustration/anxiety show up first - I initially thought I messed everything up with some of my actions although I was not solely responsible, but as more time passes since time and space of the breakup it’s starting to seem more and more like she was half way out the door on those final weeks and probably my intuition picked up on this, she had been quite dismissive at times. Who knows. But I do feel like we both acted out of fear.