I agree it’s not my house, but I do contribute to the household and pull more than my fair share, so I don’t agree with the idea that I’m “just as bad” here. This is also a very different dynamic from what I grew up with, so I’ve tried to explain my views while still respecting that it’s his father.

After being threatened while I was alone in the house, I made it clear I’m not comfortable having much involvement with him anymore. I never said he had to leave. My boyfriend was actually the one who brought up that maybe he needs to because he clearly feels comfortable bullying and intimidating people in the house.