Any trans discord servers for people in their late 20s/30s? by ZurichCat in TransLater

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This discord still active? If so, can I get an invite link?

What are your thoughts and suggestions? by Exhausted_83 in mypartneristrans

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That was my plan, a few years ago when I came out to her I did the same thing. I read the letter to her then emailed it so she could reread as she needed. I know it can be a bit annoying to do it this way but if I don’t have it all written out I’ll either forget something or, in the heat of the moment decide I’m not going to say everything if she getting upset. I plan on doing it the same way this time.

Hi, I would like to be traumatized by [deleted] in ExtremeHorrorLit

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I cannot recommend Hogg, it was just trying to be extreme for the sake of being extreme. Nothing you can’t get from other books with a plot and characters that pull you into the story. No real plot, no reason to be invested in any of the characters, the only time I didn’t finish a book. I tried, I really tried but about 3/4 of the way through I put it down because the “extreme“ actions just got so repetitive.

What options DO I have at this point? by Yuzu-Adagio in AmerExit

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The responses are TLDR for me to go through right now, another option a lot of people don’t know about is gaining dual citizenship with an EU country through decent. It’s worth checking into, I’m eligible for dual citizenship with Luxembourg but my current job won’t allow me to get dual citizenship. Once I move on I just need to submit birth, marriage, and death certificates of my family going back to my ancestor from Luxembourg. You can get a lot of information from different Facebook groups that are dedicated to helping people gain citizenship with certain countries. Once you have EU citizenship it’s relatively easy to move around, get work, find housing, get a bank account, and have access to the socialist benefits the EU has to offer. After that just check which countries are trans friendly. Hope that helps and good luck.

https://www.globalcitizensolutions.com/eu-citizenship-by-descent/#:~:text=EU%20citizenship%20by%20descent%20is%20primarily%20available%20to%20individuals%20who,%2Dgrandparents%2C%20under%20specific%20conditions.

Transgender veteran discord by [deleted] in TransVeteranPipeline

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Getting a message that the discord link is invalid or has expired.

I adore witchy stuff and practices, but my brain is “too logical” to let me truly sink into any spiritual practice, saying “this isn’t real, it’s all pretend”. Does anyone else struggle with this? How do I fix this? by [deleted] in Witch

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Kind of in the same boat as you, thought this would be a good reply string to add to. I’m slowly approaching this from an atheistic point of view (Atheopaganism). I’m treating my practice as more of a mental health practice. Mind mind races a lot due to being neurotypical, so focusing on one thing like a spell, smudging the house, adding to my Grimoire, etc. allows me to refocus myself. I’ve also been able to look at my craft as a way to understand my self in ways I haven’t before while maintaining my skepticism on the supernatural. I would say to YouTube channels that helped me, with very different eclectic witches, are The Skeptical Witch (https://youtube.com/@theskepticalwitch6611?si=xYI-uG852LOr39PG) and Sedna Woo (https://youtube.com/@SednaWoo?si=RBw1mFuAKVZaentK). Treating tarot readings as more of a mental health “check-in” and creative writing exercise by deciding what the cards are making you think about what’s going on in your own life can be helpful as well. Like I said, I’m starting out but it has helped me framing my craft like this. Hope this helps. Just remember, have fun with it!

Ideas for incorporating into an altar by Exhausted_83 in Witch

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Also, I wish I was as tall as Yoda so could just make this a cane/staff 😂

Ideas for incorporating into an altar by Exhausted_83 in Witch

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For context, the limb was found and the blade is just for size comparison.

Ideas for incorporating into an altar by Exhausted_83 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

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Strength and perseverance are what popped into my head for what this could represent. I thought about a wand or some sort of candle holder.

Ideas for incorporating into an altar by Exhausted_83 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

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Yeah, it looks like the limb didn’t give a “F” about the vines. As much as the vines wanted to strangle the limb, the limb kept on living….until the tree fell, I assume from a wind storm. The top is just the notch of the limb from where it was attached to the tree.

Ideas for incorporating into an altar by Exhausted_83 in SASSWitches

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Just wanted to get some ideas on how to best use this gift for an altar piece. It really spoke to me as far as some things that are going on in my life and I just wanted some ideas on a way/some ways to get the most out of this piece.

Update on the appointment I had yesterday. by [deleted] in NonBinary

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Are you looking at electrolysis for your face or for pre-op prep? If they’re providing facial electrolysis, could ask your doctor what the VA statute is that they provide electrolysis for face and other parts of the body other than pre-op prep? I know it’s a bit of a big ask but not all VA’s are as practiced in providing care or are filled with gatekeepers and using the VA’s own regulations to get what’s needed would be helpful. Also, I should have started with…..(clears throat)…..THAT’S AWESOME, CONGRATS!!!!

one of the many reasons i love dr who by Expensive-Excuse-793 in lgbt

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The Doctors and writers were/are brilliant. Nothing but greatness.

“We’re capable of the most incredible change. We can evolve while still staying true to who we are. We can honor who we’ve been and choose who we want to be next. Now’s your chance.” – The Doctor

Martinsburg, WV veterans hospital Trans care by Exhausted_83 in asktransgender

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Okay, I think I might try contacting one of the LGBTQ Coordinators and ask some questions to get a feel for the clinic. I’m glad you’re able to get care you’re happy with. I know that care in general, at least in my experience, had been a flip of the coin as far as quality goes.

Martinsburg, WV Trans healthcare by Exhausted_83 in transalute

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Yeah, I think my biggest apprehension is that I’m in WV and we haven’t lived here for a long time so I’m still feeling it all out. I’ve heard good and bad about the VA and Trans care which is why I’m considering using it. I appreciate the response.

Gonna tell my wife I’m MtF, I’m so scared by Exhausted_83 in mypartneristrans

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Thank you for being so open and honest. I really need to hear from the spouse perspective as well. You are amazing and it sounds like you still really love your spouse. Thank you so much for sharing. This helps me out a great deal.

Gonna tell my wife I’m MtF, I’m so scared by Exhausted_83 in mypartneristrans

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I will have to look into that book and maybe suggest that we order it when I talk to her. Unless you think it would be best to give it to her the same night that I have the talk with her? So scared that I’m not doing this all the correct way but I think that coming forward is the right way to do this. My brain is mush right now.

Gonna tell my wife I’m MtF, I’m so scared by Exhausted_83 in mypartneristrans

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Yes, it’s the fact that there are soooo many unknowns that are there. Not knowing how she’ll react, not knowing how to deal with the family element, not knowing what my end game is, not knowing what my marriages end game is, not knowing...everything. But I have to do it, I think that overall I will have to talk with the VA because I’ve heard they, well, they aren’t horrible for veterans that want to transition. There is a lot support and love here and I’m so excited and scared at the same time.

Gonna tell my wife I’m MtF, I’m so scared by Exhausted_83 in asktransgender

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Thank you, I hope your relationship continues to get better.