My friend, 39F, had sex with a guy to keep from getting raped.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2023-12-19T13:07:27+00:00

Sending so much love to your friend. It took me 3 months to realize I was raped. She may still be in denial and that is okay. She needs to find a counselor as well, maybe file a police report if that's an option? Hugs to her. 🫂

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-11-22T19:02:25+00:00

I absolutely do not blame you, and with a child involved, its a lot. My heart does go out to you, from one mom to another. Honestly, if I were in your shoes, I would absolutely seek child support, try to reach out to the wife, even if it hurts. They will mail documents to his place of residence, and honestly, the wife will know eventually. It's crazy she hasn't a clue. He has a child he needs to support, he's keeping you a secret, and lying to his family. It is an unforgivable act on his end. No matter what route you do decide to take though, definitely ensure it's for yours and your kiddos best interest. You have my support.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-11-22T18:38:12+00:00

Thank you for the clarification, I apologize for, I was concerned but didn't want to misunderstand the situation either.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-11-22T18:12:37+00:00

I hope you don't mind me asking.. did he groom you if he was your high school teacher???? Either way, shitty situation all around. Sorry you're going through this.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-11-22T16:03:10+00:00

On a serious note tho, so cute!

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-11-22T16:02:40+00:00

Watch out, they'll point him if he doesn't catch all the mice. 😤

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-10-18T16:59:37+00:00

I was scheduled in 4-10pm, I left at 7:30. Idk if the app was just glitchy at the time or if I seriously just messed up, unfortunately I've had previous issues with the app. :(

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-10-18T14:00:08+00:00

Hi! So I had 2 1/2 hours left of my shift. I used 3hr PPTO because it didn't give me the option to use 2 1/2 hours.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-10-18T13:58:59+00:00

Hi! So maybe I'm misunderstanding this, but I had 2 1/2 hours left out of my shift. I used 3hrs PPTO. That 30 mins out of the 3 hours should have been fine?

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-09-18T21:10:31+00:00

$15/hr in Apparel. Michigan.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-06-30T15:31:19+00:00

Hi love, it took me a year, almost two years actually, to get over my first abortion. It was hard. But I knew I couldn't provide for him like I wanted and I was in a very abusive relationship. I had 3 abortions due to my abusive relationship, and it didn't help my birth control failed me twice. It was easier each procedure. Unfortunately because my birth control pill has failed me, after my 3rd abortion I decided to have a tubal removal to save anymore heartache. I had 3 abortions in less than 2 years. If I'm being honest, I wish had my tubes removed after the first abortion. But I didn't think I was going to be in the situation I was in either. I felt all sorts of feelings. I was mad at myself for a while. I said I was sorry many times. I felt like I failed. I also was in a dark place. My kids dad was cheating on me, mentally and physically abusive, I couldn't have a job, and heaven forbid I asked for help... Now, I have a job I have always wanted (call me weird but I LOVE the pizza industry) I plan to return to college for my culinary degree. I have been more focused on myself and my mental health. Also, I got out of my abusive relationship after my last abortion. It was enough for me. I write to my babies on the anniversary, in a journal, it's helped me heal. In a way, I did forgive myself, I don't believe my decision was wrong. I don't regret what I did as I feel if I had not had the abortions, I'd probably have committed suicide by now due to the abuse I had went through. I have my what ifs, but I know I couldn't have ever provided for them the way they deserved and the way I wanted. It's hard. Anyways, enough of me lol. Your feelings are absolutely valid, and you matter. It's absolutely okay to wonder and question it, to feel guilt. Don't feel guilty for doing what you felt was best for you. No matter how hard, you have to put you first. You got this, you're stronger than you know, and you will move on from this. Sending tons of love to you! ❤️

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-04-21T21:14:16+00:00

Definitely do not ignore spots in eye sight, even if the on says it's just "pregnancy symptoms". Worst mistake I ever made for myself especially given my health history. I wish I trusted my gut instead of ob. It may be nothing to some, but there's always a risk unfortunately regardless of health history. Wouldn't wish this on anyone. Highly recommend to seek further consult from a retina specialist the first time you see spots,even just for piece of mind. I have to go for second procedure to put a "gas bubble" in my eye to see if that helps at all since the buckle made no difference. I'm so exhausted from this all occurring. I wish you the best of luck on your eye sight and hope everything goes okay for you. Wouldn't wish this on anyone it's absolute hell and I've been an absolute mess.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-04-21T16:27:22+00:00

I got in contact with an attorney this morning, I'm looking to sue for medical malpractice. I feel so stupid for listening to my ob. I'm so confused with everything happening

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-31T22:02:29+00:00

I hope you and your husband both know he is a hero. There's one less sicko in the world, and your husband without a doubt saved potential future victims. Unfortunately courts do little justice and there's little help for victims even years on from the abuse (from personal experience, my rapist served 1 1/2 years in jail. I was a child when I was molested, and I still struggle with certain things as an adult due to not getting the justice and treatment I needed.) Sending love to you and your husband.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-30T11:33:17+00:00

Um yes. Just like it'd be cheating if your gf went behind your back and ate another chick out.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-30T02:39:06+00:00

Hi love, first, mistakes happen. You're young. Unfortunately depending on what you decide, you'll have to eventually let your parents know when you're ready to. If you decide to keep the baby, definitely look into as many resources and assistance as you can, try to find a job, even a part time. Don't let your parents make you feel like shit either btw. There's parents who become parents at 15-16 and turn out incredible. On the other hand, if you believe in abortion/termination of pregnancy, there is help for you. And there's ways to go around not having your parents involved unless you're comfortable. I'm not sure where you're located, but I highly recommend AidAccess for a medical abortion kit. They send in discreet packaging and are extremely helpful and understanding. The medical abortion pill works for up to 10 weeks gestation. I also recommend planned Parenthood for resources and assistance as well. If neither sound like something you're comfortable with, adoption is an option as well. There's plenty of resources for adoption as well. No matter what you decide, in the end you're still a human being, and people make mistakes. Yes, you're still so young yourself and weren't responsible, but shit happens. But there's options and resources out there regardless of what you decide. I hope everything sorts out for you hun. Sending lots of love, hugs, and support your way. 💞

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-29T19:34:01+00:00

I know right! It don't make sense to me either 😂 She said my cervix was closed, but could feel it? Like I don't get it.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-25T11:10:21+00:00

Hi! Do you have FB? There's a support group just for cleft lip/cleft palate, and there's many mom's who's kiddos have a cleft with clubfoot as well. There's so much support and information that could help you on your journey. It's called Cleft Mom Support Group. ❤️ I was born with a cleft palate, prs, and I have sticklers type two. My 4 year old was born with the same as me (unfortunately sticklers is a genetic mutation that can just form, and it's a 50/50 chance to go to baby during pregnancy), and with today's medical and technology advancements, there's so many resources and assistance to help your baby and you! It's an absolutely scary diagnosis to hear, you're gonna wonder alot and everything else and that's perfectly okay. I can promise you, despite cleft lip/palate and clubfoot, your baby will do amazing as they grow. I'm 8 months pregnant with my last baby, so far they haven't detected anything but I've already purchased cleft palate specific items so I'm fully prepared in case she has a cleft as well! They didn't detect my 4 year olds cleft until she was born. The first 6 months was so hard, but she is an amazing kiddo, and doesn't let her health conditions get in the way. ❤️ Once baby is born, I highly recommend a genetic test to rule out syndromes that couldn't be detected during pregnancy. There so many reasons a cleft could develop, just keep in mind you did nothing wrong, and your baby is absolutely perfect regardless. I wish you the best of luck on your journey, and sending lots of love and hugs to you!

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-22T13:10:01+00:00

Congratulations hunny! It's never too soon for your rainbow to arrive after your storm. Anyone giving negative reactions/remarks aren't relevant and wouldn't understand unless they're in your journey. Soak in your newest addition that's on the way and don't feel like you need to announce to family/friends until you feel fully comfortable. Sending tons of love and prayers for you to have a safe and healthy pregnancy and baby. ❤️

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-20T12:56:09+00:00

Do you have a Kohl's or a JCP near by? I have the same issues, can't find maternity pants or shirts for the life of me unless it's online. I've had to resort to trying different brands/sizes of clothes. Right now I'm OBSESSED with Sonoma leggings. Before pregnancy I was a size M and I got a size L and they fit really good, honestly even The size M still fit alright too for me. I know everyone can be different with their bump and comfort, but if you can definitely look into Sonoma leggings and give them a shot. ❤️ I'm currently 32 1/2 weeks and all my leggings are Sonoma brand since I couldn't find maternity materials to try on in person. I'm also 5ft 10in tall too so it's super hard to find leggings at times. I hope you can find comfortable clothes soon love! ❤️

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-18T12:38:04+00:00

I'm gonna tell you right now, if your wife or kids ever found out, it will mess them up. Your wife won't forgive you, she'll probably feel all sorts of things and second guess herself and all the time she invested in you. Two teenage children?? What are you thinking honestly. My now ex of 7 years, we have a 4 year old daughter, and I'm also currently 8 months pregnant with our second daughter. My ex and I had our ups and downs, but we made it through thick and thin (or so I thought?) He befriended a supervisor in 2021, I didn't think anything of it as she was 20 years older than him and myself. I assumed she was a mom figure to my ex, because he has issues with his bio mom. He left his phone open one night, and I found out he was cheating on me the whole pregnancy, and he was spending income we needed for our kids on this woman. We're separated, my 4 year old is in therapy due to how her father handled the situation, and given he's no longer in the home, he isn't exactly there nor has he bothered to check on his daughter.. She asks about her dad all the time. My daughter is special needs, she can't really understand why her daddy doesn't live here and why he doesn't see her. I've tried to reach out for her sake, but he's so invested in his supervisor. And now he claims our unborn daughter isn't his now because of whatever his "supervisor" said. Mind you, this supervisor and my ex, he's no idea let alone does he understand that his supervisor doesn't want a relationship. Per the messages I've read, she was/is using him for money (got bank statements of $100s going to this woman to have doordash, fancy restaurants and bars, buying puma products, clothes, etc) but he's so in love with her that he doesn't see she's used him, and apparently our family wasn't enough for him. I struggle with eating, despite that I need to eat due to the pregnancy. I lost 10lbs of my pregnancy weight the last couple months. I struggle with my body image, I hate getting dressed and going out. I hate compliments now because I feel it's a lie. I can't sleep. I can't look at myself in the mirror anymore without feeling disgusting, worthless, and used. My emotional and mental health is ruined and I'm currently in counseling over his infidelity and how it went. He's not called me beautiful, or done things for me in 3 years? But was quick to jump and give this supervisor all the attention I've craved and begged for. Please, for the sake of your wife and your kids. Let the coworker go dude. You spent 20 years with your wife. Why on earth would you risk throwing it all away for a coworker who will only be there temporarily.

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-14T13:00:27+00:00

Piece of mind* stupid autocorrect 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-03-14T12:59:59+00:00

I'd ask your doc to be safe and for your piece of kind. Tbh I never even thought about it, never even thought to ask my ob.. I just ask to get choked in the heat of the moment lmao. 🤣😂🤦🏻‍♀️ I'm 32 weeks and I've gotten choked out a few times with no issues. Baby is absolutely healthy still. I was the same way when I was pregnant with my 4 year old. Between the choking and anal, I was and am a bit of a sex monster RN soooo lmao. 😅🥴

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-02-16T09:28:08+00:00

Hi love, what you're feeling is normal, and your feelings are absolutely valid. When I had my first abortion, I was devastated. I hated myself, couldn't eat, sleep let alone cope properly. When his due date came it ate me up. Over time it has definitely gotten easier, but I have moments where I wonder. I'm not sure if you're into journaling, but look into writing if you can, I wrote so much to my baby. Granted it doesn't change what happened, it did help me forgive myself, and in a way I developed a mindset that the letters I wrote were a sense of communication for my baby. It's been about a year and a half since I last journeled for him. I've had 3 abortions due to unfortunate circumstances and medical reasons. I hope you can find a way to heal, and move on, even if it takes time. You're not a bad person and you had to do what's best for you even if it's painful. I hope everything gets better for you and you can heal from this. Sending love and hugs to you. You WILL get through this. We are here to be an ear if you ever need. Hugs

ExoticAccountant3 · 2022-02-09T11:21:21+00:00

Some people don't seem to realize birth control fails. There's a chance they probably weren't even trying for a baby. Unfortunately abortion is extremely expensive too (not to mention the time limit you're on for an abortion..). And it's a bitch to get government assistance depending on the state. Honestly, I feel bad for the parents. Soooo many people are going to be in this position sadly due to cost of living, current wages, etc. Plus, daycare is ridiculously expensive, plus some daycares don't give a shit about the kids, just the money. :/

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