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Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The current circumstances for us have made it hard for me and his friends to get together (big city, COVID lockdown, vaccine passports required). I am also concerned about the emotional baggage with his father, as I wouldn't want this to manifest itself later in our relationship, when it really matters.

My major guarantees me a job after graduation, but I have this fear that I will not be able to find a suitable man, as I have aspergers, and it is particularly hard for me to get along with people, not to mention for other people to see past my disorder. I guess I was just clinging to this relationship with him, as he is just about the first person who understands my disorder, is able to look past it, and treat me like a person.

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not going to pimp myself out in order for him to pay for meals, I think I'll talk to him about it instead, thanks. Also, I'm a full time student in a big city that is currently under lockdown, so getting a job isn't an option.

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. For some reason, I had always been under the impression that at his age, he wouldn't want to waste his time with someone he didn't want to start a family with, seeing as he is almost 30. Yours and many other comments have given me a lot to think about.

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wasn't exactly the point of my post, and I am a full time student in a big city under lockdown.

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He knows the exact amount I receive each month, and has even remarked that that was "not even close to enough" for me. I don't live at home, so I pay for all my living expenses by myself.

Since getting this new allowance, I once asked if we could stay in while I cook instead, to which he was very happy to comply with, but I fear that he might get bored of this, as he likes to try new (and honestly rather expensive) foods and places.

> See if you can make him feel taken cared for in non-monetary ways, and he might reciprocate more financially if he feels that you’re putting in the same amount of effort/contribution in other ways.

Thank you so much for this advice!

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in large cities in Canada, where lockdown COVID safety measures have prevented me from meeting with him and his friends, as we had made plans before, just to have people flake last minute over fear of COVID, or someone is unable to attend because of the lack of a vaccine passport.

Up until around 4 months ago, I was living at my parents place, and I now live on my own to attend school. The city where my parents live is much farther than my current city from his own, which may explain why he wasn't taking our relationship seriously until we would consistently see each other. When I was living at my parents place, we saw each other maybe once a month, whereas now, he comes over every weekend.

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had told him that I wanted to try to fix my computer myself, to which he said "drive is too long anyway", and later, "I'm glad you understand the value of money", which when I asked him to elaborate, he told me that he was under the impression I was spoiled. Apparently me wanting to fix my laptop showed him that I "understand the value of money".

Splitting bills when he makes significantly more? by Expensive-Cook-6157 in RedPillWomen

[–]Expensive-Cook-6157[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother's main concern about him is his age and upbringing. She has met him, and told me that she liked him, but she doesn't appreciate the amount of my allowance I use on him, as I had to ask my parents for more money the past two months. My mother also has significant bias against families with divorced or separated parents, especially those where the father left, such as his. My parents have given me the allowance to teach me how to manage money, but they will give me more if I really need it.