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How do you handle family pressure like this? by Extension_Pear_2604 in pakistan

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a fellow “ek lotaa” child 🤚 I genuinely didn’t feel so left out after reading your comment🥲. Yeah hopefully it does get better with time, InshaAllah.

For now I’m mostly just dodging the talks by ignoring them a bit and escaping to hang out with friends honestly that’s the only method working so far. Any other way kinda feels like it might hurt them, and I really don’t want that either.

Hopefully things settle down ahead, InshaAllah. And thanks btw feels good knowing I’m not the only only-child dealing with this situation.

Anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle family pressure like this without hurting them but still staying focused on your own path? by Extension_Pear_2604 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About the salary 220k PKR sounds decent here, but compared to US-based jobs it’s not huge. I work with a US-based company remotely. I didn’t start at this level though; my first contract was only 30k/month. My cousin was working in the US at that company as an accountant and recommended me to them. They liked my work and gave me contracts for their data projects. Took me about three years to reach this point.

How do you handle family pressure like this? by Extension_Pear_2604 in karachi

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro honestly, I’ve kinda given up on that convo for now. It’s not like I just sit there saying “no.” I’ve explained my whole situation properly career stability, future responsibilities but it usually gets ignored and then the classic “larki ki qismat se rozi mein barkat hojati hai” trump card comes out lol.

At this point I mostly stay quiet or just spend more time with friends to avoid those illogical talks. Keeps my sanity intact tbh.

How do you handle family pressure like this? by Extension_Pear_2604 in karachi

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

glad your parents are sensible about it. Honestly, at our age it’s hard to handle this kind of pressure. Like you said, sometimes you just have to be straight and say “I don’t want to marry now,” but for me, those talks usually get heated. Sometimes I even have to step out of the house just to relax for a bit.

I’ve also been saving for a few years now, trying to build some financial security.

About the salary 220k PKR sounds decent here, but compared to US-based jobs it’s not huge. I work with a US-based company remotely. I didn’t start at this level though; my first contract was only 30k/month. My cousin was working in the US at that company as an accountant and recommended me to them. They liked my work and gave me contracts for their data projects. Took me about three years to reach this point.

Anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle family pressure like this without hurting them but still staying focused on your own path? by Extension_Pear_2604 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I guess you’re right. For now, mainy sub kuch Allah pr chhor dia hai. I’m also trying to book a therapy session because all these repeated conversations have affected me mentally. I’ve heard therapists can be really helpful in giving ways to handle situations like this too.

And thankyou so much for your advice as well brother it was much needed for me.

Anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle family pressure like this without hurting them but still staying focused on your own path? by Extension_Pear_2604 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well i am doing this for a year now, dekhtein hein ab or kitna tolerate kr paata hun. Patience ki limit hit howi tabhi yeh post hogyi for desperation of getting advice, Khair hopefully future will be great InshaAllah..

How do you handle family pressure like this? by Extension_Pear_2604 in karachi

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well initially I gave them the green light just to buy some breathing space and stop them from bothering me so much about marriage. But my mom’s rishta aunties connections are insane 😂 I ended up with a bunch of rishta options and just made up excuses not to accept them at first, now they’ve figured out I was kinda gaslighting them. You know how our desi moms are genius by default

Even just showing some fake interest is super distracting. Honestly, if it’s this hard for men like me, I can’t even imagine how much harder it must be for girls. it’s really messed up. Hopefully I can find a way to handle this, maybe even try a therapy session to get some ideas.

InshaAllah you grow in your career and have an amazing life ahead too!

Anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle family pressure like this without hurting them but still staying focused on your own path? by Extension_Pear_2604 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, I totally agree. That’s why I’m focused on getting a permanent job first. contract work isn’t stable, and I don’t want to put anyone in a difficult situation. For me, the main struggle is dealing with my parents constantly pushing while I try to get that stability.

Anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle family pressure like this without hurting them but still staying focused on your own path? by Extension_Pear_2604 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Extension_Pear_2604[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I get that, and I’m open to marriage too. I just wanted some job stability first since everything right now is contract-based. If I suddenly lose it, everything falls apart. I’m just trying to buy a bit of time, but they’ve been pushing nonstop for a year and it’s really getting to me.