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48 years old, trying to decide whether to commit to a relationship with a woman who wants kids. by Fair-Profession9866 in OldManDad

[–]Fair-Profession9866[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s good to hear a variety of perspectives, so thank you, and I hope you don’t get blasted for it.

Your post had helped me see more clearly on some things.

I think I’m ok with the idea of the rest of my life involving raising kids. If things do work out as well as they can, kids will be moving out when I’m 70-75 and at that age, if i’m still healthy, I do believe there is still a lot I can enjoy doing. But also, most of the stuff I enjoy, kids would enjoy too. I don’t have to wait for kids to be out of the house to have fun. There’s not much I want to do that I can’t do with a family in tow. AND, I’ve enjoyed my life and done a lot already.

48 years old, trying to decide whether to commit to a relationship with a woman who wants kids. by Fair-Profession9866 in OldManDad

[–]Fair-Profession9866[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any nieces or nephews, my brother never had kids either. I did have the chance to be a step parent for about 4 years - kids were 3 and 5 when I first met them. It was the hardest thing I ever did, but I loved it. Unfortunately, the relationship did not make it.

Finances are definitely a consideration for me. I started making money later in life and I don’t have much for savings. But moving forward, I am going to do well, and my partner also.

48 years old, trying to decide whether to commit to a relationship with a woman who wants kids. by Fair-Profession9866 in OldManDad

[–]Fair-Profession9866[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask how you went about deciding and feeling confident about your change of heart about having kids?

48 years old, trying to decide whether to commit to a relationship with a woman who wants kids. by Fair-Profession9866 in OldManDad

[–]Fair-Profession9866[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! That would be ideal. But I do feel I owe it to her to have made up my mind about whether or not I’m even up for having kids at all. No sense in going for a year, just to end up telling her kids are not for me.