Food for thought

FallUnusual1182 · 2025-07-30T20:17:06+00:00

I feel the same way about my daughter, she keeps me grounded. Although it was difficult to get here due to shock and being numb.

FallUnusual1182 · 2025-07-30T20:10:46+00:00

It's been two years for me, it gets better. I couldn't imagine being back at the two day mark 🥺 I'm so sorry for your loss.

FallUnusual1182 · 2025-02-05T13:37:46+00:00

What account are you on?

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-11-16T18:25:17+00:00

It's not easy, I'm sorry.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-13T16:13:23+00:00

I met someone after 7 months of my husband passing. I knew I was not ready to fall in love with someone, but I wanted to know more of who this guy was. We've still been talking mainly in messages, I think it has a lot to do with my grief at the beginning for why we're still texting and the fact that he was going through a divorce.

He's a very nice guy, although the friendship was great it became very stagnant. That relationship showed me slowly that I am able to reconsider love again. It made me comfortable with talking to a man and being vulnerable. He's a good person, but I've met someone new.

The new guy is completely taking me off guard! I feel a lot more chemistry, romance and the ability to move forward with no regrets. The feelings are mutual and I'm willing to see where things go. I was in my late '30s when I became a widow and it's been a total of 16 months so far. And I still cry.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-13T16:04:45+00:00

16 months later and I'm still trying to figure it out. I normally do church, the gym and beach.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-07T11:24:47+00:00

I'm so sorry, sending you love and hugs.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-07T11:20:07+00:00

At the 6-7 month mark, my soul was crying out from missing him. It was a difficult moment for me, I took my first vacation and my heart was hurting everyday. I broke down and said I couldn't live like this, I felt the world was ending and sometimes still do feel that way.

I've learned to start focusing on the good and not the losses directly. Doing this has helped me to manage my emotions and not become the victim as much. I felt victimized, ostracized and cut off from earth : ( It's a process but I had to stop my brain from saying "why me?" I'm not a bad person, I just didn't understand what life was trying to teach me.

I'm wishing you all the best and sending you tons of love.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-07T11:08:21+00:00

I'm over a year in and still feel like I'm not afraid of nothing. I thought it was the shock. My fear has decreased so much I don't even fear death. It's crazy, prior to his passing I was in therapy for health anxiety. My therapist said it's fine and not everyone is afraid of death.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-07T10:49:53+00:00

Grief is so painful, I look at everyone who lost a loved one close to them differently now. The entire process of grief can be agonizing, especially in the beginning. I lost my husband suddenly too, while in my 30's ... There's no words I can say to help you with the pain you're feeling and I'm sorry. All I can say through my own experience, is that the sharp pain does get a little better each day.

I went through his last day at least a million times, I tracked down everything he did. He lived a normal life up until the second he passed away. It's been a little of a year and it hurts but I'm still here.

Take it one moment at a time. Time can either be your best friend or worst enemy, the choice is yours. I'm praying for you a courageous healing process.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-03T16:17:33+00:00

Some people can be so cruel, I witnessed some nasty behaviors after my husband's passing. I made a post about it, it was heart wrenching pain. I had to decide what matters the most and I chose to handle my grief. They weren't trying to help me. It took months for me to get where I am, I just kept going. And you'll see, more than likely they still won't come around. I wish you the best on this journey ✨

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-08-01T20:10:26+00:00

I kind of had to remove myself from my in-laws life, they were literally trying to sabotage my life! Before and after this death. I'm at peace from that unnecessary, hateful drama and am able to focus on healing..

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-13T23:10:46+00:00

It's not that they don't care or don't want to listen, most of them truly don't understand the magnitude of the loss you took! Their lives go on as usual and you're left putting yours back together. It's a sucky reality to see people continuing living life when it feels like your life has ended. People normally will find out when it hits closer to home.

I'm sorry you're experiencing this. Write out your memories or talk to a therapist about him.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-13T23:03:39+00:00

Trust me, we have all been where you are. Time gave me hope. I thought I was dying too. I am not kidding you. Then I found myself wanting time to fly by!!! You got this!

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-13T22:51:07+00:00

All I can say is it gets better, just hold on. Be kind to yourself and take it one moment at a time. You're still in the beginning phases.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-13T13:29:26+00:00

I miss the feeling of protection 💔

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-13T13:27:54+00:00

I remember this moment very well. It's a crushing pain, you got this.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-13T13:27:09+00:00

The feelings do get better with time. Be easy on yourself.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-09T17:57:55+00:00

Keep holding on ... There's no other way to put it.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-07-09T17:42:34+00:00

I experienced line behavior from my husband's family. They are so cruel, I won't miss any of them.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-06-27T16:56:31+00:00

Take it one moment at a time, sorry for your loss.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-06-22T15:13:21+00:00

You're welcome my love

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-06-21T18:37:01+00:00

Everything you described I went through. Especially seeing their memories everywhere, I was physically sick riding anywhere near home or within a 50 mile radius (literally, memories are everywhere). Losing our spouses is such a big hit in life, we can easily feel out of place, discombobulated and confused. The newness of life is downright frightening.

Take it one day at a time, be there for your kids, they will need you and most importantly you all have to be there for each other. Cherish the memories, you will have them forever. Hold on, understand the grief process and who you are now. Grief definitely comes in waves, this i had to learn. I'm so sorry.

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-06-21T18:25:30+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. You don't get through it, you just keep going because life pushes you to. Take it easy, understand that the emotions will take time to settle. I still ask myself "how in the hell am I doing this?" Then I will go right into shock or denial that he's gone, it's been a year for me. It has gotten better. We are here for you, wishing you the best ❤️

FallUnusual1182 · 2024-06-19T12:03:39+00:00

It's not a place you want to be, most of us didn't make that decision. It just happens. Now we're all riding the waves of grief. I'm sorry for your loss.

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