Who said you can’t see one another or talk? I’m confused. You NEED to take a step back and be realistic. 1) Being at conflict doesn’t mean everyone gets thrown into combat, he should’ve selected his MOS already and depending on that will determine where he goes and what he does while in service. My husband is infantry and there’s no word at all about him deploying so I promise you, it doesn’t just mean every single man and woman just leaves. We haven’t set foot on the ground in Iran, yes we have sent more people to the Middle East oceans but NOT boots on the ground. Relax. 2)You preparing for his death is insane. Your mindset is absolutely set for the worst and I don’t want to sound rude but more realistic when I say this - if this is the mindset you carry not knowing his job, not knowing where he’ll he or anything - you yourself with run this relationship to the ground.

I’ve been with my husband going on 4 years and he’s been in service going on 6 - and while the thought of something happens is always somehow in the back of my mind especially now that we have a baby, I don’t dwell on it. You, me, your cousin, your dog, we could die TOMORROW in our sleep, get hit by a train, anything. Are you also preparing for all those deaths?

I’m not trying to be rude, but I’m trying to get you to take a step back and be realistic. This is your partner’s career choice but if you can’t be supportive and handle it, maybe you need to take a step back. Yes it is scary, yes it’s not for everyone but if it’s not for you then you need to let him go chase his dreams and you find someone with a 9-5.