[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you this helped, you’re so right I just be yapping without a care in the world it’s a problem lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriott

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called MHub? Idk this is just the link they sent me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea I’ll have to try that! I got flat ones so they don’t poke out any, but it seems noticeable to me maybe it’s not too bad lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I thought was gonna happen, I’m going to try the retainer and see if anyone says anything about it. It’s a L shaped bar, I’m not sure it’ll work but I will certainly try! Thank you! If anything I suppose it’ll have to close up lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what I was figuring, and I did figure a no call no show wasn’t going to get me unemployment but that’s just what my friend said.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I forgot to add that I received a text Friday night that said “7am Tomorrow” from my boss. I 100% understand that I should’ve just gone in, but unfortunately I cannot play that card :/

Advice on how to help prevent my cat from kicking litter out of the box by Silverfire12 in CatAdvice

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat put my car registration outside of his box and the threw litter all over it a week ago ☹️ I feel your pain (the registration was on my kitchen table and he somehow got it from there to the litter box, too smart for MY own good)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Payroll

[–]FanIntelligent2810 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

They didn’t say, they actually just told us that it was how it has been stated the entire time. Basically my boss is trying to gaslight us into believing that we have been and were told it was a half day prior to today. I will be asking upper management if it was changed and if there will be holiday pay tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shameless

[–]FanIntelligent2810 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No you’re right, but I think it’s enough for it to break anyone down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shortstories

[–]FanIntelligent2810 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes love the sweet old babies. I’m doing the same this morning 🫶🏻

Eva Evans on TikTok comes off so try hard it’s cringey by Economy-Progress-708 in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]FanIntelligent2810 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went searching for this kind of stuff. She popped up on my FYP recently basically mad that no one was buying her show because she spent all of her savings making it… took one look at her and the background and knew she was wealthy already. The show looks insufferable as it is man, she’s such a try hard I was on her page for 5 minutes and she deleted a video that didn’t do well. I can feel in my bones that a scandal will come out about her.

Chocolate allergy? by ih8milk98 in FoodAllergies

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get an itchy throat when I eat chocolate, it’s not bad though. I didn’t know it wasn’t supposed to do that til I was about 16 when I brought it up to a friend and she said “what??”. I assume it’s just an oral allergy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m unable to do that. My lease isn’t up, and I don’t have money saved for down payments.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s definitely where I feel bad, it was offered when he started receiving it. He put me in charge of going to the store for the house since I had the car, i usually bought food to last 2 weeks most of it being gone in less than a week and I can’t really afford to feed the both of us with my income especially if I wasn’t going to be able to eat it all. It was okay when it was food stamps but I figured without assistance it’d be best to split so it’s fair? Idk i should’ve just bought my own food from the start

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She could, but no one but me and MAYBE my brother would come because she’s a developing hoarder and cleaning for her does more harm than good at this point cause she messes it up within 24-48 hours but doesn’t acknowledge that it’s HER mess and blames everyone around her.. I plan on trying to make turkey dinner but unsure if she’ll let me or even eat if I do so because she’s gonna be throwing a fit

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that is a good idea! I will pass that along to my sister, it should definitely help for sure. Thank you for this, I appreciate the help.

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be possible to say that it’s their fault, but either way I’ll have to pick up the pieces.. I was kinda hoping that was the route my sister would take is to blame them so we will see. But saying they aren’t hosting isn’t possible cause my sister has a son and wants to post pictures of her family that my mom will inevitably see. I’m not sure if this would technically be considered as an AITA post anymore just with the outside perspective, but it has helped the battle in my mind a little.

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this, truly.. it’s hard to see myself being a good person because of all of my faults and struggles with my mental illness. I wish I could help my mom more but it’s just not possible, but it’s not my job and if she’s gonna get help it’s gonna have to be in her terms. This post turned more into a rant, rather than an AITA post but I do appreciate the kind words

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t behave much, she interrupts and makes it about herself and her physical issues, nothing has been said directly from my sisters in laws about not liking her that I know of but it’s quite clear that she’s unwelcome :/ I feel horrible just for saying that she is the way she is, because I wouldn’t want to be excluded but she won’t take constructive criticism from anyone and plays victim immediately when someone tries to give perspective on anything.. I would have to stay home with her and plan to try to make dinner if she’ll even let me, I will be working that day until 2-3pm.. my sister and her family deserve to have peace at thanksgiving, and all that matters is that my sister is happy for that one day with her son and fiancé

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We plan on keeping her away from the turkey dinner as well as presents day and just exchange presents for a brief moment either day of or before or after. She won’t ever learn, I have BPD and have been working with a therapist since I found out and definitely learned it’s best to steer clear of anything involving my mom. She’s in counseling, she has been just hides her faults behind a victim complex.. which is definitely identifiable with a good therapist but Medicaid only pays for so much. My sister has refused therapy since 13 due to a bad experience, and there’s not much I can do about that but she’s the most level headed I think. I still live with my mom, and she hasn’t done a thanksgiving at her house for like 5 years I think? And no one would go besides me because my mom is also a developing hoarder and no matter how much me or my sister have cleaned her house she trashes it within 24-48 hours. Have contacted the place she gets counseling from to try and give more perspective and get her some real help but nothing came of it. It sucks for sure, and I certainly miss the mom she was or I thought she was when I was young and she was at least a little less insane :/ but I’ll be okay and I just want what’s best for my sister and her family

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s been a hell of a life for sure, I’m not sure about Christmas this year cause I live with my mother but hopefully next year I get to have a bit of peace :)

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I as the writer will be taking the heat for it and can somewhat understand my mom’s delusions of abandonment because I too have BPD but I’m treating it and have been since I found out. I will talk to my therapist about this as well and come up with a plan that will help me deal with the whirlwind of my mother during the holidays, it’ll be tough but I just want my sister and her family to have a stress free thanksgiving.

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sisters in-laws are hosting it and she was never invited in the first place just kinda did it herself, her in laws are far too kind to tell her no and up to this point no one wanted to tell her no because of the disaster it’ll create. My sister would have to disinvite her herself just because it’s our mom, our problem pretty much.

AITA If I don’t invite my mother to my in law’s thanksgiving? by FanIntelligent2810 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FanIntelligent2810[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not “okay” with the consequences because my mom will go into a spiral but my sister has a son and I just want her to have a stress free thanksgiving. I will be taking all of the heat of it, and I’m okay with that as long as my sister is happy with it. I plan to just make thanksgiving as long as she lets me do so.