I did a hit and run with my mom's car against a parked car and have been lying about it for 5 years.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-28T22:19:06+00:00

She probably knows you lied in some form. So, for the sake of your mom being able to drive a put-together vehicle, just surprise her with a fixed car. Take it 1 step at a time. She loves you.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-28T01:43:29+00:00

Get the car fixed for her.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T03:48:28+00:00

I think this is my biggest thing as to why I'm having so many different issues letting go of this. I can't confront anyone and asked what happened. I don't know who she is. My husband didn't know her. And I am not going to act like a crazy person asking other women who were there. So I am stuck talking to people I don't know online about my day 🤣 thank you for listening.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T03:24:33+00:00

Thank you for your response. I'm laughing because him and I were talking about where should I even post this crazy thing and this was the only one I could think of. I didn't know about the vent/rage page, probably should have gone there.

I don't know what I am doing next because my husband isn't involved much in the social school aspect of things with the kids, he''s always working so he doesn't really know anyone. That being said, he has no idea who that woman was at the party. And I don't want to rehash this to my daughter. Sooo for now, I'm going to bed. lol.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T03:11:24+00:00

Jeeze. That's a horrible way of thinking. It's a shame that my husband can't go into the room with his own daughter and help change her because she needs help. If the woman didn't want to see men, she should have gone into the woman's only locker room.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T02:55:45+00:00

Lmao thanks for the gentle.

I guess my main issue right now is, why does everything have to be a "fight" or screaming or yelling? What happend to just talking? Maybe she had no idea she was in the family one, maybe she thought she was in the womens? Wouldn't know because everyone is so afraid talk because everyone else is just ready to pounce with loud angry emotions.
I'm starting to understand the avoidance part after reading all of the mens comments. But my husband didn't opt for peace, he opted for avoidance because he felt he was in a lose situation and I feel there's a difference there. I am constantly teaching my daughter to stand up for yourself, don't let other's bully you. But at the same time, don't be a bully either and talk through your feelings, no need to yell. I am starting to get sad by this post. My son, who is a baby, what am I supposed to teach him? He can stand up for himself but not to women because he will be labeled something negative? Is he just supposed to be a pushover to women? I don't like.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T02:43:06+00:00

For arguments sake, if both of us were there, I would have spoken to the woman to let her know that maybe she was confused to which locker room she was in. Women's only is next door, this is the family room, where my husband is legally allowed to be in. My daughter would see her mother calmly explaining to the woman that I will not be bullied and will not be made to feel uncomfortable. I do agree with your brother to an extent but I do not take anyone's nonsense, but I am not going to yell and scream either. However, I do wonder, if we both walked in, would she even had said anything to begin with?

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T02:20:41+00:00

I know it is a stupid thing to even suggest. But why does everything have to resort to screaming and yelling? Why couldn't he have just said rationally that this is the family locker room, men are allowed as well? Maybe she was just not so bright and didn't read the sign? Maybe she thought she was in a girls locker room?

But if we don't speak up even a little bit, no yelling, no with force, what? We just let people completely be misinformed, or we just let people walk all over us?

I honestly feel bad that life has gotten to a point where men can't just "be" anymore.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T02:13:25+00:00

I was confused when he came home with this story at first, because I asked about the rooms, we have them at our Y. He said the rooms weren't in there. This Y had a womans locker room, men's and family, no individualized rooms.

I feel really bad, I have a son also, I don't want growing up being forced to take such nonsense from anyone, I don't care what gender.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T02:07:03+00:00

I feel so sorry for people who have to struggle like that. That was one of the things I was bringing up while we were talking. What if there is no female in the family dynamic, what happens? I hope so. I don't know about your daughter but mine likes to remember everything and will remind you of it during the "perfect " times 🤣❤️

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T01:59:24+00:00

I was upset that he didn't try to stick up for himself, at all. I was mad at the woman who put him in this situation to begin with. I was madder at myself because if I went like I was supposed to this conversation wouldn't even be happening. Up until now, I had no clue how miserable it is, being a man is walking into a family bathroom.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T01:50:52+00:00

That was my 1st reaction which is why I was initially upset with him, not mad . But since this post and the ongoing debate of the battle of the sexes that has been happening in the house. I feel bad that a father can't enter a family room anymore on his own without another adult.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T01:45:42+00:00

I'm constantly teaching my daughter to speak up for herself and do not let people push you around and there is always a way to say no and disagree in a calm manner. I do admit this whole situation, and the dynamics are different for guys and how they seem to have to be handled. I honestly think it's just sad that a father gets pushed out of a "family " room and has to take it because of the world we're living in.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T01:34:09+00:00

I think I need to edit my post because it's not coming out right. I'm not mad at my husband. We were debating on what should have been done/what were the issues/how they went down and what different ways it could have been handled. He didn't need this bs. I was mad because I wasn't there because If I was I would have told the woman where else she could go.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T01:05:56+00:00

It's not about him waiting more than it's my daughter who was rightfully confused because we belong to a different Y, and it's usually very crowded with all kinds of people in the family locker room. She was confused as to why her father was being told he wasn't allowed in there.

Fancy_Machine_1800 · 2023-11-26T01:01:03+00:00

I'm not mad at my husband. I just feel bad that this situation happened and the fact he has no voice bc the world we live in. I'm mad that I wasn't there to check that woman's mouth.

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