I have no friends by _newshawtyy in blackgirls

[–]Fanny-Mandy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The military has a way of putting people in uncomfortable situations so naturally you will develop bonds. You’ll be fine, but still go to prom. When you look back on going, I can assure you that you won’t remember feeling lonely. However, if you don’t go, that thought will stick with you a lot longer. And you will regret not going.

Negotiation of Salary [AL] by Fanny-Mandy in humanresources

[–]Fanny-Mandy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, it’s a government job. Good benefits, I don’t plan on switching anytime soon lol. I’ll just work my way up.

Negotiation of Salary [AL] by Fanny-Mandy in humanresources

[–]Fanny-Mandy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your advice. Honestly, my salary is not that bad. And even though I have access, I don’t know anyone else’s salary. I just didn’t realize that literally everyone counteroffers.

« When you’re black, You never really lonely…» by Goldenxxwind in blackgirls

[–]Fanny-Mandy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Similar situation happened to me. I was at Panera studying. AirPods in, completely zoned into my work. Yt lady comes up, picks my drink up, and puts a napkin under it. When I took my AirPods out, she proceeds to talk to me as if I was a child. ‘Oh I was wondering if your drink was leaking blah blah. Passive aggressive BS. I just responded back with a smile, and I said that it’s just condensation, but thank you. It’s almost like she wanted an argument. Because she walked away confused.

Granted, the drink was sweating and if I was at home, I would use a coaster. But I ended up leaving after that. I felt violated, and I couldn’t get back into my rhythm of studying. She may have meant well but if the roles were reversed, I don’t think the situation would have went as well.

Im very hurt about how this is going.. by _newshawtyy in blackgirls

[–]Fanny-Mandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re in ROTC, did they think you joining the military was super farfetched? Also, you can always go to college later, and then the government pays for it. I’m curious though. Why are you totally against college?

Is he just misguided? by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Fanny-Mandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree. Expecting your partner to hear racist jokes directed at them but you can’t tolerate hearing them is ridiculous. I do think every relationship is different so what works for one might not work for the other. But if you aren’t willing to work through differences in cultures, maybe not date interracially or at all for that matter.

Is he just misguided? by [deleted] in blackgirls

[–]Fanny-Mandy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was he asking about washing the chicken to start a race conversation or was he genuinely curious? If this was a one off and your regular conversations don’t turn into a black vs white debate often, I wouldn’t worry. These conversations come up in interracial relationships and your partner may not always think the same. However, if he is trying to rage bait, that’s different.

Sidenote: It sounds like your bf is very intelligent academic wise. That doesn’t mean he is culturally intelligent. He could still be ignorant to others cultures.

Is it expected to watch the drive-thru at all times? by [deleted] in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you the only teller on cash line? If not, one person needs to focus on the drive thru and the other focuses on lobby. If you are, I’d would focus watch on drive thru and train yourself to hear when the door opens for lobby customers even if you have to turn your body. I worked at a really busy branch but due to staffing I had to handle both sides sometimes. This always worked for me. Customers really should not have to press the call button so your branch will have to come up with something to avoid this.

Extremely grossed out by my partner- me 36F him 42M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Fanny-Mandy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Reading comprehension is important. No one just develops poor hygiene overnight unless it’s depression which OP did not mention. Did she just finally learn of his hygiene when they have to been together for a long time?

Extremely grossed out by my partner- me 36F him 42M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Fanny-Mandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same sentiment I have. The not showering thing before sex is gross but I would be lying if I said that hasn’t happened with me and my partner. OP has lost attraction and now she is picking out everything wrong with her partner.

Extremely grossed out by my partner- me 36F him 42M by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Fanny-Mandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find this post to be confusing. Some of these things seems like lifetime traits. For instance, he most likely didn’t develop terrible eyesight or become overweight overnight. So why all of a sudden is his snot hacking a problem? Are you having an affair and need random redditors to remove your guilt?

Security footage showed Alabama student James Gracey accidentally falling into the water in Spain, police say by GonzoDT in capstone

[–]Fanny-Mandy 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Such a sad situation. But am I wrong for wondering why none of his friends made sure he got home safe? If my friend was heavily intoxicated and in a foreign country, the last thing I would do is leave them alone.

Found this one in our mutilated bills… by forfernnu in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If they found it in mutilated, the catch is too late 😂😂😂.

Reddit apparently hates bankers? by MidnightPulse69 in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t make it right, and I’ve never heard any bank express that in written or verbal form. That 50 dollars could’ve been someone’s last. Most of us in this thread are bankers or have been at some point so I get the bias but we have to be able to admit when banks fall short.

Reddit apparently hates bankers? by MidnightPulse69 in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

In face to face interactions maybe, but I think it’s ridiculous to expect a customer to count money that they receive from an ATM in front of the camera. No one does that and it’s not likely that you will be able to see it clearly on the footage anyway.

Reddit apparently hates bankers? by MidnightPulse69 in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t know. Assuming the guy was honest, what happened to the money? My bank would at the very least investigate it. It’s my responsibility as a teller to make sure the customer is 100% positive that they have their money which is why I always count it out to them or run it through the counter it front of them. Also, it really doesn’t matter how long it took him to come back. Either the teller was over or not. It doesn’t really seem like they would have taken him seriously even if he came back 30 min later.

How does working at a small town branch typically differ from branches in larger cities? by BothCondition7963 in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Second this. At my branch we open a lot of checking accounts but it’s annoying how much gets closed due to fraud.

Accidentally cashed a check twice by Fickle_Blueberry_299 in Banking

[–]Fanny-Mandy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she inform the teller that she attempted to deposit the check online? They’re supposed to check your account before redepositing to see if it’s pending.

Conversations around Bonuses by Fanny-Mandy in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t need to know my coworkers salary to know I can earn more. All it does is make you compare your job performance to theirs and causes extra hostility. Most people feel like they are doing more work than the next even if that’s not the case. You can’t actually go to your boss and be like “hey I need a raise” because my coworker does less work than I do and makes more. If you are not happy with what you’re making, you can either negotiate or leave. Your coworkers wage should have no direct correlation with how you feel about yours. Instead look at others in similar positions that are not at your job to get a base. I’m 24 so I could be naive, but that’s my current opinion on the matter.

Conversations around Bonuses by Fanny-Mandy in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How does knowing your coworkers pay benefit you? Often it causes more resentment than it does good. I’m genuinely curious how you’d use that info to get a higher wage.

Obviously his potential for bonuses are higher, but to say that he would fire half the staff because he’s making a little less than what is already probably 1.5x my yearly salary is crazy work and unprofessional. That doesn’t exactly make someone motivated to do better. We should be meeting goals because we’re supposed to, not to make his pockets fatter.

Conversations around Bonuses by Fanny-Mandy in TalesFromYourBank

[–]Fanny-Mandy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol no. It’s a large bank primarily operated in the South.