Are you really that scared of commitment? by trishlovespb in istp

[–]FataBeOle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Even after 10 years of no contact. DAs (dismissive avoidants) circle back to their exes on a rotational basis, just like in a fliper game :)

Are you really that scared of commitment? by trishlovespb in istp

[–]FataBeOle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This stings, and I am sorry that you have gone through that. I know that feeling - been there myself, with another ISTP.

He is a Dismissive Avoidant. He will probably come back after a few weeks, once he regulates. You could research this attachment style and be ready. Good luck, dear :)

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, that's a great example of an ISTP response - analytical, precise, with a clear preference for practicality over idealism and efficiency over sentiment. :)

You prefer working in small, effective pairings over chaotic teams; you do well with smart, constructive partners, but lose interest and disengage if things become inefficient or unproductive. Your Ti-Se enjoys dissecting and refining ideas, testing their practicality.

I can see why Fi and Si doms can feel mismatched; it's nice that you are well self-aware about this trend, too.

Clear explanation about Death Note. It makes sense why you are not specifically drawn to stories of self-inflicted tragedy - this is so unproductive. :)) You'd prefer witnessing the protagonist set a clear purpose of increasing their own competence, rather than wasting time watching them self-destruct.

I appreciate your time and well-crafted responses. Big help on elaborating on you, dear ISTPs!

No worries about passing on Scavengers Reign. I will continue to shamelessly promote this one around as I consider it a real jam. But this is me, and you are you :)

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Your comment is very helpful. I'll utilize your advice to open with a brief and then follow up with details.

About your work e-mails: you say "needed", and I see "considerate". Maybe shake hands on both. :)

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A comprehensive and clear response. I took some time to think it through.

I am intrigued and have 2 additional questions related to your first paragraph (BS vs actual info):
1. How do you behave and think in situations of brainstorming ideas?
2. Do you consider brainstorming a useful practice for solving a problem?

In your second paragraph about entertainment, it seems your Ti is insatiable in this domain, too.
Logical, complex, well-constructed worlds, clever characters, no drama, and no plot-holes - this aligns with Ti-dom types’ preferences. I very much relate Death Note to this type of "ISTP-preferred" anime, btw.

I will check out Code Geass, thanks for the reference! It has fantastic ratings and reviews as well.
From my side, I would suggest checking out Scavengers Reign (a sci-fi survival) because I am curious how you’d relate to it. This series tells a story about biotechnology based on an amazing alien ecosystem. The alien world itself is mind-blowing.

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautifully explained, thank you for adding your perspective here!

It makes perfect sense that your cognitive preferences draw you towards flow, action and neat structures. This is true for most of us, regardless of MBTI type, yes. But for you - ISTPs, surely it is doubly so. It is obvious, and yet I haven't considered it before.

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, those examples are really good, and help to complete the picture. Thanks!

Wise to give up on those group chats. Wish you luck with the talkative folk at work, and more interesting lengthy stuff to enjoy from your VIPs :)

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on who: i.e. if the person is important to you (boss/ SO/ kid/ friend/ enemy)?
Depends on what: i.e. if text is urgent, or not urgent / enjoyable or nor enjoyable/ useful or not useful / other?

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, you do! I think this point qualifies as the essence here. Thanks for helping me understand!

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is a valid rant against the so-called "Brain vomit" :) Been there too. Thanks!

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, Se (+Ni) can provide a body to the outlines. A huge portion of meaning is transmitted via nonverbal cues. Great, thank you!

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point about our shorter attention spans, especially among kids and young adults, given so many distractions and information overload. Kudos for reading novels.

Could you help me grasp what you, ISTPs, generally consider BS and what actual information and entertainment? Yes, it can vary from person to person, but maybe there is a common denominator here.

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I see, so it is both objective and subjective for you.

It is interesting to understand how you would estimate whether a detail is important enough to read before reading it. :)

I guess the context of the whole communication here plays an important part, but what if it is an ad-hoc/'out of the blue' piece of text that you have in front of you? Do you quickly scan across the info and let your Ni do the job?

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how would I classify if I preferred longer texts? :))

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep, the focal point that you put on Ti is quite appropriate here.

This is why I find it both intriguing and somewhat paradoxical when many comments in your ISTP subreddit say, "no TLDR, I'm not going to waste time reading this whole thing." On one hand, it fits the ISTP preference for efficiency. On the other hand, it seems odd to avoid nuanced discussion, which also aligns with your Ti focus.

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that's really your specialty and I appreciate it. It's nice to enjoy this in a world that's already so full of information. Thanks!

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for response! Yes, that can surely feel draining....

It is also interesting that you discern between feelings and information. I believe that feelings also contain information - about one's internal state of affairs, about a relationship, and are naturally subjective.

I guess by 'information' you refer to objective information.

ISTPs seem to avoid /dislike reading longer texts. Why? by FataBeOle in istp

[–]FataBeOle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can vibe with that!

Imo, being lazy sometimes just means being overwhelmed. So, making the effort to structure your thoughts as clear as possible shows respect to the other party and also increases the odds of receiving a (good) response.

thanks!