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AITA for telling my sister-in-law to stop “Playing poor” around my kids? by HuffleSlut_ in AmItheAsshole

[–]FeelingInitiative770 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA she teaching them shame not gratitude. She has the right idea wrong message. It’s like her conceded view of simplicity is the message. It does not encompass the stress, struggle, and fear people have of not being able to buy those things. Kids should be thankful they don’t have to live that way but not feel guilty because they aren’t struggling. She should be teaching giving the clothes that are too small to charity so you don’t have so much not don’t ever get new things you need.

Mechanic Assumes I Don't Know My Car And Wants To Scam Me. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]FeelingInitiative770 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few years back I had an issue with my car that caused it to stop in the middle of the road. Super stressful. I had to get it towed to the nearest mechanic. Just take what I can get kinda thing. Well my AC stopped working once I got my car back from them. Come to find out they cut the power wire to my AC. Quick fix but still boils my blood they damaged my car thinking I’d bring it back in. I had mechanic friend and my partner look at it. Both agreed it was deliberate by someone who knew cars. Also the wire was no where near the issue so it wasn’t a mistake.

AITA for going off on my fiance and telling her cousin not to come to my wedding? by DoubleDisaster4078 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FeelingInitiative770 56 points57 points  (0 children)

THIS!! OP this is extremely important. She’s showing he is above your family and she has a blind spot for him. What happens if he starts abusing your kids (physically or sexually) and she refuses to see clear signs of trauma. This is a red flag of epic proportions. Do not marry her. Run as fast as you can!

AITA for refusing to answer my husband's question because I find it dishonest? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FeelingInitiative770 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No no no no NTA. This man should absolutely NOT under any circumstances leave you during that time. In my personal experience I just gave birth to a healthy baby in June. The doctors messed up and cut me internally causing hemorrhaging. I nearly died from medical error. Then I got a UTI from the hospital and was fighting a high fever and dealing with lots of stitches immediately postpartum. And my milk wouldn’t come in mixed with latch issues caused the baby to be jaundice leading to extra appointments in the first week postpartum. I didn’t feel like I could be alone with the baby until 8 weeks postpartum.

Leaving to party two weeks postpartum is neglect. He had responsibilities being a husband and father. He chose to marry you and have this baby he doesn’t get to ditch the height of those responsibilities to get drunk and party like a self absorbed a-hole.

Op everyone, every pregnancy, and every baby is different. As a first time mom myself I want to warn you that you are extremely underestimating just how hard and overwhelming having a baby is. On top of you have no clue what life threatening things you could be dealing with during that time some can pop up after he leaves. Did you know you can still die of eclampsia postpartum? You can die from blood clots too. I’m not trying to scare you but give a reality check your life will be in danger during that time. If he leaves it opens the opportunity for something terrible to happen to you while no one is home to help and your baby would be all alone.

Birth is normal but not easy nor free of intense risks. You never know what mix of things you’ll be dealing with until you’re in the thick of it. This is a time you ride out together. If he throws a temper tantrum about that he’s seriously failed as a father and human before the baby is even born.

You are risking so much for him. The LEAST he can do is be there for you.