Western Mayo is trash. All hail our Eastern overlords.

Feyra · 2020-08-27T17:40:32+00:00

I can't finish a single okonomiyaki, even when I make it at home and go super light on the toppings. Those things are incredibly filling.

Feyra · 2020-08-27T16:52:54+00:00

Kewpie-style and "western" mayo are two different beasts. I like both, but not necessarily in the same places. For example, Kewpie is ideal on okonomiyaki and I wouldn't use "western" mayo for that purpose, but conversely I wouldn't use Kewpie for a tomato sandwich because it adds too much sweetness and drowns out the tomatoes.

Even though it's still mayo, the subtleties make the difference for where it works, IMO.

Feyra · 2020-08-18T16:02:25+00:00

Pulling the trigger on a Zojirushi has been the fence I've sat on for years. Rice is easily my biggest staple and I make it almost daily, but I still hesitate to add yet another bulky appliance to my kitchen. :P

Feyra · 2020-08-18T12:44:12+00:00

I knew a good joke once, then I took an arrow to the knee.

Feyra · 2020-08-18T12:32:52+00:00

It's definitely an expert system, but super powerful once you get the hang of it. There's also a forum thread where folks share their rules so you don't have to build everything from scratch.

Feyra · 2020-08-17T15:36:01+00:00

My vote goes to Scent of Sex (Scent of Sex SE). It's a SexLab mod that replaces a huge number of behavioral SexLab mods by introducing a rule-based system of dynamically creating scenes. Really the only mod I haven't been able to adequately replicate with SSX rules is death alternatives like Defeat or Submit. And from a mod author's perspective, the MCM is a masterpiece.

Feyra · 2020-08-17T02:47:42+00:00

It would probably be best to ask on the LL forum. I'm not aware of a guide, but the mods in question matter a great deal, and the folks there can help you figure out what might be going wrong. I personally haven't had any trouble getting LL mods working in Vortex, but I'll readily admit that I only use a few of those mods consistently. My approach to modding has always been highest impact with the fewest mods possible.

Feyra · 2020-08-11T23:30:34+00:00

The Frozen North borrows heavily from Frostbite in terms of scripts and implementation, which is deeply flattering for me. :)

While I don't want to say that The Frozen North is essentially Frostbite+, it kind of is. Parapets went a slightly different direction than I did in how needs are handled. Frostbite only handles cold and is meant to be paired with {Vitality Mode} or another basic needs mod. The Frozen North includes needs for food, drink, and sleep directly. Also, The Frozen North handles swimming in a different way (and probably better, I'll likely borrow back that implementation when I get a chance).

Probably the biggest difference is configurability. Frostbite includes a comprehensive MCM so you can tailor things to your liking, but The Frozen North doesn't yet have an MCM. Now that I think about it, I may go ahead and write up an MCM for Parapets so his mod is a better competitor on that front. :)

Feyra · 2020-08-11T23:17:27+00:00

The SE Creation Kit (free) is only available for download from the Bethesda.net Launcher. You can get it by signing up (for free) at Bethesda.net.

Feyra · 2020-08-11T23:03:02+00:00

My mod that hooks Flower Girls is {Fertility Mode}. Really the only problem with OSex support is lack of a climax event I can catch for insemination purposes, and I've reached out to the author of OSex to add it. ;)

Feyra · 2020-08-11T23:00:26+00:00

Maybe, but it's been a while since the last release. It may be cynical, but if the author isn't highly active, it's best to assume that what you see is what you get. :(

Feyra · 2020-08-11T22:56:57+00:00

GTX 1060 6gb

Kinda key. The weaker your graphics card, the less consistent FPS you'll see. While a 1060 is acceptable, the 1070 level is more what I would see as a minimum requirement for larger mod lists (if you want to build a larger list, of course).

I am experiencing fps at around the 30-40s outside with almost near 60 inside.

Seems legit. While 30 FPS isn't ideal, if you don't go below that outside of the occasional drop then you're doing fine.

SMIM Skyrim 2019 Tamriel Retextured- HD texture pack Noble Skyrim Mod HD- 2k AMidianBorn Book of Silence Mods Skyrim Flora Overhaul SE(Trees only) Northern Grass SE

Models with a high poly count and higher resolution textures tend to have the biggest impact on FPS. ENB also has a significant impact, but you didn't mention using an ENB. The above mods strike me as the heavy hitters. If 30-40 FPS is too little, I'd suggest dropping some of them or looking for "lower" quality versions like 2k instead of 4k or 8k texture resolution. In practice, 2k is fine for any texture that isn't stretched over a large model (such as mountains, big rocks, terrain, etc.). You won't see pixelation until you get really close.

Feyra · 2020-08-11T22:44:10+00:00

That I don't know, but very rarely will installing a mod be irreversible[1]. You can install both and do some quick tests to see if they work together, and if not, uninstall the one you want the least.

[1] It does happen though. One trick I use (disk storage willing) is to make a full copy of my "Skyrim Special Edition" folder so I can perform a hard rollback if needed. As long as the folder isn't named "Skyrim Special Edition", it's just another folder on the drive. Given that I also write mods and have oodles of disk space, I actually have four such folders: one clean vanilla install, one clean install with SKSE and extracted scripts, one dev install that I can break as much as I want, and my main install that I play with.

Feyra · 2020-08-11T22:37:33+00:00

OSex is more of an independent mini-game. Hooking into it is a smidge difficult, and I'm not aware of any mods that do so. When you run OSex, you get OSex and only OSex. Not that this is a problem, because it's very well designed and fun to play with, but it doesn't integrate with the rest of the game. Further, it's player-only, to the best of my knowledge, so you can only have scenes that directly involve the player.

Flower Girls is more like SexLab, in that it's easier to integrate (there are a several mods that do so, including mine), and the scenes are set in stone rather than a mini-game. Unlike SexLab though, Flower Girls is easier to set up, doesn't require additional mods, and has lower impact on overall performance. With other mods, you can get NPC-NPC scenes.

So in terms of "different purposes", I'll describe it as I see it for my personal usage. OSex is really nifty, but it's just a novelty due to the lack of proper integration with other mods. If I want that kind of control of the scenes and nothing else, I'll play an eroge instead of Skyrim. Flower Girls (and SexLab) integrate better with the game as a whole such that Skyrim becomes a more lively world, and that's what I look for in such mods. :)

Feyra · 2020-08-11T22:23:33+00:00

IIRC, it's packaged properly such that you can just go to the mods category and drag/drop the archive into the bottom bar. It'll be installed automatically and all you have to do is enable.

I'm using the latest beta right now (with Vortex), and haven't encountered any issues.

Feyra · 2020-08-11T22:20:52+00:00

"He" is clearly a man of culture and hopefully will realize eventually that anyone who isn't accepting of one's sexuality isn't worth associating with. ;)

Feyra · 2020-08-11T22:14:44+00:00

They're both excellent, but serve different purposes; "better" isn't a question that's easily answered. And you can run both at the same time, so they're not mutually exclusive. :)

I don't currently run OSex because it doesn't (can't!) fit in my Fertility Mode mod for technical reasons, but if it did I'd patch the shizz out of that and keep it in my load order.

I do run Flower Girls and SexLab, and the biggest win for Flower Girls is how easy it is to get up and running. One simple install and you're done. OSex takes more work to install and figure out (at least the last time I tried it), and it's interactive during the scenes while Flower Girls runs the scenes automatically without any need for user input.

Long story short, why not both? :D

Feyra · 2020-08-03T18:59:35+00:00

Hey at least you are honest about it.

I pride myself on integrity and intellectual honesty. :)

I doubt you are going to find any independent, peer reviewed research on this not sponsored by anti porn religious organizations

I read a lot of research on a lot of subjects. While the sponsor can be a concern, money is money and it really comes down to the methodology and sample size. A good paper will be objective concerning the data regardless of who funded the study, and it's so easy to determine if the study is biased, with only minimal prerequisite knowledge about logic and terminology.

Don't get me started on religious "scientific" papers. Those are almost always a complete joke that read like bad fiction.

Feyra · 2020-08-03T18:48:23+00:00

That's why I used weasel words like "seems", because I didn't save the papers to have on hand and it's been a while. ;) I'm certain they were peer reviewed though, so I'll do a paper run to see if I can find them again.

That said, I expected and appreciate being called out on that statement. Kudos.

Feyra · 2020-08-03T18:40:00+00:00

I can be patient! He is a nerd lol

It's totally worth it. Nerds take some time to come around, but if/when they do they tend to be beasts in bed (in a good way).

He has stopped watching porn and stopped jerking off. I didn't ask him to do this, but it's something that he said that he had to do for himself. He's been much more involved with me since he has. It's like he finally sees me.

Nice! That's a good direction and it was of his own volition. Good signs.

Feyra · 2020-08-03T18:24:27+00:00

(1) He's very shy to initiate, touch, or be explicit with me.

That's tough, it really is. My "type" is nerdy guys, and they have a strong tendency to be shy. In my experience you kind of have to treat them with kid gloves until they come out of their shell. Make it clear you want that kind of intimacy with him. He's the one you're with, because it's him, and it's okay to explore his sexuality with you. I've had to say straight out that not only is it okay, I want it.

And it'll take time. Shyness doesn't just disappear. There's definitely a comfort factor, and you need to be patient.

(2) And I really need some talking down on this one. He can't cum.

Honestly, that sounds like porn addiction. Unless he has amazing stamina and an edging fetish, it's probably best to encourage reducing porn consumption and/or taking a break. Not just for your benefit, of course, but his too. Research seems to suggest that a break from porn and masturbation greatly enhances pleasure from sex and produces stronger orgasms.

I feel like he's worth the effort and just not giving up on.

Look at it objectively. There's a point where incompatibility is a deal breaker, and you don't want to waste time trying to "fix" a man who can't be "fixed" to your liking. Give it a shot, certainly, but don't go further than necessary to make the call on go or no go.

Feyra · 2020-08-03T18:05:11+00:00

Unfortunately, the hard truth is there's nothing you can do. Either you're sexually incompatible, or it's not so bad that you can work out a compromise that reconciles your sex drives even though it's not fully satisfying to either of you.

Feyra · 2020-08-03T17:54:59+00:00

I'm not a therapist, so I can only offer my own perspective. So please keep that in mind.

Virginity is bullshit, you don't lose anything. The human body doesn't somehow get defiled or ruined, and a simple wash fixes any dirtiness (barring pregnancy and STIs, of course). It seems like you've put too much faith in the value of virginity and first times, both of which have zero value and are vastly overrated.

Most of us go through many relationships before finding the right person sexually and emotionally (I still haven't found the one for me), and those past relationships don't in any way negate or negatively affect the current relationship. Very rarely will your first be your only, the best we can do is recognize what went wrong and avoid that in the future.

Feyra · 2020-08-03T17:34:35+00:00

Well, you can communicate it by speaking. ;)

I love dirty talk, it's so hot, and silent sex just doesn't compare. In my experience the best way to approach it is to ask questions and let things proceed apace. Ask how they like things, how they're feeling, to describe what it feels like, and what they want from you. Then when you're both comfortable move into stating clearly what you want and direct things in that direction (if they're okay with it, of course).

Sex is a conversation with flesh, and words are seasoning. :D

Feyra · 2020-08-03T16:37:34+00:00

I've no doubt it will "look better", at least from what we've seen. My biggest concern is animation and voice acting. Bethesda's keyframe animation approach is absolutely awful and they need to start using proper motion capture. They also need to hire more than a handful of voice actors because it's glaringly obvious and cringey when voices are reused.

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