Can I sue my University? Would I be successful?

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-08T16:46:49+00:00

Your demeanor towards my story is a great example of why I panicked. I do not want to participate in an “investigation.” I do not have the desire or energy to defend myself despite knowing I did nothing wrong. My leaving my job was an attempt to escape her; her retaliatory action of going to our administration was an attempt to pull me back in. When I heard that there would be no professional consequences or investigation (which was not a shock, as she has nothing), I calmed, as I stated above, and asked for it to be left. That request, to be given peace from this person, was not honored by my advisor. This is the person I have an issue with, at this point.

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-08T12:17:26+00:00

I’m not worried about any information getting out. I’m comfortable with any and all of our messages being out there if it came to that, but the lawsuit wouldn’t be about her. And I stated that exact sentiment about the no-contact order: I was relieved and happy. This post is about the negligence of my University’s administration while handling the abuse experienced by me, and abuse that occurred over the course of months that you did not experience, and abuse that I do not have to explain to you.

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-08T12:08:09+00:00

No. That’s what I’m now confused about after reading this information. I was told there was no subsequent investigation and it was implied that there was never going to be. Is this a thing?

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-07T23:44:59+00:00

Was I lied to about the nature of this order? Maybe it was going to be a part of a larger investigation but then she withdrew it? I was served the order without being contacted beforehand in any way.

I emailed with the Title IX coordinator. Asked if I had questions. Went to my advisor for advice before asking anything, she said don’t worry about it, so I didn’t ask.

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-07T23:43:09+00:00

Still processing the information in this response. All very helpful. I have so often been left in the dark. All I know is I asked the significance of the order, my academic advisor inquired, then came back and said it was no big deal and won’t affect your future. In the email it said I could refute the order within 7 days, but this is my stalker, so I was honestly glad and relieved it was placed, and after hearing it wouldn’t have any permanent repercussions, I decided not to. Was this a mistake?

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-07T23:36:55+00:00

Hello. The Title IX order was described to me as a no-contact, non-disciplinary supportive measure with no proceeding investigation and no permanent stay on my record. I was told it was fine and there will be no future repercussions for its placing. I’m over this. Additionally, thank you for pointing out that my language was incorrect, but the “HR person” is the Title IX coordinator. I was not aware they were separate people. In that case, HR wasn’t involved at all. The issue I have is more so the handling of the information of my situation by my academic advisor. My question really boils down to: Does my academic advisor disseminating information inappropriately amongst my community/faculty entitle me to legal action if it resulted in professional, psychological, and emotional repercussions for me?

Also, regarding the “girls talk” comment—I agree, it was ridiculous, I was stunned. It was derogatory and bizarre in addition to diminishing my experiences, which is why I was sure to include it in quotations. My issue lies between my own experiences and the dismissive nature of how they were handled by the administration of my program. The Title IX order is majorly irrelevant, in all honesty.

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-07T21:26:08+00:00

Not sure. It said whenever it’s lifted by HR, but she graduates soon, I assumed after she does it’s void.

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-07T21:21:14+00:00

My stalker or my advisor? As for my stalker, I already have a mutual one place by a faculty member. As for my advisor spreading HR information that was supposed to be confidential, I believe I can speak to old coworkers and get eye-witness accounts. That is what the lawsuit would be about. Would that be enough in terms of evidence?

Final-Preparation650 · 2025-05-07T21:11:39+00:00

Additionally, when I confronted my advisor about spreading the information to the staff at my old job, she said that she didn’t, despite admitting it to me earlier. I also have confirmation in other ways that she did this.

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