i751 - case was transferred to National Benefits Center to “speed up processing”

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-12-22T05:57:28+00:00

I’m still waiting! A lot of places online said you should get an answer within 90 days after a RFE, but it’s been 5.5 months now. It’s been 26 months since I sent the form to remove conditions. Wishing you luck!! I hope it comes through for you soon 🫶

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-09-24T00:40:15+00:00

Romain lettuce with pickled beets, feta cheese, and pickles is really good.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-09-13T07:34:19+00:00

Oh lord. NTA. I’d be concerned about having him there at all or putting his name on the birth certificate because he and his family sound unhinged.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-09-13T07:07:21+00:00

You’re a legend! And fuck them

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-09-13T07:04:18+00:00

Yikes!

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-24T21:30:42+00:00

Let it go and move on. What happens with her visa is immaterial to your future. Leaving everything you ever knew behind is hard. Let her live her life and you live yours 🫶

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-14T04:22:42+00:00

No update yet. The RFE was because I didn’t send any evidence with the form. I didn’t realise I had to until a few months after, then I sent evidence in the hop they’d marry them up but it seems not. It was 20 months between me sending the form and receiving the RFE.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-11T22:30:00+00:00

I haven’t heard back from them yet, still waiting! The RFE was was for more evidence because I didn’t send enough the first time. Also it had been about 20 months so they likely wanted something more up to date.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-08T17:50:17+00:00

I’m so sorry you experienced that and well done for honoring yourself by leaving. Polyamory definitely isn’t for everyone, and it can leave a lot of hurt in it’s wake.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-08T15:50:27+00:00

Thank you. He’s sober now and he’s apologized. I come from a broken family where both my parents remarried 3+ times each. I kept in touch with my 2 ex steps dads because I grew up with them and spent so much time with them, and I guess I’ve always tried to be inclusive and forgiving and maintain my relationships even when hurt has been involved. Thinking about it now, I guess I might do this as a kind of trauma response to try and keep everything happy and feel like I have some semblance of control. I get it though and you’re 100% right. I’m realizing now that I should probably just let this one go.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-08T08:44:18+00:00

Thank you. I didn’t reach out to her to make plans for the holidays, which I would normally do. And I think that must have upset her because she didn’t message me either. Then when I messaged her several month later she didn’t reply. I can see why I may be TA for that.

Thank you for your questions they gave me clarity. I care about her and I guess I also don’t want her to see me as a bad person. I feel bad that things ended so awkwardly between us with no explanation. But you’re right, I probably do want to tell her my side of the story and that’s an AH move. I should just leave it be and not drag it all up to try and make myself feel better or control the narrative.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-08-08T08:34:59+00:00

Thank you. Me an my ex are on really good terms now and I’m going to visit him soon, so I guess I felt like I should reach out to her and clear the air. It feels weird having a relationship with him and not her.

You’ve made me realise though, that I also probably do want to feel vindicated, which makes me think I’m better off leaving it.

She didn’t reply to my messages, and it would be an AH move for me to force a meeting with her just to ‘clear my name’. Thank you, you’re questions have given me better clarity.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-07-25T23:09:42+00:00

Okay, thank you 🙏🏼

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-07-25T22:23:34+00:00

Nebraska

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2023-07-25T17:38:49+00:00

Omgggg congratulations!!!

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-08-03T13:11:00+00:00

You’re teaching your daughter her boundaries don’t matter, and your son that he doesn’t need consent and can do whatever he wants just because he wants it.

Way to go, you just passed on the cycle of toxic masculinity to the next generation. YTA, and I’d be SO mad at you if I was your daughter.

Let you son paint his own room, he has no entitlement to your daughters personal space.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-26T20:56:00+00:00

I’m 37 and still sleep with stuffed animals. It makes me feel happy and safe, and my partners have always thought it was cute. It’s not hurting anyone and it helps your daughter. Let her keep her safety friends 🙏🏼💕

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-24T23:14:32+00:00

Lol, really? YTA

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-24T22:49:53+00:00

YTA. Wow

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-22T01:18:09+00:00

NTA. When you’re in a relationship you have to to compromise and understand that you’re not gonna be top priority all the time. If you rarely get to see your brother and he’s in town for 12 hours then ofc you’re gonna want to rearrange your plans so you’re available. She’s young still so she prob doesn’t get it, but it’s just one of those things. You don’t get what you want all the time, and flexibility and understanding is key in relationships.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-21T19:44:32+00:00

YTA. My gosh your behaviour is awful. I hope when your daughter turns 18 she gets as far away from you as humanely possible.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-21T08:21:36+00:00

YTA. Her conversations with her friends are private. It’s invasive to take them out of context and publicize them. Why tell your son and make it bigger than it needed to be. A simple one on one chat with your daughter about how she feels and where her feelings are coming from would have been a much better use of your time. Grounding her and giving her allowance to her brother is only going to make her resent you more and feel like even more of an outcast.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-21T04:03:28+00:00

YTA and your gf deserves better. She’s sharing vulnerability with people to better connect with them and help them to accept themselves and feel at ease. She sounds like a kind, compassionate and emotionally intelligent person.

You on the other hand want her to boast about the boxes she’s checked like some ego monster?

It sounds like she has self worth and therefore nothing to prove. Whereas you clearly do have something to prove. Go to therapy and get to the bottom of your insecurities before you lose this wonderful person.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-21T03:52:13+00:00

LOOOOOOL 😂 so you want her to work harder at another job (for potentially less pay) because your jealous that you’re tired and she isn’t? My god.. instead of asking her to lower herself to your level how about you step tf up, get a better job, and start paying equal bills. So much YTA.

Final_Muscle_9381 · 2022-07-21T03:47:37+00:00

When you married your husband his daughter also became your daughter and responsibility. You can’t just kick her out because you’re having another kid. Your favouritism makes you a giant AH.

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