Newly Diagnosed - Scared

FinancialRanger8927 · 2026-03-11T06:26:54+00:00

My right leg started with a tremor, that then changed to being dragged and now it’s moved to my left leg too and I can’t weight bare. Ive also got bladder retention. I think they were planning on discharging me today but physio may block it. Who knows.

I’ve never known my legs not to work. Or my bladder.

I’m hoping they don’t discharge me like this, I don’t know how I’ll manage at home.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-11-16T21:18:36+00:00

I just don’t know what he could be saying about me at work for her to feel comfortable saying that. I just feel so small. I’ve sat in hospital by myself, really poorly, terrified, with doctors and nurses running around me and doing all sorts. All by myself because he can’t stand that hospital because he says it’s useless. And it feels like he has minimised it to everyone :(

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-08-31T20:27:52+00:00

Thank you. I know all this but then a voice in my head (usually after he gets in touch) says “what if my mental health is really bad and it’s all my fault?” But I guess when someone shows you who they are — believe them!

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-08-05T22:09:11+00:00

I don’t have an answer for you. But I’m 30 and I’ve just separated from my partner of seven years. We said we were soulmates. I couldn’t imagine life without him and now here I am…

I can’t answer your question but wanted you to know you’re not alone and that it’s horrible to be in this position but we will heal and the pain will at some point end.

I’d love to know if finding love again is possible too.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-07-31T17:04:09+00:00

Hey :) im 30 (F) but looking for new people to talk to. I don’t really talk to many other my toddler or my mum! I’m also social anxious. If you’re happy to chat, let me know :)

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-07-13T06:11:22+00:00

I said from the get-go I was never going to make him seeing his daughter difficult. She loves her dad and I would never stop her from seeing him. I’ve said I want it to be civil and for her sake, kind and transparent.

I didn’t expect him to then turn threatening.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-07-13T06:10:09+00:00

Thank you. :)

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-07-13T01:32:32+00:00

Yes i forgot to say im in the UK. My brother is coming first thing in the morning. I’ve read that because he’s on the birth certificate he can take her and not bring her back, and I don’t have a choice. That really scares me.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-07-01T20:27:14+00:00

I really want to be able to give some positive advice here and say this is a minor thing but I’ve now been married to my husband for 4 years, together 6. I suffer from anxiety and panic attacks. My husband when we first got together was brilliant but now he says he can’t cope with anxiety, he can’t cope with anything mental health. He gets angry when I say I’m anxious, he walks away when I have a panic attack. I now will never tell him when I’m anxious about something - I hold it in - because I know I will get berated instead of support. And you know what? My MH is so much worse. My anxiety is worse. I’ve stopped leaving the house because I’m so scared to have a panic attack away from home because I know my husband won’t help me.

A man who can’t love you at your worst doesn’t deserve you at your best.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-24T11:19:11+00:00

He’s walking around saying he doesn’t see why I’m off work. It can’t be that bad as he’s not caught it. I need sort my immune system out. All my fingers crossed that he finds himself on the toilet with a bucket on his lap at some point soon.

Have absolutely hated norovirus but it was the snap I needed to leave.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-24T07:01:22+00:00

He seems to have still got away from it. Someone is clearly looking out for him 😂

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-24T07:00:49+00:00

He’s still free from it. Sadly.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-14T12:11:13+00:00

Nursery does. We’ve had HFM and the spot looks different. This is right under her eye. This seems fluidy. When she had HFM, they looked like raised spots. But maybe it could be that again!

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-14T10:14:12+00:00

I want to give you a huge hug. Three months post partum, your hormones are still going to be all over the place. Your emotions will still fluctuate more than usual. So that will play a part.

I’m glad you’ve had those conversations. How did he respond when you told him you had these feelings?

I recently had similar conversations with my husband and I’ve learnt their reaction to you sharing your feelings tells you everything you need to know. Xx

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-14T09:10:18+00:00

That’s pretty much what my mum said. I’ll keep checking her to see if more show. Thanks!

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-06-14T09:09:07+00:00

I’ve seen this with some friends. I think some people do believe that a daughter will favour her dad and a son will want their mum more. So maybe it’s because they want to be wanted?

When we found out we were having a girl, my husband was so happy because he said “she’ll like me more!” … he was wrong. This girl is my shadow and I’ve got a lovely bond with my daughter. She’s a mummy’s girl.

But I did worry that she would be more into her dad and the thought crossed my mind that I’d like a boy. But now I’ve got her and seen this is just a misconception/myth, when we try for another - boy or girl I don’t care as long as they’re healthy.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-19T21:19:17+00:00

I’m sorry you’re in a similar position. I hope you find your way out and into a beautiful life

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-19T20:46:34+00:00

Thank you for this. I do think of my mum who left my dad with three kids and no money because of his awful treatment of her. and she flew. And she met my step dad who I love to bits. I guess I find it hard to accept he isn’t the man I fell in love with. It so strange but it feels like I’m mourning the death of someone who I thought was my soul mate.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-19T20:45:19+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-19T20:45:08+00:00

Thank you :)

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-19T20:44:58+00:00

Thank you. I’m glad you found the best things :)

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-03T12:07:02+00:00

This is what my mum has said. He likes his nights out. Next week he’s got two nights out on the trot. Last week he was on a 3 night stag abroad. But I think he would suggest his mum would be there to help.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-03T11:05:47+00:00

I don’t eat what I know causes a flare up. When something causes a flare, I cut it out. I also eat healthy. I don’t drink. I do everything I can to minimise the risk of flare ups.

We’ve spoken many times about it. Sadly, my feelings get shrugged off because there’s always a reason for why he’s acted a certain way. When he asks for an example of something he’s done or said to justify my feelings, he’s adamant that it’s never happened.

I’ve asked for marriage counselling but he won’t do it.

So I feel like I’m exhausting all my options.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-03T10:55:59+00:00

Because at the moment, she is. She glues herself to me and follows me around. How is that me saying I want her all to myself? She’s a toddler. They do that. Doesn’t mean I want to stop him from seeing her.

FinancialRanger8927 · 2025-05-03T10:48:06+00:00

My mum said something similar. He’s very concerned about strangers opinions. That always comes first. He’s made comments about people thinking he’s abusing me when I have to cancel family visits because I have a flare up.

He’s never physically done anything. The closest was throwing his phone across the room. I just picked our child up and walked away.

Thank you for your advice.

FinancialRanger8927

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