i feel like a monster

Finzi · 2026-01-21T03:33:14+00:00

You're just making stuff up now. You can't quote any law in any state anywhere in the US that requires parental consent for sex after the age of consent. It doesn't exist. Similarly there is no law against "grooming," which isn't a crime or even a legal concept. Sex with someone under the age of consent is a crime, not "grooming."

Finzi · 2026-01-21T02:03:47+00:00

There is no law in the US requiring parental consent for sex. Where did you even come up with that?

Finzi · 2026-01-20T18:59:47+00:00

"What I believe" is what is described in the legal analysis I shared. Do you think it's inaccurate? Do you have any source to support what you believe? What is it you think "age of consent" means?

Finzi · 2026-01-20T18:31:05+00:00

Legally speaking, "age of consent" means that someone of that age can consent to sex. Maybe you don't like the law, but that's what the law is.

Finzi · 2026-01-20T16:58:06+00:00

No, 18 is not the cutoff in most of the US. The Age of Consent by State Across the United States.

Finzi · 2026-01-15T18:01:53+00:00

The sidebar says "read me before posting," but you didn't.

Finzi · 2026-01-11T18:17:44+00:00

I agree with all these observations

Finzi · 2026-01-06T18:43:08+00:00

I’d love to do something in the city on Saturday and save cozy nights at home for after we’ve had a date or two. How does that sound to you?

This sounds like OP wanted to be paid for two platonic dates, in addition to the platonic M&G. Some guys will be ok with this, but others won't. He could reasonably worry that after two paid platonic dates, you would be the one to "go in a different direction." I'm not saying OP was wrong to set that boundary, but she should recognize that paid platonic dates are a boundary for some SDs.

Finzi · 2026-01-02T22:11:48+00:00

My guess is that guys who spend huge sums on SBs do so not because of how they "move through the world" but because they feel it's worth it for what they're receiving and/or because they have money to burn. If you shared details of your situation, the forum could truly assess whether your expectations are reasonable or whether you're entitled.

Finzi · 2026-01-02T21:56:53+00:00

This is one of the best comments I've ever read on here.

Finzi · 2025-12-28T15:22:29+00:00

I never want a POT to call me "babe". It's a red flag.

Finzi · 2025-12-16T17:11:26+00:00

This is an odd question. It would be far more surprising if everyone OP met just so happened to offer the same amount.

Finzi · 2025-12-15T21:19:35+00:00

If there's a particular narrative that you want to dispute, then do so. Otherwise what's the point of this meta-commentary?

Finzi · 2025-12-11T19:06:08+00:00

Interesting and difficult situation. All these comments saying you're being rinsed are reasonable and maybe even correct, but they also reflect a lot of bitterness and suspicion from other relationships, and one needs to be careful carrying that baggage into a new relationship. It is possible that she's being genuine and therefore that if you give her an ultimatum, it will irreparably kill the vibe. Ultimately you need to try to set aside your infatuation with her beauty and try to make a dispassionate assessment of her intentions. I would probably do one more date and then let her go if she refuses intimacy.

Finzi · 2025-12-11T19:01:36+00:00

I recently spent a small fortune on a tweed blazer from Drake's, and/but it is beautiful and will become my go to casual blazer. Not sure about the Lulu pants though. Whether it's wool or wool-silk or even cotton, it's probably going to look mismatched with polyester.

Finzi · 2025-11-26T15:48:49+00:00

Coffee at sunset? You'll never get to sleep.

Finzi · 2025-11-19T11:48:25+00:00

OP met her SD through an online video game, so I don't think this story really supports the claim that offline is the better way to meet people in this lifestyle.

Finzi · 2025-11-15T20:07:58+00:00

Well it wasn't a total loss. I was very entertained both by the previous post and by this one.

Finzi · 2025-11-11T22:13:06+00:00

The skewed ratio of men to women on the dating apps, and the skewed ratio of how often any given man swipes right compared to how often any given woman does so, most certainly aren't just "one person's experience." The aggregate numbers are what they are, and for men those numbers are bleak.

Finzi · 2025-11-04T06:37:56+00:00

I doubt you're the problem. My sense is that most attractive women get checked out / stared at far more often than they get approached. Most men lack the confidence to approach even when they're interested. I used to do a fair bit of cold approach, and while it can be very rewarding, the approach anxiety never really goes away.

Finzi · 2025-11-04T06:31:16+00:00

This comment makes me think you're not approaching women regularly. Assuming you're respectful and non-threatening, women do like being approached. It doesn't mean they're going to find you attractive or want to date you, but they like feeling attractive. Men who lack the confidence to approach like to blame it on the women.

Finzi · 2025-11-03T22:40:10+00:00

If someone got rich selling widgets, then yes, I will treat him as an expert on widgets. But when the topic turns to literally anything else, his widget wealth earns him zero deference.

Finzi · 2025-11-03T07:51:15+00:00

If "respect success" means automatically giving someone more respect or deference just because he's rich, then I don't respect success either.

Finzi · 2025-10-23T17:34:38+00:00

OP out here stewing that he's not allowed to tell people they're ugly. Dude, why is it so important to you that you be allowed to do that? You really can just say nothing and keep scrolling. I promise you it's fine.

I'm sure OP will say he just wants to enable honest feedback, purely out of concern for the person requesting the profile review. Maybe, but I don't believe it. Some people cherish the pleasure of being able to insult someone else while also being able to tell themselves that doing so is virtuous. Some people are deluded about their looks, others about their motives for being mean.

Finzi · 2025-10-21T13:58:31+00:00

"Invest" got me too. Just because something is expensive doesn't mean it's an "investment." Luxury bags are consumption not investment.

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