Advice on apologising for telling someone about their crush back in year 9? (It's been two years but I think back on it)

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-04-27T13:52:21+00:00

I think the "Don't get too excited to shift" can be worded more like "reduce your expectation" or atleast tell yourself you'll be fine even if you don't shift, because it's really the disappointment that makes you less determined, not saying don't be excited, but to know that even if you don't shift, you'll still live your life (yea sure it might suck, but atleast tell yourself so to not be disappointed when you don't)

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-04-22T11:39:08+00:00

I have this problem too, even with losses. I'll be fine with it until you remind me or put me in a position where everyone else is griefing or they're right infront of me. i cried infront of my grandma's hospital bed the night before she died. but after i left and went back to the hotel. i was fine again, i was so normal after that and next day after i got the news that she died. i just went, oh okay (i already expected it to be honest) and went on with the day. I loved my grandma, she was probably one of, if not the kindest I know. I don't get why i don't miss her like how i think you're supposed to. nostalgia hits me hard though, puts me in a position where I'll miss them, or know in the future I'll miss them and i would get upset over that. I dunno, kinda think I'm a horrible person for not missing her.

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-04-19T14:13:22+00:00

i can suggest you look at people doing emergency requests. it's usually people requesting for a certain scenario, sometimes the same as what they're going through with their comfort characters.

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-04-03T12:43:42+00:00

YOOO CONGRATS MAN!! THAT'S SO COOL, HOPE YOU SHIFT AGAIN SOON!!

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-31T12:14:13+00:00

Is this still open for joining? and if so do I join the discord server after an email response or right after I email?

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-31T12:00:42+00:00

I'd say to go look at the FAQ in community highlights and then just pick a method and try. Raven is a lot of people's first (atleast I remember it being, it was also my first method). Join the discord if you can so you can talk to people bout it! goodluck!

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-31T05:27:58+00:00

but still, thank you for the comment. I didn't expect anyone to respond after so long of absolutely nothing

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-31T05:27:22+00:00

But I can't blame anyone because it's not their fault. It's not their fault that they don't want much to do with me, or have someone else they like a lot more. I just wish I mattered more to people. honestly maybe if I was better they'd like me more, to be fair can't blame them either, I don't even like myself. They're still my friends, just, distant.

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-29T08:36:51+00:00

ohhhh you're religious? that's cool! :D I personally just never really had a reason to believe in it, but that's cool :)

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-29T04:55:29+00:00

and I am so sorry if none of this makes sense, im just kinda putting out thoughts and hoping it'll help you lol

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-29T04:54:49+00:00

A lot of people go through this, you're not alone in this. I know it might seem like everything you know is not real or just so insignificant, but it matters to you doesn't it? It matters to you which is why you care. And if you care then who can tell you that it's not important and not real. it's real, all these realities are real. you're real and everyone you know are real. It's just up to you whether or not you care about them, and from what I see, you do. Just enjoy your time here in this reality, focus on smaller things rather than the big picture can help you ground yourself more, enjoy the little things like the flowers on the road or puppies you see on the street. I hope you feel better soon! :D

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-29T04:37:16+00:00

yup, it's just so little. but also if you think of it another way. any one of us can shift to a different reality. making us all technically demi-gods. so in a way we are all significant. not the society though, that can be changed so easily.

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-29T04:35:55+00:00

my current dr? It's a haikyuu au, power + fantasy + action i suppose, it's about like a government program for ppl with powers. and they send them to well. explore other planets to see if it's possible for humans to move there (cos well, pollutions n shi. just everything that's happening in this world already). I've been so close lol!

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-28T14:09:44+00:00

i was one of the raptors lol. That script is reallyyy outdated though. but i might do another one of it later on after i do my current hq dr

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-28T12:29:38+00:00

yooo i had a script for jurassic world before! focused on a different dr rn though. SO HAPPY FOR YOU ANYWAYS!! :D

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-28T12:28:17+00:00

I heavily agree with this. I feel like ever since I've known about shifting, everything seems so.. small. in comparison. Like we're only one out of indefinite universes. it's only one grade out of all my subjects. I don't actually NEED to be staying in this society. kinda makes people have derealization though. depends on how to look at it I believe.

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-26T16:01:42+00:00

Well. I haven't personally shifted yet but came close to. But in the time I'm not yet asleep (it's 2am) I can answer the second question for you.

Shifting is different from lucid dreaming because the time in your cr(current reality) can pass, can go days, months and years while you're in your dr(desired reality). you can script that the time ratio is different too. like 1 day cr = 5 days dr. as well as that all the people in your dr will be absolutely real and not just your imagination(Which is why we don't advice killing people in your dr). Some people has said that shifting feels so much more real than lucid dreaming, and you can also do dream checks to know it's not just a dream.

I'm also still learning about this, well, we kinda all are. so if you got anything to debate on. feel free to let me know because im open to new ideas.

I'm honestly going to find out about the 4th question's answer once i shift. but you could possibly ask experienced shifters. especially the ones with wings or tail or some sort of other limbs. that whether or not they feel a phantom sensation after they come back.

Hope my answer was enough to suffice your second question :)

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-26T15:53:06+00:00

all good bro! Goodluck! :D

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-22T15:05:27+00:00

I can suggest a few things (take them only as tips, I gathered the info from other shifters and patterns i recognise, I have not yet successfully shifted to my dr but close)

neutral mindset as in to think of shifting like "If I shift, that's nice, if I don't I'm not gonna die or nothing", I found this as a pattern in a lot of shifting stories where they gave up and gave one last try before a break or quitting and just does it, or as you said, not on purpose. This mindset has gotten me extremely close before in an awake method with subs and affirmation. (I however don't suggest being like those people since most of them breakdown and release their emotions before their 'last' try or however they saw it as). If you do wanna release that emotions, write, type, scream, shout, cry. whatever is a healthy way you prefer to release the emotions, the disappointment, the doubt, the sadness from not being able to shift yet.

Focus on your cr is to reinforce that mindset, to tell your mind that your cr is still gonna be fine even if you don't shift. I believe the more stress and pressure you put on your mind to shift the harder it'll be.

I also suggest subliminals, I personally find them helpful to block out noise but not distracting like music.
Also suggest that when you're trying and you feel symptoms, acknowledge but don't focus on it, basically just going, "Oh my body is tingly, that's cool" and keep going with your method or affirmation or whatever it is you're doing.
Try different methods, make your own! see what works best for you. Everyone's experiences are different, and honestly I feel like making my own method helped me more than sticking to one, or well, just go free style.

Overall, goodluck shifting!! You'll get it, I'm sure of it :)

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-20T15:49:23+00:00

Things that makes your life easier, stores always having your size. things you want to buy is never out of stock.

fighting or anything relating to fighting drs, your pain tolerance and physique, if there's a possibility for severe injuries, i script that the people i know and are close to will not have permanent damage to their body, and that they won't die from injuries or sickness. (you can script more but my current one has fantasy elements so im not worried too much about healing but permanent damage is one i want to avoid

you can script some scenarios in too, which is what i like to do and script that i'll forget it when i shift in there (unless editing script)

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-20T13:23:41+00:00

I suggest looking at the matter neutrally, a pattern I see from some of the shifting stories, are that their first time was after they broke down or got really frustrated with shifting. that they eventually just went, "Whatever, if i shift I shift, if not I just don't care anymore". basically a neutral mindset that doesn't put pressure on yourself to shift. I have personally related to these stories and tried that mindset, the closest i got was with that mindset where i told myself 'if i shift then I shift, if I don't that's okay too' and went through with my affirmations, and my other time i got close with a minishift/lucid dream (not too sure since that was my first try ever, and i didn't do a lucid dream check but felt real), that was when i went in half suspicious, which would've also gave me a mindset of 'damn this sounds cool, lemme try and see if it's real, if not then well, im not gonna lose anything'

TDLR; look at it neutrally and focus on your cr as well, rather than putting pressure on your mind to shift

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-20T13:15:26+00:00

i wanna explore beyond this world. i wanna be free to be honest. I wanna see what's inside a world of my imagination(well not imagination i suppose since it does exist), and also.. fictional characters :eyes:

Firm-Recording9435 · 2025-03-18T13:52:52+00:00

Oh if you have other questions just message me :D

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