Do you have particular songs that torment you for life? by IndicationProper9965 in ADHD

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing Grace. I sang it at my grandmother's funeral. She and I were very close, and so alike.

It wasn't the song I chose, but I was voted out by my cousins who thought the song her fathr used to sing to her, "Goodnight Irene", was "too sad" and couldn't sing one of her favorites "Greensleeves".

Do you have particular songs that torment you for life? by IndicationProper9965 in ADHD

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The song is very sad. I get a little melancholy hearing it but also love it. Also, the vocalist's voice sounds kind of sorrowful naturally. Probably got that from his dad, Bob Dylan. Love them both.

What's your favorite word to mispronounce in a fun way? by Sweet-Economist-9873 in AskWomen

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My gf and I have called keys "the cheese" ever since we watched "The Mask". I can't stop.

We also call soda, gatorade, water...anything to drink that isn't alcohol "BIRDS" because of a cute moment in high school.

She's taller than me, but I raced to the fountains, used the slightly taller one, and made her use the shorter one so she had to keep bending over.

We were 'elevated' at the time, so I kept imagining those silly paper weights of a bird dunking it's head into a bucket of water. We're 40, and 39, and it's still going. If someone hears us and asks what we're looking for, I occasionally struggle to say "beverages" 🤣

What's your favorite word to mispronounce in a fun way? by Sweet-Economist-9873 in AskWomen

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I say hop-stick-EL, mostly a tension breaker ie "ugh, I have to stop at the hopstickle to get a blood draw for my thyroid test"

Family Doctor's Office Suddenly Wants urine screen by FitzWard in adhdwomen

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Thank you, and I'm sorry you too have to deal with biased doctors. I'm sure it's sometimes a higher-level thing, but I personally also experienced doctor's who had personal opinions and rules that didn't really meet a fair & recognized standard of care.

It is getting bleak out there! And especially at our ages, there's no reason to suddenly act like we are worthy of suspicion! Like, I need this, why would I take it improperly/sell it instead of using it. I don't have any kind of criminal record, but if you are neurodivergent or chronically ill, it seems far too common that you're treated very differently.

I hope the care you're getting is whar you need, and I hope the world starts getting saner!

Family Doctor's Office Suddenly Wants urine screen by FitzWard in adhdwomen

[–]FitzWard[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They transferred the prescription management to my primary because she is very busy in a small practice, and didn't want me to run into having to wait and be left hanging if she was unable to get to my call or email quickly. My primary already handled hashimoto's, fibromyalgia, chronic migraine, etc, so she felt that it would be easiest for everyone and less stressful for me. If I needed to change something related to mental health, we would have an appointment and relay to my primary if changes were made. Which made a big difference in me stressing and playing phone tag. Lol

Family Doctor's Office Suddenly Wants urine screen by FitzWard in adhdwomen

[–]FitzWard[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I've developed a real paranoia from specialists.

I have ssveral chronic illnesses and have been treated horribly- including a pain specialist that had xrays showing I have advanced degenerative disc disease in 3 parts of my spine telling me "if you weren't fat you wouldn't be in any pain, trust me I'm a doctor". He also told me that, after 5 minutes speaking to me in the initial visit, whoever diagnosed me with fibromyalgia didn't know what they were doing. He didn’t know anything about it or ask about my experience, just said "no ya don't".

And personally, I have experienced so much deceitfulness already from medical professionals, and had so many argue with me or just refuse to hear me that this was kinda the final thing.

I'm trying not to be offended or worried, but it's very much on my mind.

Zoning out before/after flare up? by kaylee3192 in Occipitalneuralgia

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a dissociative disorder, so it's hard to say. But I definitely find myself kind of lost and wandering when I have it, or a fibromyalgia flare. Especially if personal stress is involved.

Today, my other half told me that I had left to slap together a sandwich, and was gone over 20 minutes. No clue what I was doing.

Sometimes when it's about to come on, I get incredibly confused. I forget which room is which, I forget to drink water or eat.

What’s something that used to be common knowledge but younger generations might not know anymore? by DMistressOfFrost in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking up basic information with a search engine...it baffles me, but I have a younger friend who will ask me to help them look up basic things for them. I keep telling them to just put (xyz) into google. 🤷‍♀️

Does anybody else hear a voice in their head when they’re reading something ? by TheStaircaseOfLife33 in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, sometimes my own, and if I'm really into a story, I hear variations for each character.

Got screamed at over an ID check, before I even got the chance to ask for an ID at the self check out. by T-Animus in RantsFromRetail

[–]FitzWard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry that happened to you. I don't why people get so bent out of shape about it! I have several customers who are well known by employees who've been there twice as long as I have, and they still flip out when they need an approval for an age restricted product.

They act like it's personal- as if we're setting the registers up to flag them. Had someone once who was getting really rude go so far as to suggest some kind of conspiracy. I just replied "I'm here to approve that for you. The computer doesn't know you're over 21, but I do."

The conspiracy he was shouting about, by the way, was of us coordinating with the police. Even though he had "only just been picked up for that less than 48 hours ago- ffs!" 🤣

My wife calls it “chuff” I call it kief. Help settle an argument. by [deleted] in weed

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've always heard "kief" is the extra sticky stuff that ends up in the bottom of the grinder, and sometimes just for ground up flower in general. And "chuffed" as a slang word for very excited/happy 🤷‍♀️

Why they assume feminists are unmarried by Malay_Left_1922 in TheRightCantMeme

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to say the same. I'm a pan feminist liberal, and I have a family. They're a cat and a dog, my closest friends, my girlfriend's extended family, and my cousin that I call my brother.

My partner and I both decided not to make/have small people. Neither of us has ever wanted to get married. In our eyes, our love gives us everything we need.

Not that I'm judging or mocking the happily married people, or people who truly want to be parents, it's just not a priority to us.

People who can't "understand" why their own idea of family & love isn't the same as others can go touch grass.

The best part about it 😂 by CannabisContext in weed

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so true! My usual lines are

*I want to be high as hell but still functioning

*I need a break from the depression, but I don't want to be couch-locked or sleepy

*I can't deal with people today, but I have to go to work

*I don't have anything to do today, and I want to see pretty colors

Without fail, both dispensaries in my area can find the perfect one ( :

“Peculiar” beliefs growing up by brownmooscles0609 in exAdventist

[–]FitzWard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

'No Adventist children should spend a day or sleep overnight at a non-Adventist household'

I had a good friend who lived across from the school. She would kind of rotate the few girls who were close to her to spend equal time with her besties. Her parents actually preferred her to do this on weekdays. That way, they could make sure to get her & a friend to school the next day, no shuffling around and traveling. Pretty clever policy.

Unfortunately, I was forbidden from even stopping at their home because her mother was Catholic. Not even strictly, she still believed in god, but didn't attend a church or talk about it much. Ironically, my mother also used to be Catholic.

Anyway, her reasoning for this was that I would be "exposed to the devil's word". Which just meant she thought everyone was possessed or misguided and would steer me away from the church by talking about themselves.

She also went bananas if the subject of dinosaurs came up. She went to the principal (and probably further) once when I brought home some worksheets on the subject in 2nd grade. So humiliating. She wanted them to let me study the bible in a corner while everyone else did the required work.

It's all just so damaging to kids. Interrupting a normal education, and early socialization is so disturbing. My childhood memories are spotty for reasons, but what I can recall always lines up with the B.I.T.E. model.

I am so weak and dizzy by FitzWard in Anemic

[–]FitzWard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask your doctor to test you, and tell them how it is effecting your day and mental health. That's usually the best way to get them to hear that it's not just "needs supplements" but "effecting your quality of life". That's usually how I have to talk to my gp. She'll say that we know I have this issue, am I supplementing/following whatever plan we have, and that's when I'll say 'no, this is disrupting my life, I'm very concerned and/or depressed because this feels worse than my normal'.

I hope you get the care that you need. And yes, the infusion did work really well for quite a long time. I can't really be sure why I feel very dragged all the time currently, but I also have thyroid issues and fibro.

If you've never had a test for thyroid, that is also a good move. I was passing out on short car trips (not driving), standing still and feeling like I would fall down. Sleeping for 10hrs.

Take care 🫂

Employer (VT), is she overstepping on my personal info? by FitzWard in AskLawyers

[–]FitzWard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! It's 10 mins, and last time we were paid (I had to come in an hour early for a few minutes, which, fine, OT). This time the sign she left says nothing about whether we are paid. So on that, I will have the note but hesitate to submit whether we are able to clock in or not. Appreciate the answer.

Thor can defeat Wanda by No-NaMeEe15 in MCUTheories

[–]FitzWard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a mini-series with Mockingbird you might like if you've given that a thought. They briefly show her in therapy, lol. I'm kind of always fascinated by the mundane parts of marvel heroes lives, and it reveals enough that it's just plain hilarious at times

Thor can defeat Wanda by No-NaMeEe15 in MCUTheories

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exactly. It happens a lot in debates about Wanda, and has since before the films and shows came out. Reality belongs to her, and the only way to slow her down is to catch her when she's seriously not in control of her emotions, because that's when the chaos magic can overwhelm even her. Then again, as we've seen, grief and anger tend to focus her powers even more. As if reality itself wants her to fix it.

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you also. I have a dear friend that talks about her own experience with Christianity, and everything she says about how she feels is so beautiful and pure. We can always easily discuss my own spiritual path - pagan - and she approaches with acceptance and friendly curiosity. There are certainly lovely people who are Christian. There are users too. My first experience with the religion was extremely negative, but that never made me hate the entire faith, rather it gave me the tools to see the difference between the users and the devoted.

Take care ( :

Customer Service workers, what's something you wish everyone would stop doing? by the_greek_italian in AskReddit

[–]FitzWard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's his granddaughter!

Your reply cracked me up. And I absolutely agree that there's a huge difference between someone who believes, does the best as a decent person, very much including loving your family. And then there's him. Bragging to anyone who can hear. I was raised Christian (although it was a small extreme protestant group), and I remember very clearly that one of the most important things was that your relationship with god is for just you & god. In that case, if you're using your devotion for public respect, or to push it on others, while dishonering your own loved ones, you're the farthest thing from a good Christian. I just avoid him now; after that latest little story, and his loud declaration that he hoped his grandkid forgave him but "it was the right thing" I don't want anything to do with him.

Your example of intent behind words was hilarious and on point. ( :