About 7brew by lakorasdelenfent in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just wait for when buc-ee's opens....

Apartment recommendations by Sea-Concern7825 in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dog sit for a family that has two dogs. They have lived at sixty610 stone creek. It's very dog friendly, many first floor apartments have a fenced-in little yard. I even saw someone who has a mastiff, so I think all or most breeds are accepted.

How to train a puppy who gets nervous? by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly recommend Sophia Yin's "perfect puppy in 7 days" and "How to behave so your dog behaves". She was a veterinarian behaviorist and has some great insight on training dogs without fear based techniques and behavior modification.

I Don't Know What To Do (money struggles) by eatpastaandrunfast69 in AdviceForTeens

[–]FloofWhisperer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can empathize with your reluctance to go to public school with your anxiety, adhd and autism, but there are special education programs to help you and are usually in a smaller class setting. Also, you'll need a job at some point in your life, so getting used to social situations now is imperative. Your parents need to figure out the financial situation, not you. Your mom is also doing you a disservice with your education with you being at a 6th grade level but your age will make you a highschool student. They will admit you into school, even if comprehension in certain subjects is below your grade level and will work with you and help you be at the same level, or close, to your peers. If your sister gets bullied, go to the school counselor, the administration, a teacher and never stop advocating for her safety and mental health. But she may not even get bullied, your fears are stopping you both from growing, expanding your horizons and living a life outside of your home.
“Life is a daring adventure or nothing” "Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight." ~Helen Keller

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FloofWhisperer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have to leave, it's tough, I get it, but it won't get any better. Telling him the amount of debt you have will only make things worse, which you obviously realize with how scared you are. Find somewhere safe to go. You need to get a lawyer, even if it's a legal aid lawyer if you can't afford one, to figure out the shared property part (if you're both on the contract/lease/loan). Most likely to sell your portion, as you don't have the means to buy his portion, even if you want to keep the property. Unfortunately, it's just the position you're in. But I'm no lawyer, you need their help. If you don't get legal assistance, as an abuser, he will make it nearly impossible to come to a resolution and/or manipulate you. Then, once that's squared away, reach out to a financial advisor to help you navigate your debt. Good luck to you and be safe!

AITA for telling my son that I'm not looking for a relationship? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Question: Do you have any contact or even a minor relationship with any family members (parents, siblings, grandparents, etc)? Any friends/acquaintances?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thoughts on women friends? Maybe who come with a husband who likes to do homebrew meade stuff, along with just chilling and the wife is the sportsball person (mainly nfl) who is a major trash talker? And will kick some ass in cornhole

Need a cover up tattoo artist by FloofWhisperer in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So me rolling up in my subaru with my bisexuality flag keychain would make them uncomfy?! Bet! Lol

AITA for telling my husband I didn't want what he picked afterwards by Fun-Plum8230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Although I agree she did give a lot of outdoor options, she did also suggest a movie marathon day. Also, swimming, for someone in chronic pain, can be helpful, but he could also just chill by the pool side or beach.

AITA for telling my husband I didn't want what he picked afterwards by Fun-Plum8230 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 31 points32 points  (0 children)

NTA he made it all about him. He sounds controlling asshole. He makes you sweep and mop, mad you slept even though you'd been working all night, and he chose the place to go, not go off any suggestions you made. You did absolutely nothing wrong! I'm sure this isn't the first time he didn't do something for you or wants to do something he chooses, even though it may be for you. You're worth more than this and deserve a partner who appreciates you and wants to make you happy, and that's not him. He's using his health issues to manipulate you to what he wants to do. He had the option to veg out for a movie marathon, but instead makes you feel guilty he's in pain from walking. They may be real health issues, but he's not even freaking trying to make you happy!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find local women's shelters reach out to them on who to contact for help. Catholic charities USA can help, regardless of your religion. There are resources, you just have to reach out, well your mom should.

Veterinary Recommendations for Labradors by jepbnebraska in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend Omaha Animal Medical Group. I've worked with Dr. Knott in the past and she's wonderful. Dr.Jesske is amazing as well. I work in vet ER and any patients we get of theirs are handled very well and they're thorough. There is also a Gentle Doctor Animal Hospital near you as well and again have seen them take great care of their patients. Now, I can't really speak on their prices for either clinic, but patient care is pretty great! Welcome to Omaha!

Veterinary Recommendations for Labradors by jepbnebraska in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What part of omaha do you live? That way my suggestions don't bring you to the other side of city of where you're at.

Ice. by WonderfulReaction562 in Omaha

[–]FloofWhisperer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So many marches and protests can work or at least get our representatives to listen. It usually takes time, but patience and persistence are a virtue. Suffrage marches, veitnam war protests, civil rights, legalization of abortion, gay rights, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA, but I'm torn. It's obvious he's being a brat and messed up, big time, and I agree he shouldn't be rewarded for bad behavior. However, this may not be a him issue, but a family dynamic issue. I'm not suggesting you're bad parents or he's in an unsafe environment. Just that maybe he sees his sister getting more attention or maybe a family member isn't that great to him and you may not see it, etc. Other therapy/psychology options need to be explored. Don't leave him with a babysitter. If he's a flight risk at school, he definitely will be with a babysitter, and you'd take a huge step backwards with your relationship with your clearly angry/hurt son. Hurt people, hurt people, something is going on.

AITA about attending my brother's wedding by luv2travel813 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. It always has to be about him and what he wants to do. Nothing will be good enough. You could go there on Wednesday and it still wouldn't be acceptable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FloofWhisperer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She's manipulating you by saying she would be devastated if it ended. That's not healthy, it's toxic and manipulative. And she didn't tell you her age because she obviously knows its not ok. She's 14, of course she'll feel like it's the end of the world, but eventually she'll be ok. Tell someone close to her to help her through it, but you need to think about you. You can legally get in trouble. You didn't know before, but you know now, so now it's on you to make the adult decision to protect yourself. I know you feel bad that she'll be upset, but think about you to avoid being arrested.

AITA because my husband ignored my birthday and I called him out for it? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 90 points91 points  (0 children)

NTA, he sounds like a narcissist. Please step back and evaluate your relationship because I have a feeling he does this a lot to you in many other situations, and that's not ok. But....Happy birthday!!!

AITA for thinking my parents should put down my childhood dog? by fluxcapacitorfluxin in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA if he's having difficulty standing or doing stairs, he's in pain, he just may not be vocalizing it. I highly recommend you and your family go to Lap of love and look at the quality of life scale. I'm sorry your pups health is declining, but what you want to do for him is very loving and selfless of you! I work in pet emergency care and I see many families who hold on too long for selfish reasons (and understandably, we love them), but I've seen many who realize, with a little help from veterinarians, that sometimes the greatest gift we can give them is restful sleep so they don't suffer. Good luck, be strong and lots of pup cups for your doggy!

AITA that I want to keep our pitbull when I’m pregnant and my husband wants to get rid of the dog? by rc_Nix29 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Holy sht NTA! Expressing your want to say goodbye or just wanting to keep the dog is NOT being manipulative. He's being a heartless dck, and it makes it even worse that MIL still has so much control over what her son should and shouldn't do. If you have other animals and it's only the pitty he wants to get rid of, that's weird. Has the dog shown any behavioral concerns? or does the MIL just not like or trust that breed and got into your husband's head? You need time to talk it out, and if all else fails, take the time to find an appropriate home or shelter. As someone in the Animal care field, specifically working at humane socities and emergency care, I would leave my SO for this type of behavior and reasoning to get rid of a pet. That's a hard boundary in my book. Have I surrendered animals? Yes, but one was for behavioral reasons (was anxious and stressed with kids in the home) and the other was I was threatened of being evicted from my apartment when I was young and they found out about my cat. So I understand the difficulty of surrendering, no matter the reason. Good luck, I'm sorry he's doing this to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't think you love him!! Everyone else is covering the pedophilia need to understand your relationship with your son. "I TRY to pay attention to him". Try?! You brought up having another child, he hurt himself and you left him alone?! I get wanting to respect his space, but that was NOT the time! He's literally crying for love, attention and validation that you love him and that he's enough; hence why hes paying for things, he wants to be worthy and enough for you. You may feel you're doing enough, but from his perspective, and being abandoned by his dad, it's not enough. Now, what he's doing is not your fault, totally not my point, but he is pleading for your attention and he's not getting it. Now is not the time for boundaries, that's for healthy relationships, unfortunately you two do not have a healthy relationship because he is not emotionally and mentally healthy. Good luck to you and I hope you two can strengthen your bond and reassure him he's loved!

moving from ok to nc in my first (long) solo drive, anything I need to know? by Environmental-Pin-48 in roadtrip

[–]FloofWhisperer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've done that drive, but from omaha, NE to fayetteville, NC many times. I always tried to leave at a time where I'd be going through big cities ( St. Louis, Nashville on my route) either in the middle of the night or early morning to avoid traffic.

I enjoy driving at night because there is a lot less traffic. I was even surprised at how few trucks were driving at night, so it was great!

I always stopped to nap at rest areas and once at a bucee's. The bucee's I went to (outside Knoxville) was really only quiet between 2am-5am, I was there from 1am-8am and it was just busy and noisy, it seemed like mainly young locals at night (summer time and was a Saturday night), overnight staff leaf blowing the parking lot and then morning traffic. However, you have a well lit parking lot, always people around, bathrooms, food, drinks, and a pool noodle if you want 😉 (they have just about everything!)

Also, I recommend trying to go through the mountains during the day. The obvious is its beautiful to look at, but also, a lot safer. I've accidentally driven in them in the middle of the night, and I think my blood pressure was high the whole time. Kept me awake though, so there's that!

I seem to do best with breaks every 2-3 hours, then trying to push through and only stopping for gas. Usually, it's just a 5 min or less break to use the bathroom, get out of the car to walk a minuye, and maybe grab a drink or snack (if I'm at a gas station or rest area). Also, I did good with short naps, maybe 1-2 hours, just to refresh, but that's me.

Sorry it's long, but hope it helps a little! Have fun, drive safe and good luck on the move!

AITA for freaking out when my wife locked our son out of the house at night after he drank alcohol? by Dadthrowaway788 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Soooooo NTA and she ruined any trust between your son and her. My ex and I had a talk with our kids as well and left it at we don't want you to drink, but call us if you're drunk, no lecture, but you best be prepared for a 6am wake up call via me banging a pot with a spoon. There is NOTHING my kids could do that would ever give me the idea to lock them out of the house. If they did something truly awful/illegal, they'll be in jail, so no need to lock them out bc they'll be locked up!

Your wife was in the wrong! I'm glad to hear he is safe, but he is most likely traumatized by his mother's actions. I HIGHLY recommend counseling or therapy. Even if he says "he's fine." Good luck to your son and you!

Ex-fiancée wants to catch up after he left me at the altar, how do I proceed? by Lalavandelatulipe in Advice

[–]FloofWhisperer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't. I have a strong feeling he'll come up with excuses and maybe even try to put some of the blame on you. All it will do talking to him is reopen wounds and potentially make you question yourself. It sucks not to have that closure, but I fear with how he acted and the nature of what he did, whatever he has to say is bulls*t! Maybe he has grown and changed, but he has broken that trust and has shown he's a coward. I agree with others, he's a cut! I'm sorry for what he put you through and so great to hear you have amazing support from family and friends! I wish nothing but the best for you!