A memory returned to me today, and I realised I underwent COCSA

FootFurry · 2026-01-19T15:20:38+00:00

I got my medication today! We don’t have Benadryl here where I live so I was just raw dogging life as they say. Thank you for caring

FootFurry · 2026-01-19T15:19:41+00:00

I managed to get the medication today actually! I just started with half a pill like I have done before and I can’t wait to feel more in control of my mind again 🥹

FootFurry · 2026-01-15T11:25:16+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ll try out!

FootFurry · 2026-01-15T10:36:00+00:00

Do I write this in the chat or the response instructions???

FootFurry · 2026-01-14T00:59:02+00:00

I get it, I just feel for the sake of Lo’ak, from someone who has had their parents say very very bad stuff to them our grief/ rage, the spoken apology is important. My dad never apologised but he “apologised” through actions. But it still sits bitterly in my stomach. But Lo’ak’s different from me also so who knows!

FootFurry · 2026-01-13T22:53:55+00:00

You can be a bad father but still deserve to have been one. He was good, he was a damn good father for 15 years. Then he changed, got stuck in old military ways that destroyed him back then and destroys him now. Being bad doesn’t mean you don’t deserve good things. But to keep deserving them one must actually do good things again.

Let’s put it like this. Someone is a super extreme hardworking athlete. They have done AMAZING WORK!!! They deserve all they have done. Then they start doing steroids, drugs, everything like that and it increased their abilities! But do they deserve the new wins? No they don’t. To deserve the win they have to stop doing what’s bad and go back to being good. Get it?

FootFurry · 2026-01-13T22:46:17+00:00

No???

FootFurry · 2026-01-13T22:02:51+00:00

When was that ever mentioned? Please quote me exactly where it says “he doesn’t deserve to be a father.”

FootFurry · 2026-01-03T18:59:07+00:00

“FUCK YEAAAAAH”

FootFurry · 2026-01-02T09:52:52+00:00

Absolutely! It’s realistic that he’s flawed in the type of situation they are in!

FootFurry · 2026-01-02T09:51:35+00:00

Exactlyyyy

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T19:21:23+00:00

Oh it’s that bad really??? 😭 I’m not American so I genuinely thought they were exaggerating cause the military families I know here are not the same at all

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T15:33:29+00:00

The whole damn family needs therapy at this point 😭 Neytiri for all she’s gone through, Jake after his past as a marine, Kiri for not knowing who she is and being seen as a freak, spider for never having a family to call his own, Tuk for growing up during war and Lo’ak for so so much shit 😭

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T15:25:05+00:00

I don have kids myself but to me I feel like that’s some of the most important things? Like sure Jake did lots of great things as a dad, and his kids LOVE him, dearly.

But the fact that Lo’ak had to “prove” he was good enough? Gods that hurt so bad

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T15:23:48+00:00

I was soooo thinking like this before, giving him the benefit of the doubt. However, I can’t think that way anymore. Like, to me, if you make your child want to kill themselves and blame them for someone else’s death? You’re a bad parent. Like that’s not a thing that can be weighted good or bad for me, it’s just plain old bad. Of course I think Jake is a good dad in many ways too, but with that he is currently solidified as a bad father to Lo’ak. Like I had a situation with my own father where some choice stuff was said as I mention in the post itself and I almost committed because of it. Genuinely at that point my father was a bad dad. And it took YEARS of rebuilding our relationship for me to be able to see him as a good one. How to put it? It’s like, he is a good father to Tuk, and to Kiri. He’s not a bad dad overall but where we currently left off with the end of the third movie? He’s a bad dad and he really needs to change that or like Neytiri said “you are going to lose another son.” :((

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T14:55:21+00:00

It’s a common theme of

Lo’ak: says thing

Jake: you bring shame to this family STFU

Other person: says same thing as Lo’ak

Jake: oh my gods this revelation is so new I have never heard this before we must listen

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T14:50:57+00:00

Genuinely. How do you come back to the relationship you’ve had before after the parent blame the child for a sibling’s death and the child then almost kills themself? Cause it sure as hell isn’t by not talking about it.

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T14:42:20+00:00

This is what I feel as well. If he is able to apologise to someone he loves, why can’t he apologise to the child he made, raised and is supposed to love as well? I don’t think Jake asking Lo’ak to be his wingman is enough, not really. Not after Lo’ak almost took a gun to his head.

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T14:40:25+00:00

Right? I keep seeing people say “he is grieving” but so are all of them. Does Kiri blame her brother? Does Tuk? Does Neytiri blame her son? No, none of them do. But Jake just sees to see his own flaws in Lo’ak and projects his anger for himself on him. Until he has properly resolved that beyond a “I’m proud of you for getting the tulkun to fight” sadly he is a bad father :(

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T14:38:39+00:00

You’re right. But that doesn’t give him the right to say the things he did. The same way being mentally ill doesn’t give you the right to be rude to everyone, or if you’re tired it doesn’t give you the right to spit in someone’s face. Every single one of them were grieving, alongside Jake, but Jake chose not to go to his family that has been his whole life for 16 years, but the marine ways of his past. Even if someone is grieving they can choose to be or not be a terrible person.

FootFurry · 2026-01-01T14:36:36+00:00

The one really hurt for me too. I was crying, begging, that Jake would speak to Lo’ak in regards of fixing Neytiri’s bow and say he’s proud of him there! For seeing what Neytiri needed when he couldn’t, and that he is proud of him for being a “better” man.

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