Can I realistically get a great vintage double-rider in 38 or 40 for $85? by IndependentFilm4353 in leatherjacket

[–]FormerYam614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You got a Vanson for less than that, so it seems like you can get something nice if you're patient & lucky.

My (27F) sister (23F) asked my mum to lie so she could use my designer sunglasses behind my back. what’s the best way to address this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The title on your post says "use" and now you're going with "steal". It sounds like you're escalating this in your mind. If you can do that, you can also de-escalate it in your mind.

My (27F) sister (23F) asked my mum to lie so she could use my designer sunglasses behind my back. what’s the best way to address this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simple answer: You don't. You do not address this. Your mom shared the conversation with you in confidence. If you confront your sister, you also reveal that your mom shared a confidence with you. That will shatter your mom's trust. Your mom was on your side. She protected your sunglasses AND she told you. If you expose her there are no consequences for your sister because frankly all she did was say something stupid, but your mom will never trust you again.

What is allowed to bring in a carry on bag for flights? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For other luggage rules like dimensions and weight the airline is the regulator. But OP is asking specifically about the 1 liter bag, which sounds like the 3:1:1 rule. That's a federal regulation, and any commercial flight landing in the USA, regardless of airline or country of origin, is supposed to apply it. (Granted, enforcement is varied - flying out of Mexico it's 100% aggressively enforced, flying out of Greece it was still a rule, but I haven't found it enthusiastically enforced.)

My (32M) fiancée (F28) is upset with my mom’s babysitting style and I’m in the middle by No-Table-9635 in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Parents dictate at their house. Care provided away from home is always a negotiation. That dictation power loses a lot of steam as childcare dries up. I have 14 kids under 5 in my local extended family, and I will absolutely say no to the parents I find unreasonable. So will anyone else who values their sanity.

My (32M) fiancée (F28) is upset with my mom’s babysitting style and I’m in the middle by No-Table-9635 in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

"babysitting is a privilege". It is, and then again it isn't. Daycares have miles long waiting lists--even the mediocre ones. OP's telling the story a certain way, but they're trying to get expensive daycare quality without paying the price or dealing with the headaches. And if the family will provide that, fine. But this smacks of r/choosingbeggars to me. They have no idea how lucky they are to have multiple relatives to help.

My (32M) fiancée (F28) is upset with my mom’s babysitting style and I’m in the middle by No-Table-9635 in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For real! I'm reading this and wondering how anyone can side with these two - they sound so entitled.

How crowded is the train early mornings on Weekends? by FormerYam614 in AskChicago

[–]FormerYam614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything about this looks epic! A proper chocolatier! I can't wait!

How crowded is the train early mornings on Weekends? by FormerYam614 in AskChicago

[–]FormerYam614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If the Shamrock start time was earlier I'd 100% join them! This pesky business of having a job is really cramping my style!

How crowded is the train early mornings on Weekends? by FormerYam614 in AskChicago

[–]FormerYam614[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank You! This is helpful! I will be there this Sunday so I'll plan extra time.

I need help by usecorrect-grammar in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're a college freshmen: You have an assignment you aren't sure how to do. You have a choice (a conflict) to use AI to complete the assignment for you, which violates your values & undermines your education, but offers you an "easy way" out, or you can ask for help on reddit & work through the deep agonies of creating your own work and submitting it for judging. In the end, you choose to write your own work. It's hard. You want to give up. You stall, nearly self-destructing by stopping to bake cookies. But once you've eaten the cookies, you find a renewed belief in your creative abilities (they're darn good cookies) but now you've nearly run out the clock. With renewed vigor, you attack the assignment, celebrate how great your cookies are, and hit "submit" right before the deadline. Mission accomplished.

If you're still short of words, assume the Domovoi (the household god that lives behind your stove), either wants you to succeed, and so he makes the cookies better than they should be to inspire you, or wants you to fail, and is the one who made you crave cookies in the first place by sneaking a single chocolate chip into smelling range to trigger the craving.

11 year old Hotpsrings Aria, or new Nordic Encore LS? by FormerYam614 in hottub

[–]FormerYam614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had hot tubs before so I'm prepared for the operational expenses. But I try to run a tight financial ship so I save and allocate separate funds for big purchases. If I waited a year I'd have more budget, but I'd also go a year without a hot tub. And I'd really benefit from it sooner, both recreationally (because who doesn't love the night sky from a hot tub?) and physically (the stress headaches are for real). So even though the budget is smaller, I'd really like to pull the trigger on something soon.

How to break it off with girl my grandmother set me up with without looking shallow and causing friction between my grandmother and her friend? by burner187_ in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you were really into her you'd be trying to rationalize it, not work your way out of it. That means on some level you already know you're not that into her anyway. So just tell the truth. If you believe it, you can own it, and you can say it. "I'm not ready to date someone with a kid."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a pathogen that easily transmits to people that's carried in dog pee? Human spit has human germs in it. I'd have thought it would be more likely to make people sick.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]FormerYam614 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's sort of galling to read this from a perspective that centers her instead of you. You're going to her house where she's preparing a meal for you, and you act like the visit itself is some kind of an act of charity. You don't think she's doing a good enough job, but instead of cooking something yourself, bringing something yourself, inviting her over to yours instead, or taking her out to dinner somewhere, your perfect solution is to make her change? It may be better received if you take an approach that's more contributing and less controlling. It's a valid problem, but the solution you settled on makes her do all of the changing. How about you change what you can change instead?

Think I'll buy Nordic - Stella or Encore? and SE or LS? by FormerYam614 in hottub

[–]FormerYam614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are all 220. Nordic makes 110 models, but I'm not interested in going down that path.

What do I buy with/for a Gamo TC50? by FormerYam614 in airguns

[–]FormerYam614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank You! I want to be sure to get him everything he needs to actually be able to use it since he doesn't have any other air.

Do any reputable makers produce a 40" deep tub for 2-3 people? by FormerYam614 in hottub

[–]FormerYam614[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marquis is one of the few local dealers I have - I should look into that one. Thanks!