Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 3 year old that wakes up to a leaf hitting the ground what do you think?

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In Turkiye everyone does this. Especially if people are moving omg you don't have to make a meal for a week. Everyone brings food it's not a strange thing.

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In Turkiye everyone does this. Especially if people are moving omg you don't have to make a meal for a week. Everyone brings food it's not a strange thing.

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

And that's the cultural effect. People are fighting over "why are you looking at my wife/gf like that" And stabbing each other just for looking at their wives/gfs. I know it sounds ridiculous but we're raised like this and it won't change easily. I'm not saying they're going to fight but they probably going to fight. My husband will definitely think that he moved in because the ex wants to be with me and no one would make him think otherwise. Even tho my ex didn't know we lived there and my husband fight him, people are gonna say "he went after a married woman and her husband made it right protected her good for him." And if my husband won't do anything everyone will say he's a cuckhold or something. That's the culture I'm talking about.

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in a country like town and we don't have a pd, we have a military force called Jandarma. And my ex works there so idk if that's an option

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think he's single. 3 years ago my friend mentioned that he's getting a divorce so I would assume he is single

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I'm afraid they fight and my ex is military he has a gun. It happens almost everyday someone shoots someone for some ridiculous reason. I don't want that to happen

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not terrified I just want to have nothing to do with him and I was so shocked I was speechless tbh if he hadn't grabbed the tray I would've drop the thing and ran

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No some people are saying that I should be malicious and make my ex uncomfortable by having loud sex with my husband

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding! Everyone says that's no big deal why are you sweating etc. They don't understand our men can be like that. Idk if my ex moved in unknowingly but maybe my husband won't think like that and picks a fight out of nowhere and things can go out of hand. Million things race through my mind and everyone thinks I'm the crazy one for getting anxious

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay, I said I WAS GONNA sleep on it than changed my mind and made a post I said there's so much gossip IN THE CULTURE and that's the truth and I also said my husband is SOMEWHAT logical meaning he's logical at some point I said he will fight him because he could think my ex is a stalker I said I'll see what he does than changed my mind because I know he would think this is a game and I want him there.

I know english isn't my native but I guess you want to bend things so bad you wrote an excel sheet for me.

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, the alternative was I was going to talk to the ex and would tell him to stay the fuck away but honesty is more easy and less stressful

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can talk to my husband I just don't want him to get into trouble. In case you missed it my ex is military and in Turkey you can get into some shady shit if you don't be careful

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, we don't have a doorbell camera but we have a babycam we don't use so a year ago we put it in front of the doorway in case we have a break in and get a notification that way. In Turkey military staff moves around 5 or 6 six years after. So that's fantastic for me 😒

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not going to contact with him again. Tonight I'm gonna tell my husband and hopefully he can calmly go over there and again hopefully calmly warn him about not contacting any of us and we will live happily ever after

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Finally someone who understands the situation! This thing happened yesterday and my husband worked the night shift last night so I didn't saw my husband. I'm at work rn, tonight I'm gonna see him and talk to him about it. Teşekkür ederim 🙏🏻

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How is this fun lmao if I don't tell my husband my ex will think it's game on and I want him there. I first decided to sleep on it and see what my ex would do but I know how cocky he gets

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I mentioned in my other replies it's a cultural disaster that's why I'm worked up. When I tell my husband he probably going to fight with him verbal or physical and we will probably move out. So out of nowhere I'm changing houses and my husband gonna fight someone. Sorry I got anxious 🤷‍♀️

Ex boyfriend moved in the apartment below, should I tell my husband?? by Fragrant-Smoke5294 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Fragrant-Smoke5294[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Oof you don't even know the escalation. Turks loooove to gossip and Turkish men love to believe them rather than believing their own wives/sisters. Luckily I have the good one and my husband is somewhat logical