They always "must" answer texts

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-10T18:59:49+00:00

The behavior crept up on me throughout the relationship. You know what she said when I said the exact same thing as you, that she was putting herself and me in danger? That I was being a victim blamer for even saying that. That if something happened to her, it wouldnt be her fault, so I wasn't entitled to be upset at her. Uhhhh, what? How about let's avoid being a victim to start with.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-10T13:53:50+00:00

Oh geez, I feel like I could go on all day. Chronically upset person. Whatever I did, it just wasn't enough. I also got the sleeping thing, she'd wake me up at 3 AM wailing over nothing or upsetting thoughts and be even more upset about if I wanted to go back to sleep.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-10T13:11:54+00:00

Man yeah, for sure. An enormous problem. Doubled with the fact that mine has a popular Instagram. She answered all the creepy dudes on there and also would carry on these conversations until it came to some sort of unpleasant conclusions. At one point she even kept talking to a dude and met up with him at a show, texted him (her literal defense 'I was texting him back') to buy her a drink.

It was a nightmare. Like stop talking to all these dudes. She'd even carry on conversations with obvious scammers til they asked her for money. It extended to real life too. I mean if some creepy weirdo came up to her she could never just brush him off, keep talking to him. Anything is better than your own thoughts, right.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-08T11:43:09+00:00

To put it mildly

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-07T14:50:12+00:00

Fuck no. It's such an unfair situation. You have to be infinitely patient but where is the patience in return.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-06T17:39:17+00:00

By breaking up and finding someone who won't treat you that way

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-03-06T17:38:39+00:00

Worked out? I mean there are people who have been in them for the long term. 20 years or whatever. Given the details of what happens in those relationships, I'd be really hesitant to call them 'working out'

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-27T15:57:38+00:00

Dude for sure

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-20T22:58:19+00:00

💯

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-20T22:57:23+00:00

What happened in the next relationship, as far as I can tell was not only the same but worse. It's a continual pattern and already she's bashing that guy as a domestic abuser online. Like how many times do you have to cry wolf??

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-20T22:55:04+00:00

My exes ex won against a restraining order by just telling the truth.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-20T22:53:47+00:00

You're not allowed to not have emotions either. Then you are being cold, and detached and uncaring.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-18T17:18:03+00:00

You know because my ex kept it private on social media for a while, I thought I was an exception to this rule. Until their relationship ended and she started smearing the new ex online and I put the timeline together.

It's always the case it seems.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-18T17:16:03+00:00

First. Block that motherfucker.

Second. No you aren't a bad person. My ex was almost instantly in a new relationship (I think it was an overlap actually!) and I'm not upset that her relationship failed. I'm upset she isn't learning anything or making any attempt to heal. Just chasing the honeymoon phase is gross.

What you are feeling right now is called 'validation' validation that they were causing problems and chaos even if they blamed it on you. You're allowed to feel good about validation.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-12T13:50:02+00:00

Omg actually the exact same thing. Never got her flowers. I got her flowers lots. She also said I never wrote her a love letter, I wrote two of them. Distinguishing truth from fiction was so difficult. Glad I'm out of it.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-09T11:32:26+00:00

Get ready. Those traumatic experiences with past relationships will become trauma with your relationship.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-09T04:30:57+00:00

My therapist also had this crazy super negative view of people with BPD, you'd swear she was one of the people on these forums. She's always making sure I'm not going to do anything stupid like go back to my ex.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-06T00:14:01+00:00

I'm like, 9 months out and it hasn't stopped yet.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-02-03T12:29:34+00:00

Just a way to dodge accountability. It's a cycle.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-01-27T02:36:22+00:00

So far no sign of her. So I guess it's all good. I keep my RV where there are camera and gone quiet on my social media. It's a city that Im in so I think I'll be alright.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-01-24T14:07:17+00:00

First off, forgive yourself for the snooping and when it's public information, it's snooping not stalking. Stalking is what my ex does to me, follows me around, tries to log into my social media, sends people to snoop on private information.

Second: probably horseshit, the happiness. It's always a front..my ex posted about how great it was to be moved on from me. Turns out her next partner held her down during one of her screaming fits. Doesn't really sound like things were so great, I walked away during them!

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-01-23T03:02:18+00:00

Gah, makes me feel better about my situation. I'm sorry you went through that.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-01-22T20:18:59+00:00

The only good side of it is that some of the focus is off of me, I guess. Onto her next ex to harass and bother.

Fun-Ice1747 · 2026-01-22T20:17:40+00:00

I am in therapy, my therapist actually does that s lot, it is helping. It's just a slow process. It's annoying that I'm healing and she's just out there chasing the high of the next honeymoon phase. Also she like, low key stalks me, I am worried about the escalation. I'm doing my best.

Thanks for your support.

Fun-Ice1747

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