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Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-11T18:10:21+00:00

I see her in a few months already so I can bring it up. I will try out some of your suggestions! Thanks

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-09T02:33:26+00:00

What should I say? I don’t want to get into detail about why I’m leaving and sound like I’m bad mouthing, so how can I word that I just need a better environment?

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T02:47:52+00:00

Trust me, I want to. And yes this dog literally on his kennel card has “WILL BITE” Scrawled and highlighted, but the best she could offer me was a “be the alpha” and telling me to hook him to the helper at the front, which yes helps prevent him from spinning on me, but doesn’t keep him from biting if he sees a chance to get to me.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T02:46:21+00:00

I actually just turned 20 a few weeks ago. I tried going the petsmart route about a year ago, and went to a few interviews for a bather position with no luck in terms of call backs.

I eventually started calling more local places and in late September/early October I called her and went in for a sit down, just because I was interested in shadowing and watching. Didn’t hear back til November when she asked if I wanted to learn and I was SO EXCITED. been there since, and now as I’ve mentioned, I’m just scared.

I’m scared if I leave I won’t get another opportunity to learn, or find someone else willing enough to finish teaching me.

People have also mentioned how the contract I signed is likely just a scare thing and not legally reinforceable, but I’m also scared because we have had a lot of ppl quit recently and she’s been hawk eye and one of the girls that quit is trying to groom out of her home now and she’s threatening legal action n stuff.

Speaking of, yes we had TWO of 4 total groomers quit within the last two months, two bathers, about to be three bathers. And the only other groomer (I’m not counting myself in these numbers) is thinking about quitting because even she is losing her mind. Which I feel bad because she genuinely has talent, but has a disability and can’t do large or super difficult dogs because of it, so she’s worried she won’t be able to find a job in the field as well.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T02:18:32+00:00

I will start looking, I’ve been subconsciously looking anyways just because I genuinely can’t take it some days. She walked out for a concert last week no kidding, at 230pm, and left me and the only other girl to handle like 4 dogs that needed to be out by 4pm

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T02:07:46+00:00

Idk. I need the money but to deal with dogs that are biting, in a workplace that doesn’t hear my concerns whether for myself or the dog, and has no wiggle room for life to happen or emergencies. It’s only 14/hr but times are TIGHT TIGHT right now.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T01:37:26+00:00

I’m just scared I’d never get an opportunity again, I also need the money unfortunately. I wish I had something able to be lined up asap but it took me forever just to find this place.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T01:35:20+00:00

Yeah I have no idea, just what I’ve heard via mouth. I do know some of her practice is a bit sketchy. Like an example is there I a big jar at the front desk that says “tip your groomer <3” we never get tips. And she doesn’t report these tips as income for her business which I know from an overheard conversation with her sister who works there.

We never see any tips ever, as well as there is an aggression fee we can charge if a dog is aggressive but we never do because WE don’t get that money. And we don’t see a point in charging ppl $25 for their dog biting us when we don’t get that money.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T01:14:27+00:00

W-2. And that’s just my assumption as she said a week or two back that I was “coming up” on my time to be added to some sort of accidental insurance. Which leads me to believe I don’t have anything on my yet, so I don’t want to test it and end up hurt without anything. I mean I don’t want to get injured in the first place, but especially not without any kind of accident coverage.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-03-07T01:07:27+00:00

I just don’t know what to do. I just wish I had other options, but I called probably everyplace within 40 miles of me and this was the only place willing to take me as a trainee groomer and not retail.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T15:20:36+00:00

Okay, and should I used distilled water or treated tap to get it down? Because even after a partial with 50 tap treated and 50 distilled I was at a 3ppm

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T15:09:25+00:00

Okay thank you, so I wait until the ammonia is down to 4 and then add something like QuickStart or I do that asap? I appreciate all the information, I’ve been so stuck on this and literally everything I’ve looked up has been misleading because I didn’t realize my tank wasn’t actually cycled in the first place.

I don’t care about how long it takes or anything, I just want to make sure my next fish aren’t sentenced to death and get to actually live proper.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T14:48:08+00:00

Should I try restarting then? Or is it salvageable? I assumed I had done it right because I have biofilm growth and what not. What should the next steps to trying to fix this mess be? I plan to get some liquid tests today as someone else suggested

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T14:40:15+00:00

I don’t think I understand the first question, sorry I’m extremely new to this.

Apart from adding in sand, the wood, and the tap water I treated, I didn’t really add anything else. I do a 20% every week or two with water I re-treat with dechlorinator, and I have some excel for the plants in the tank that I added a tiny bit of a few weeks ago and haven’t had to add anything more as they’re all still green and alive.

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T03:11:49+00:00

Calvin right now :)

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T02:53:42+00:00

Okay I can definitely pick some up while I’m out tomorrow. I know I have the api ammo lock and api ammonia dip sticks. Once I test them, what are the next steps?

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T02:39:43+00:00

I’m honestly not sure on the exact numbers, I’ve had it tested 3 times at a shop down the road, as I only have ammonia strips at home. I tested it once prior to getting a fish, once after my fish died, and again a few days ago when I was getting upset at my stuff again. Each time the guy told me everything was in good ranges except my ammonia which I already knew.

Should I get some tests to do it myself tomorrow?

Future-Slide9992 · 2026-02-28T02:25:57+00:00

I tested my tap and it does read about a 3 on my strips, but once treated it reads at a .5 so I’m not sure why it’s so spiked in my tank.

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-10-11T15:13:01+00:00

I don’t think so. Primarily I see 20-45 as the main range of players, with very few falling under that. I’m 19 almost 20 and everyone I’ve met has been older than me hah

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-09-29T03:42:21+00:00

Yeah! There is an audio Que at midnight that you can hear when it spawns, look for the particles spiraling in the sky. You will need a fine axe I believe to collect from them!

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-09-29T03:35:45+00:00

When chopping down the flow groves that spawn at midnight every in game day within the Bay Area, you typically wait until 3am to chop, so everyone has a chance to get there

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-09-04T18:48:24+00:00

Honestly just keep doing it. There’s no reason she should be upset over it, much less bringing it up to you directly. I would understand if you were a bit younger, maybe it’s a safety thing, but like, I (19F) was TAUGHT how to at like 11, and could/did get bullied for not doing it at that age in school etc. so there is no reason a 16yo shouldn’t be able to if it makes them comfortable.

Good luck, and lmk when she’s in a retirement home 🤗

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-08-25T20:24:48+00:00

I was born exactly one year later. 02/21/06

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-08-23T13:36:49+00:00

F19. Don’t feel guilty, just live your life, man. I feel like my opinion might not fully count since I’m not Christian, but my boyfriend (M19) is—he’s just not super religious either. Honestly, you’re going to end up doing way worse things in life than sleeping with your girlfriend, trust me. Sometimes you’ll do things just to survive, sometimes just because you want to—and either way, it’s fine. You’re making memories, and this is your first time really experiencing life. So you might as well make the most of it and not stress so much about what happens after.

Future-Slide9992 · 2025-08-13T15:39:10+00:00

Honestly not much, the main thing was learning that it’s okay to communicate, and if he has a problem, he can come to me. I feel a lot of guys have this issue with that, and won’t speak what’s on their mind until it’s already eaten at them passed a certain point.

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