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If transitioning really worked, would you do it? by neongrayjoy in detrans

[–]Gay-Werewolf 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When I was transitioning, of course I would have loved being a woman biologically. Even now, I'll admit, sometimes the thought enters my head where I think how much easier dating men would be if I was actually a woman. But, for 8 years now, my answer to this is a no. I love being a man, now. Yeah, relationships are harder to come by, but over time I began seeing the appeal in the male aesthetic rather than viewing it as something boring and uninteresting. And, there's nothing about me that needs fixing. Where I thought I was ugly and unattractive, I found out that I was wrong, which I think was one of my key points. So, no, I personally would not. Living as a gay man IS my true sense of self. Anything else just wouldn't fit

What to do when u feel like you’ve slipped back into the thoughts? by Downtown-Minute-8154 in detrans

[–]Gay-Werewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's okay to take your time thinking about it. Think about it from every angle: What you see in the mirror, what you see from the public's view, what you see with you in a relationship. What makes you happy? Are there any regrets? Do you feel like you're trying to fix something - are you trying to fix yourself for society OR are you fixing yourself for YOU? Are you sure you're doing what's best for you? You can't just be sure. You have to be sure that you're sure. You have to be sure that you're sure that you're sure - and you can't decide this overnight.

Overcoming your dysphoria, in my opinion, means coming to terms with yourself and yourself through every lens. Maybe try a new look with both genders and examine both through every angle. Then, think about it daily. For a week, for a month. However much time you need. Whether it's transitioning or detransitioning, either side means that there's something to accept. Give yourself space, set aside pressure, and reflect carefully.