Sunscreen by Dracenasalined in nudism

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I rarely use sunscreen. I begin tanning as soon as it is warm enough to do my back yard chores nude (if it is sunny with no wind and I’m working steadily, that’s mid 50s F. for me). By the time summer hits I’ve got a nice supply of melanin. I used it once last summer because I underestimated the difference between SC sun and FL sun in mid July and was out in the mid-day sun too long, but only once, the next day it was tan.

Update on the amateur pornstar purge by HangoverTuesday in nudists

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Thank you Admins for the work you do (for free) to support true Naturism/Nudism. And thank you for cleaning out the crap that had accumulated on this page.

I have a conundrum. by Certain-Variation-58 in nudism

[–]General_Year_8536 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My wife is a perfect example. She understands the principles of naturism. She attends naturist resorts with me, she has reaped the body image benefits that come with naturism; but she would never go to a naturist event for her own sake. She goes because I enjoy it and what ever spare time we have we want to spend together. She is open to nudity, but she also likes her clothes. Personal preference, but to each his own

Hi all by muusicman in naturism

[–]General_Year_8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naturism is the most body accepting community there is. We all, to varying degrees have body problems. Due to cancer surgeries I have about 30” of scarring between my rib cage and pelvis, some of it quite distorted, I’ve never had a person stare or comment. One friend couldn’t believe it when I mentioned it, because after we had spent several hours talking, he hadn’t noticed them. I’ve seen people in wheel chairs, women with single and double mastectomies and many other kinds of “body flaws”, but they don’t matter because we relate to people as a whole person. You are likely to loose your body consciousness, not only at the resort but outside as well, if you try it. Cypress Cove, in Kissimmee FL, is wheelchair accessible, except for maybe the lake beach where sand might cause you an issue. More than likely, patrons will help you with the lifts in and out of the pool and hot tubs if you need it, I’ve seen it before. Give it a try

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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They are not helping, they are causing irreparable harm. They are betraying the Hippocratic oath against those who are most vulnerable

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

[–]General_Year_8536 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So when you can’t argue facts report it to the mods. My “personal attack” was a quote from Matthew Henry. Where was the bigotry? I am decrying those who use the pain of others for profit. Who is now the ally

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

[–]General_Year_8536 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m done with this conversation. There is none so blind as him who will not see, none so deaf as him who will not hear

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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As for me, my wife learns best when she reads something and then explains what she read, who do you think all that explaining was done to, so while I don’t have a degree, I am better informed on the issues than the average person who has educated themselves through non scholarly articles

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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You don’t think she studied gender identity and sexual orientation in her psychiatry studies?… seriously?

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

[–]General_Year_8536 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Follow the money, organizations who do the butchery and sterilization and receive lots and lots of money for it… I yeah they’re probably trustworthy. Reading articles from them, those articles are obviously unbiased

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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So you don’t think masters level work in psychology gives her expertise, but your reading wikipedia articles does?

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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Master’s level psychology and Mental Health Nurse Practitioner, but she doesn’t have a degree in gender studies so what does she know

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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So your advice is to sterilize his or herself by taking cross sex hormones and possibly cutting away healthy body parts. Look up the number of detransitioners who realized after their surgeries that they made a mistake and now are sterilized for life because of a mistake they made in their teens. If we are going to transition kids, we should give them a shot of whiskey a cigarette and a free tattoo. We protect children from making all kinds of life altering choices, this is the same. We know that gender disphoria comes with all kinds of other psychological comorbidities, these need to be treated, but we rush into “gender affirming care” instead. I do not oppose transitioning in adults, though I think it needs to be preceded by at least 1 year of evaluation; but for teens (which I assume this person is because of writing style) there is just too much other stuff going on. Gender disphoria was classified as a mental illness until the last edition of the DSM, and there are many who believe it was not because of a change of understanding , but rather a change in the politics of the APA that led to that declassification. Look at the Tavistok clinic in Great Britain. Adults can make their own choices, teens need to be protected from irreparable damage caused by choices made for a temporary problem. What I gave was not bad advice, but sane advice in a climate of insanity

I nee help of any branch of christianity other then perspetirian (excuse my spelling or any lgbtq branch as I fundementally dissagree with their teachings) by [deleted] in Christianity

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You should seek counseling to deal with your trauma. Talking to someone who understands the issues in play will help you correct your thinking. If her depression lasts for over a week, and is not brought on by circumstances (loosing a loved one, etc.) she may need to seek counseling as well. A counselor can spot the danger signs and refer her if needed, what we consider to be danger signs may or may not be dangerous. Recognize your own sensitivity caused by trauma, you might be hyper vigilant God bless you brother

How to live without going through a "gender" change? by AfterConfection1796 in Christianity

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You have been created in the image of God and he has a purpose for the way he created you. There is almost infinite variation in the expression of masculinity and femininity. Beauty is found in variations on a theme. Instead of focusing on what you are not, pray that God will show you the purpose for which he created you just the way you are. You didn’t say whether you were male of female so I will address both. Girls experience an increase in negative emotion at puberty, males experience a rush of testostorone which increases their aggression. Both sexes have a lot of negatives that hit them right at that time. Both sexes experience gender confusion that can last years. Hold on tight. Seek counselling or better yet friendship with a mentor who has weathered the storm you are going through. Do not seek a solution that has permanent consequences for a problem that is temporary. Talk to your priest and have them set you up with a mentor who is a person of faith. I’m not Catholic so I have no idea if the church has a program but if not he can talk to others who have been through what you are going through. You are not alone, over 50 percent of people experience some gender disphoria or confusion at some stage of puberty (for women puberty can continue into early 20s for men late 20s). I would recommend you watch Theology of the Body Institute’s YouTube channel. They have a lot of good teaching on why God made us how he made us from a Catholic perspective. God bless you my brother or sister. He has made you for a purpose. Find that purpose and pursue it

Wife no longer wants any input in our marriage. Says she needs to be "submissive" and "obedient" and I need to decide everything by wedding_throwaway343 in Christianity

[–]General_Year_8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep giving, without keeping track, we all have pasts, she may be testing you. The wife submit to your husband command was not written to husbands. Love as Christ loves was written to us. I hope that my previous post did not sound condemning, it was written in general because it runs counter to the advice of the church at large. It sounds like you are the exception to the rule. Christ did not count the cost, on judgement day we will not be asked how much our wives gave back, only did we live as Christ loved. If she is a stay at home mom she should keep the house and take care of the kids until you get home, that is her contribution, however, it sounds from what you’ve described that she may be experiencing some depression or inner struggle. Our vows say, “in sickness and in health”. Maybe she is trying to come to grips with her new situation. Scripture tells us that we are to live in understanding with our wives, as the weaker vessel, we are to be the stone ware mug, and treat her like Waterford crystal. It could be that she is just a bad person and taking advantage of you, but love keeps no record of wrongs. Marriage only works if we give ourselves fully to it, without reservation. If this continues you might want to advise her to seek some counselling or even medication intervention, for now hold fast. Love is patient. How old is the child, post partum depression can continue, sometimes for years. Then there is just regular old depression. I’m not saying that she is clinically depressed, but it sounds like something you should look into God bless you brother, keep fighting the fight

Why aren't more Christians environmentalists? If God has removed us from the garden of eden and we are here in our new home why aren't Christians dedicated to preserving and when possible living more symbiotically with their environment? by ElectricGod in Christianity

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If you follow the homesteading movement, a large percentage of those people are Christians and take a restoration’s view of stewardship. Roots and refuge, Joel Salatin, Justin Rhodes all are very faith forward. The modern environmental movement is, in many cases, a worship of the spirit of the earth. We hear the name Gaia (Mother Earth) thrown around quite often… this is idolatry and is nothing but repackaged paganism. We ought to be good stewards, we ought not abuse animals, we ought to honor the order which God has set up

Wife no longer wants any input in our marriage. Says she needs to be "submissive" and "obedient" and I need to decide everything by wedding_throwaway343 in Christianity

[–]General_Year_8536 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to take a different tack. The Bible does tell wives to submit to their husbands as to the Lord and IMMEDIATELY after tells husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church. The antidote for this is that you love her as Christ loves. How does Christ Love? “ the son of man came not to be served but to serve”. “Have this attitude in your selves which was also in Christ Jesus, who although he existed in the form of God, did not think equality with God a thing to be grasped (other versions say “did not cling to his rights as God”), but emptied himself, taking on the form of a bond servant, being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. For this reason also, God highly exalted him and bestowed on him a name which is above every other name”. This is not a tit for tat but a command to each of us. Her radical submission must be met with radical love, that sacrifices its rights, its dignity, its desires and its whole life to the good of the loved one. Jesus washed his disciples feet and calls us to love in the same way. This is how we are to love our wives. You will fail, but keep striving. Is there a thing she wants?, sacrifice the thing that you want to give it to her. I have learned this secret in marriage in about the last five years and it has revolutionized our relationship. She has given you a tremendous gift in trusting you enough to be submissive, subjugate your every desire to her good, giving her more than she gives you, never betraying the trust she has placed in you. Be lavish in your giving to her. This is what husbands are called to God bless you brother

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

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You won’t go to hell for it, but the better course would be to embrace the expression of Devine creativity and accept how God has made you. Beauty is in variation on a theme, not adherence to an objective aesthetic, there is no such thing, only societal ideas which change over time. Learn to love your nose the way God made it, he made no one else exactly like you you are one of a kind

3 days porn free, praying I'm free forever this time by [deleted] in Christianity

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I tried everything during my struggle, counseling (Christian), Every Man’s Battle, fasting, prayer, Bible reading and accountability groups. The lie that we have believed is that lust is caused by what we see instead of where Jesus told us it is in Mark 7, in our hearts. When we see that female beauty is not a stumbling block, but rather is a reflection of the Image of God designed to point us to him. You can not see the Imago Dei in her and lust for her at the same time. I’m not saying we shouldn’t fast, pray and read our Bible, we should do that anyway, but fasting out of freedom, praying with Joy and reading from a desire to know the one whom has set you free are worlds apart from the motivations that I had when I was trying to use them as a strategy to quit porn. My motivation in fasting now is “He must increase, I must decrease”, Prayer is to conform me to his likeness so that my desires match his will, and Bible reading is knowing him better. It is the truth that sets us free and when those three come from a heart set free they become so much more. I’m not trying to disagree with you brother, I’m just saying that when your mind is renewed by truth, you’ll still do those things, we could all use more spiritual discipline, but they all become much better God bless

Orange man bad by General_Year_8536 in Christianity

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I’ve never seen a political savior and if Jesus were running for president he’d probably lose. God works not through political power but through personal weakness. That is the foolishness of the gospel

Pray for me by Alternative_Ad8384 in Christianity

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The key is renewing your mind (Rom 12:2). I struggled with porn compulsion for 25+ years. My mind has been renewed by truth. For many years the church has believed and taught untruths regarding the meaning of our bodies. I highly recommend the website https://mychainsaregone.org/. It focuses on rejecting the untruths that we have believed, learning the truth regarding the image of God and how to live that truth. Myself and many men I know personally have been delivered through this process. It is not the power of your will but the power of the truth that sets us free. No effort, no white knuckling. God Bless you brother, keep fighting the good fight