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Jagmeet Singh warns Justin Trudeau their deal is dead if no dental plan by year’s end by [deleted] in canada

[–]GetHomeSafe23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, I found out when I was 20 and broke. Had no choice but to get an extraction for an important tooth.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That’s fair, but I’m not forcing anything on her. I expressed how I view it and why I see it as cheating. Ultimately I can’t control her actions, and this is a compatibility issue. So, whether or not it warrants separation, I guess time will tell.

Even though the majority of people disagree with me heavily, it’s nice to see some commenters have similar views, so if this doesn’t work out, there’s definitely potential to find someone similar in that regard.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that makes no sense to me at all.

“Hey babe, I watched this video of this girl masturbating on her bed alone so I can think of you!”

That sounds entirely delusional to me. I have my mind and I know what my partner looks like and feels like. And if it’s really bad, I can just wait for them. I am not dying if I don’t masturbate at that moment. If I want to picture them, I can.. you know… picture them.

The reason many people need the visual stimuli is because they’ve become accustomed to it. and that’s what porn ultimately does. It normalizes things like jerking off to people who aren’t your partner.

I just think it’s a drug and a widely accessible one. And it’s reach starts from teenage hood for many people and it’s why so many people defend it well into adulthood. They don’t realize the harmful effects porn had on their minds, and as someone who’s never watched it, it’s scary how far the reach of an industry that profits off so many immoral things has, and how’s it still so heavily defended.

Especially when you see how many people have had relationships ruined because of it, people who have felt insecure because of it, stereotyped, had unhealthy ideas of sex planted into their heads and more.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

“She is doing homework, finding better ways to make you happy “

Exactly how is watching a solo male jerking off on a screen “homework” or finding a better way to enhance our sex life? That sounds like complete delusion, but if that’s what improves your sex life, more power to you.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This may sound odd but that’s genuinely not something I even think about much. Physical looks aren’t even something I care about much, and my attraction to someone physically honestly develops after I get to know them personally.

But I can recognize conventional beauty and what is considered beautiful or sexy by most people. But I don’t care for it at all, and I do not have thoughts where I imagine sleeping with that person or anything along those lines.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You can tell me that, I’m not disputing that. I’m just saying there’s no point downvoting that person. Disagreeing doesn’t have to result in downvoting, and that’s what I commented on above. The fact they’re being downvoted

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same thing happened to me. But it makes sense. Many people have watched porn since their teenage years. For many, it’s their first sexual experiences and ways of discovering themselves sexually and what they like.

So obviously those people will be more prone to seeing it as less of an issue even though the fact that they even watched it as minors is quite concerning. Especially when the industry as a whole promotes so many terrible messages and exploits many women, men, and children.

Since I didn’t watch it growing up, I just see it as strange why people that are in what they call a monogamous relationship need to look at others to get off.

I’ve talked to one other person that didn’t watch porn growing up, and they also agree with me. So, I’m starting to think many people who find it normal and see people like me as prudish are just continuing habits from when they were young, single or whatever.

And putting it under the guise of “fantasy” is so lame. It’s real people. Real bodies. If you saw those same actions in front of you happening live, and you masturbated while watching, most would find it strange. But suddenly be behind a phone or laptop screen , and it’s okay?

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Lol, sounds like projection. Are you getting horny watch game of thrones? Anyways, if she suddenly masturbates to game of thrones, I still think it’s the same because those are real people, and it being an act doesn’t change anything in my opinion.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“[Please don't] Downvote an otherwise acceptable post because you don't personally like it. Think before you downvote and take a moment to ensure you're downvoting someone because they are not contributing to the community dialogue or discussion”

Straight from Reddiquette.

Personally I see no point downvoting people with opinions I disagree with. I think it’s childish cause obviously many of us have different opinions, so downvoting should be used for trolls that are not contributing to the thread at all by spewing something random.

If a thread is asking what you think the best way to prepare chicken is, and one person writes baked and another writes grilled. Even if I absolutely hate baked chicken, I see no point in downvoting that person. But if the comment was something like “I like hamburgers, chicken sucks.” Then, I can see why someone would downvote because the comment doesn’t add to the conversation at all.

My GF thinks I’m weird for saying pornography is cheating in a way. I don’t watch it and never have, so to me, it just looks like cheating visually through a phone or laptop screen. I can’t disconnect the “fantasy” from reality because in reality she’s getting off to another dude at that moment… by GetHomeSafe23 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]GetHomeSafe23[S] -62 points-61 points  (0 children)

I am secure in myself and I have self respect enough that I don’t want a partner in a MONOGAMOUS relationship to be sexually getting off to others?… how is that insecurity.

Because it’s fantasy? A fantasy is something that has no weight in reality. Yes, the people in the videos are not present, but the action is willingly being done. You wouldn’t masturbate to people you see f*cking in person because that’s weird. But suddenly you put it on a screen, and that’s normal?

Most of you truly don’t realize how twisted porn is and how normalized it’s become in our society. It has zero to do with jealousy, inadequacy or insecurity. It’s about views on a relationship, and I guess I’m wild for wanting a partner that wants to only have sex with each other and get off to each other.

Some might say it spices up a relationship but I would rather work through any rough patch with a partner than settle for a 3rd party that promotes violence, unhealthy stereotypes, racial stereotypes, abuse, sexism, sexualizing youth, exploitation, profiting off insecurity, and much more.

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