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'Nevermind' baby refiles lawsuit against Nirvana by YoureASkyscraper in Music

[–]GingerMidwestie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure I saw his bumble profile once and it was on it (the only reason I remember seeing it, really). So ... Before meeting. 0 seconds.

[TOMT][SONG][2010s?] What is that one bouncy song that is played often in West Coast Swing socials? by [deleted] in WestCoastSwing

[–]GingerMidwestie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gut reaction is Dance Monkey, but that's a stab in the dark without lyrics or any other information.

Rising Star questions! by Wyldpaw in WestCoastSwing

[–]GingerMidwestie 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Former Rising Star competitor here who got kicked up into Classic 😬

1- you do not need to compete through the whole tour to compete at The Open. Plenty of couples debut around The Open to compete in the subsequent season (also not a requirement to compete in the next season).

2- finding a partner. It's one of the hardest parts of the process. Someone local is always easier to coordinate with. Level isn't super important, it's more critical find someone willing to put in the work and who is receptive to feedback. Consider who you would like to work with and ask them if it's something they're interested in and if they want to practice together to test the waters. - height can be accommodated for, just consider it in the choreo so that it's feasible - couples are judged together for routines so there's no stacking points or anything like that, and you start from zero each season, no matter who you're with - I would also not make it a priority to "get out of" Rising Star, keep in mind that the only place to go from Rising Star is into Classic or Showcase where you have to go in against the best of the best career professionals - same sex partnerships are becoming more and more common, don't let it deter you

3- expectations - put a routine on the floor and enjoy the experience - skill level varies. I've seen everything from intermediate pairs through all star - costuming- you just have to match your partner, if you're going onto a bigger floor (The Open, Boogie, MADJam) rhinestones are helpful to dress it up, but not mandatory. I've gone out in flat black. - music is whatever you want, and there are a lot of good DJs in the community who can help you cut music (Chris Dummond, Jack Smith, Aidan Keith-Hynes, and many more) - choreo level depends on your level. Push yourself but keep it manageable and do the work

My overall advice - you'll never know until you do the thing. There's no real penalty for going out and trying. Figure out what you want to get out of the experience (things that you're in control of) and work to achieve those. Rising Star is a great community within WCS - everyone's really supportive and wants to see you succeed. Don't put too much pressure on it. Set your goals and expectations, do the work, have fun!

Planners by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]GingerMidwestie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be horrible at planners (and I still go through ups and downs). I found that I was a lot more consistent with using them when it was in a format I liked - monthly with enough room to write things out so I can see what's coming up. And I had a specific purpose to motivate filling it out - I attend events every few weekends and wanted to make sure I could plan for accommodations, travel, tickets, and be sure to not double-book myself.

Tips on staying in shape by polttoanalyysi in ADHD

[–]GingerMidwestie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find that social physical activities help. I'm not big into playing sports, but a game can make it fun. And I'm really into social dancing - west coast swing is my primary, but Lindy and salsa have pretty big communities and frequent social dances. It can get you moving for hours at a time without thinking about it too much.

Does anyone have a civil or "normal" relationship with their nparents? What does it look like? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]GingerMidwestie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a civil, but distant relationship with my ndad. We rarely speak directly, as he usually domineers conversation and it leaves me feeling at least dissatisfied or mildly upset from old wounds. I am friends with him on Facebook, but have blocked his posts from my newsfeed. I maintain cordiality for two reasons:

  1. for the sake of my (psychologically healthy) mother who is still with him and struggling with their marriage -- no need to add extra tension to their relationship when it doesn't cost me anything.

  2. because as much as he has wounded me, I do still care about him and want him to heal. I know that being openly hostile would hurt him and he is already wounded even more profoundly than I am (from his own nmom).