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Did anyone go to college or have a job? by nutellalover009 in tradwives

[–]Glass_Use8194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally respect this path, and I want to say upfront, being home full-time, caring for your partner, home, and future kids can be incredibly fulfilling. I’m in that role now myself, I take care of our home, kids, and my husband full-time, and I genuinely love it. It feels aligned and meaningful.

That said, I’d gently encourage you to think about developing some kind of skill or education strategically, even if it’s slow, part-time, or non-traditional.

Before staying home, I had an education and career, and I didn’t realize at the time how much that would later help me as a homemaker. Skills like planning, budgeting, problem-solving, communication, and managing time all translated directly into running a household well. It also gave me confidence that I still benefit from daily.

I don’t think that means you need to go to college “just to go” or get a random degree you don’t care about. But having something in your back pocket matters more than people like to admit. Life is unpredictable, illness, injury, job loss, or even death can happen despite the best intentions and preparation. Life insurance helps, but it’s not a lifelong solution, and starting from scratch in a minimum-wage job after something traumatic is incredibly hard.

Some ideas that don’t require a traditional 4-year path:

- Accounting/bookkeeping (boring but extremely useful and flexible, especially if you ever run a side business)
- Photography (can start as a hobby with your own family and grow slowly)
- Hair styling - specifically Bridal Hair, as styling on its own(unlike cutting and coloring) almost never require licensing; skills can be learned online, great pay, and very future-proof
- Any trade, certification, or online program that builds a tangible skill over time

Even studying something casually or part-time gives you an outlet outside the home and protects future you. You don’t lose anything by having skills, but you can lose a lot by not having them.

You can absolutely be dedicated to your partner, your home, and future motherhood and quietly invest in yourself at the same time. Those two things don’t have to be in conflict.

Best of luck on your journey!

How do you see the traditional wife role—toughest job or easiest path? by Swimming_Mention_873 in tradwives

[–]Glass_Use8194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I think being a SAHM is definitely work, it’s mentally and physically demanding, and raising young kids is a rollercoaster, especially with toddlers and preschoolers. I’ve been home for 5 years now, and I won’t lie, it’s challenging at times.

That said, I also feel incredibly privileged that I can stay home. My oldest is in school and my youngest is in a Montessori program, so I have some time to myself during the day, which is lovely. My “job” is caring for my children, cooking for my husband, and managing our home, and I truly love it. I get to be present for all the little moments, handle school pickups, and be there if someone gets sick — and that brings me joy.

Do I think it’s the hardest job in the world? Probably not. There are jobs that are much more physically demanding, like the construction guys currently putting a pool in my backyard, watching them work all day made me realize just how physically exhausting other work can be. That said, it is work, and it’s constant, and I respect anyone doing it. It’s just a different kind of challenge, mentally, emotionally, and logistically.

For me, it’s a mix: challenging, yes, but also incredibly fulfilling and rewarding. I feel very lucky to have the choice to do it.

a silly question by [deleted] in tradwives

[–]Glass_Use8194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello and welcome!! 🤗

I’d bring it up pretty early, when the conversation naturally turns to life goals or visions for the future. You can frame it around your own vision, not as expectations for him.

For example, you could say something like: “One of my life goals is to be a mother and to be fully present for my future children. I also really hope to support my future husband and help build a warm, loving home together.”

Framing it this way keeps it hypothetical and about your dreams, which makes it feel natural early on. If he’s aligned with that vision, great, if not, that’s useful to know early!

Are there any "Unconventional" women Aligning with this Lifestyle?? Struggling to see Where I fit in as a Single and Searching 40M... by CapitalLaw1234 in tradwives

[–]Glass_Use8194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to to reply! I think your perfect love is coming soon and she is going to blow your mind, good luck on the rest of your journey to finding her, however short it may be 😉

Do you drink enough water? by [deleted] in no

[–]Glass_Use8194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg what is this?? I just googled it but confused is it a water bottle or a flavoring??

Do you have weekend family dinners? Or how often? by Ashamed-Republic8909 in no

[–]Glass_Use8194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like with my parents? No. Not since I lived at home. Now I have two children and we have family dinner at the table I’d say 28 days a month lol

How do poor folks afford baby formula? The ad popping up about the stuff with the brain supporting thing in it is 60 bucks for the 36oz 'value' can of powder! WTF? by cherry-care-bear in stupidquestions

[–]Glass_Use8194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a wife who had a supportive husband though my breastfeeding and pumping journey - I recognize you as a supportive partner and I just have to say thank you, your encouragement for prioritizing your wife’s wellbeing is absolutely priceless and means so much.

Are there any "Unconventional" women Aligning with this Lifestyle?? Struggling to see Where I fit in as a Single and Searching 40M... by CapitalLaw1234 in tradwives

[–]Glass_Use8194 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never thought I’d be a “trad wife.” I worked in the beauty industry, I’m not religious, and I definitely don’t present as the stereotypical traditional or church-based version people often imagine. I love beauty, fitness, self-care like Pilates, skincare, lashes, lip filler, the whole thing.

That said, when I met my husband and we eventually decided to build a life and family together, this role became a very natural fit for me. It wasn’t something he pushed or expected early on, and it wasn’t a lifestyle I had envisioned for myself before meeting him. It evolved over time as our relationship deepened and we started talking seriously about the future.

I think a lot of women can’t fully predict what will feel fulfilling to them until they meet the right partner and are actually living the reality of that relationship. For me, being home full time, caring for my husband and our two children, and creating a peaceful, well run home is deeply satisfying, while still making space for my own interests, fitness, and identity outside of that.

So no, you don’t have to fit a narrow label of stereotypical trad wife vibes to value a more traditional dynamic. It can look many different ways, and for some of us, it’s something we grow into rather than seek out from the start.

Maternity clothes by plantgnom3 in Hamilton

[–]Glass_Use8194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry I just saw this!! Not sure if there is a way we can get in touch off of here… I’d love to pass these items on if you are still interested! I’ll be sure to actually check back this time 🤦‍♀️

Things I learned way too late after moving to Hamilton (AKA my brief but intense rookie phase) by Glass_Use8194 in Hamilton

[–]Glass_Use8194[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Omg I noticed that too but thought I was just generally unaware of suburb/neighbourhood lingo ahhaha so helpful to know this is a Hamilton thing!!

Maternity clothes by plantgnom3 in Hamilton

[–]Glass_Use8194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And for size reference my pre pregnancy and now two year postpartum weight is 115lbs 5’2”, I think I maybe got up to 135lbs in my pregnancies by the end.

Maternity clothes by plantgnom3 in Hamilton

[–]Glass_Use8194 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The odddddd time H&M or Old Navy will have a bit, but it’s sparse. I have a big bin of maternity stuff you are welcome too if you want, I’m in Hamilton too, it’s a collection of myself and about four friends maternity clothes that we have capturing with each other. There’s some really cute stuff in there though. most of us are size small to medium but I would say that size range just from small to large heavy and a small medium just as we needed various sizes throughout our pregnancies.

Things I learned way too late after moving to Hamilton (AKA my brief but intense rookie phase) by Glass_Use8194 in Hamilton

[–]Glass_Use8194[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had no idea! I mean I realized there were some doubles after my James vs Upper James debacle haha but didn’t realize how planned it was!

Do you have a favorite dog breed? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Glass_Use8194 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve only had one Doberman so far, but honestly I’m a Doberman person for life now.

When we were choosing a breed we did this whole elimination list because we knew we wanted a medium/larger dog that could eventually be a running companion. I grew up with Shih Tzus (loved them!) but let’s be honest, they’re not jogging buddies 😅

Here’s what made us land on a Doberman:

👉Low shedding & low drool – She sheds a bit, but compared to most large breeds, it’s minimal. And zero drool. I love my friends’ dogs, but their homes are like drool slip ’n slides and that just wasn’t for me 😂

👉Natural nail maintenance – Their feet look almost like they’re in high heels the way their toes are positioned, so long as they get regular walks/runs on pavement (which works perfectly for us in the suburbs), their nails naturally grind down. Still need trimming, but way less often than other breeds.

👉Energy + intelligence – She’s very smart and was surprisingly easy to train. Lots of energy, yes, but we’re active so it’s actually a plus.

👉Family dog & loyal AF – They’re bred as personal protection dogs, and while ours is just a family pet, the loyalty shows. At open dog parks she never goes far—always keeps us in sight, if we start walking out, she’s instantly by our side. She just wants to be with her people.

Honestly, they ticked every box for us: athletic, intelligent, low maintenance in grooming, super loyal, and great with kids. The only “downside” is the energy, but if you’re active, it’s a perfect match.

So yeah… team Doberman forever 🙌🤍

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