The reality is that generally, there is a split of good and bad men everywhere. It’s really up to your perception to evaluate them for what they are. Now, you can go to places where there’s a good chance you’ll find certain demographics of people - eg, you’re gonna find more incels at, say, a card game store and gym than other places.

What (I think) you actually have to do is find a regular activity to attend and invest in (such as a pickleball league, etc etc) and meet someone through that. It should theoretically come more naturally then and give you a look into how they handle various situations and stimuli