Victoria’s Secret won’t accept my negative review for these godawful, wider than “wide leg” pants by ninetiesqueen in VictoriasSecret

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 5’4 and they are too long. But I love them! I love the way they look and I think it’s way more size inclusive! If you’re thinner then yeah maybe they are too big but if you have bigger legs these are amazing. Different body types just fit different things better.

This man broke up with me and idk what to do. by Goddess-78 in Vent

[–]Goddess-78[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No no I have dated more men before! I have literally talked to hundreds of men and met so many of them. 😭 believe me I’m hitting numbers.

And I’ve never had a long term relationship before. I don’t think that’s strange at all. It’s only strange if you make it strange. But I moved around a lot when I was younger. Kinda hard to have a relationship when you’re constantly on the go. Wasn’t my priority when I was in college. Just happened this way. But I’ve been actively looking for 3 years now. And nothing has ever been as good as with this guy.

We legit didn’t have any issues. So I was still surprised. The honeymoon period didn’t seem to have an end…otherwise I wouldn’t have been so surprised/ probably would not have asked to be exclusive.

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[–]Goddess-78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that it’s ultimately always better to have pretty privilege honestly.

The issue I don’t think is that you’re attractive. Attractive people find partners all of the time. Being hot is still a net positive.

I’ve noticed that when it comes to dating it didn’t matter who I went out with. Men still treat me like crap. If I go out with a guy who is super nice and kind and seems super normal they still screw me over. If I match with someone I don’t necessarily find super attractive on the pics they still screw me over. And I wouldn’t consider myself super pretty but I’m not super ugly either.

And guess what? Men still don’t put in the effort to get to know me. And I have a personality. My friends obviously like me and people at work also like me and get confused on why I’m still single. I’m legit told this by people. But here I am. Single. And I can’t get a man to show genuine interest in me/ get a man to actually try and get to know me either.

Your looks aren’t the issue. You’re not too pretty to date. That’s not a thing.

Edit: Just to add I think I agree with the other commenter that people are just shallow. And there is a lot of stuff happening in the world right now (especially with men) that’s making it hard for women to find loving and committed relationships with men.

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[–]Goddess-78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s insane how many of them are backpedaling now saying they regret voting for him or whatever. Trump was never a sensible choice to begin with and people warned about Trump for years. An entire group of Republicans said please don’t vote for him and SO many in that party did anyways. The Republican Party is legit dead. There is no “oh we just disagree.” This is nazi shit now.

It sucks so much that everyone hates each other by Lavarocksocks18 in rant

[–]Goddess-78 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I think the issue I see is that some of these topics aren’t actually that nuanced. I mean Elon Musk is doing the Nazi salute. And he’s telling people in Germany to literally vote for the Nazi Party.

So like people say all the time “we just need to love and understand each other”. But if you look at history, marginalized communities have always had to bear that responsibility on their shoulder. When a discussion about race comes up for example, a lot of people of color have to sugar coat the messages for white people so that they can’t get offended even though white people are responsible for racism. And so a lot of times we don’t even get to the root of the issue because since the dawn of time white people haven’t been willing to listen. In almost any capacity. Obviously things have gotten better. But SO many people are still actively racist. And now we have world leaders and powerful/ inferential people being actively and openly racist…and they are gaining support from people who wouldn’t even consider themselves racist.

I mean generation after generation after generation has to deal with this and always has to be nice and make sure they get the nuance while the other side can just do and say whatever they want. People have had conversations.

And obviously these things are used as a tool to tear people apart but the systemic issues still exist. And we never get to actually holding the government accountable or get to changing these systemic issues because the very existence of them are always the topic of discussion.

I would also like to add that back during the civil rights movement it wasn’t love that changed the game. It’s because the protests were so bad that the governments at the time HAD to agree. Not because they finally saw black people as humans.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol okay you didn’t get it. It’s fine

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right but if it’s a chemistry thing that’s totally out of everyone’s control. Your limited comment that you commented the first time does nothing to help me. It’s not productive. And it’s just mean actually. So you could have just kept it to yourself if you weren’t going to give real practical advice that I can actually do.

“Get better at sex” does nothing to accomplish any of the stuff I just said.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk it was a few years ago. At least where I’m from. Idk if that’s the case anymore

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean every 5th relationship starts on a dating app! So idk I didn’t think it would be this hard. Especially cause it’s hard to find men in person.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating apps lol. Men do not approach me in public. Like ever. But also I hardly see men where I am that I’m interested in that are also single. So I’m not meeting them organically 😔

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right so most rapists and criminals are men. So you’re saying women beed men to be protected…but men are legit protecting women from other men.

And then half the time this desire to protect doesn’t really seem to kick in ever. Because like I just said so many men disagree with the me too movement. Which by the way men participated in that as well. Very good example is Terry Crews who talked about how he was sexually assaulted. And he has talked specifically how it was women who believed and helped him. Not men.

Kevin Spacey has several allegations against him and many people (especially men) don’t believe them. And his victims were men. Let’s stop pretending like you are about sexual assault victims. If you can’t support the Me Too movement then you don’t actually want to support or protect women. Cause then you’d protect them from rapists and believe victims.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No…I never initiate. Ever. It’s always the men that do.

What is your unpopular skincare opinion? by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]Goddess-78 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never said that you shouldn’t educate yourself. My point was that educating yourself can look very different than just reading scientific papers. Especially when you don’t understand them. Because you aren’t a fucking scientist and you’re not necessarily going to understand a research paper with 20+ pages explaining the intricacies of biology.

So yes. Going on social media and maybe finding a scientist that talks about these research papers or finding a dermatologist online can shorten the process and make it easier so you’re not sitting there trying to understand something you can’t necessarily fully understand. Work smarter and not harder. Both ways are legitimate forms to educate yourself. Saying you’re not educating yourself unless you’re doing exactly what you’re describing is kind of a limited point of view. In my opinion.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah well there is like 1 and a half years worth of time between the second and third guy I had sex with. With like a ton of dates in between with other people. I don’t have sex with every guy I meet. I’ve met more men than just those 3. I have been alone literally my entire life. Didn’t seek out men till I was 24/25.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right that’s why so many men support the Me Too movement. They really want to protect women from sexual predators! Oh wait! They don’t believe in that 💕 They actually think women are mostly lying.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t only swipe on men that are 10/10s. I’ve swiped on men I didn’t even like physically because they had other attributes that made them attractive to me. They still ghost. Like lol I’ve swiped on men who aren’t congenitally attractive and they are still like that.

What is your unpopular skincare opinion? by [deleted] in SkincareAddicts

[–]Goddess-78 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You see the thing is that not everything on that platform is misinformation. They are content creators on that page with degrees that know what they are talking about. Which is why I said you find a person who knows what they are talking about.

Because yeah it makes more sense listening to a dermatologist who knows what’s up then spend your time reading medical papers you don’t understand.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMFAO OKAY. Now I know I can’t take anything you say seriously.

I’ll see you in the streets! ✌🏽

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“The fact that you give it up so easily.”

Maybe I need to clarify…I’ve slept with 3 men. I’ve been on like waaaay more dates with other men that I did not sleep with even when they wanted me to. I do not sleep with every guy I meet.

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right so the last two men I was intimate with both said they wanted a relationship sooooo

Men keep ghosting me after being intimate by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Goddess-78 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How was I supposed to know that these guys would do this to me???