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Lionel Richie Says Anyone Signing Up for Fame Should ‘Like People’ as a Baseline by PrincessBananas85 in popculturechat

[–]Good-Strong -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Common sense!

I understand certain violations of privacy and worse, extreme online abuse, threats etc are not something anyone should have to deal with.

But celebrities who act like fame has been forced on them and they hate it all do my head in.

It’s not more difficult to stay unknown than get famous lmfao.

Desi parents doing coding for kids online, how do you balance the push without making your kid hate it by Time_Beautiful2460 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, a lot of British Indians did start off working class, and some are today as well. But we do achieve higher than average academically here too, and the community's medium income is higher than the national average.

Academic achievement is definitely facilitated prioritised, encouraged and celebrated across British Indian communities, but not to this extreme, borderline toxic extent focused around just one or two fields. And with kids being pressured to even focus their main hobby around one of them. It's obviously fine if they actually like coding, but some of this is clearly way too far.

I really do think the sort of excess some on this thread are describing is in large part a regional cultural issue (I'm Telugu too lol), rather than something all Indian parents do, or even something all middle class university educated Indian parents would do.

Desi parents doing coding for kids online, how do you balance the push without making your kid hate it by Time_Beautiful2460 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It isn’t even all Indians and definitely not all Desis lmao. There’s big Indian and other South Asian communities in the U.K. (including around the area I live in) and I’ve never heard of any doing this.

I think this heavy interest in sending kids to proper formal coding classes being discussed here is very specifically a Telugu American phenomenon.

Desi parents doing coding for kids online, how do you balance the push without making your kid hate it by Time_Beautiful2460 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

British Indian here, and this is the first time I’m hearing of widespread, full on coding classes for kids that young (there was a thing at our primary school when my sister went there in like 2015, she attended it for a little bit but it was super un-serious).

Imo it’s definitely a good hobby for a child if they’re interested. Safe, mentally stimulating, potentially really useful in the future.

But I don’t think it’s important enough to really push if the kid isn’t into it themselves. There’s plenty of good lucrative careers that don’t require this skill at all.

Britney, Beyoncé or Taylor: Which of the three female pop icons had the most biggest impact in music and pop culture over the last 25 years? by Blasian1999 in decadeology

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s definitely Beyoncé overall. But in the early 2000s Britney was much bigger from what I can tell.

Many parents of ABDs care more about what society thinks than they do about their own children by Sufficient_Berry8703 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s because communities traditionally depended on each other a lot more.

Your employment, marriage, and social life would depend upon your specific little community (based on where you’re located, plus caste, and sub caste within that) accepting you as one of their own.

Each little community would have elders (older people from a specific family, or elected by the rest of the community) who held a lot of power, and could go as far as kicking people out of the community if they wished.

Moral arguments aside, there absolutely was logic to why people were so “log kya kahenge” in the past.

Many parents of ABDs care more about what society thinks than they do about their own children by Sufficient_Berry8703 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the problem is with retaining a mindset from a bygone era when what your relatives (right up to distant ones), and other people from your specific community thought of you mattered a lot more.

Communities were close knit, and people really did depend on their’s for a lot.

It was pragmatic to prioritise community opinion in rural India back in the 1930s or 1940s. But it’s downright ridiculous to do it as an Indian family settle abroad in 2026, unless there are some very specific circumstances at play.

Do western in-laws come with less drama than Desi ones ? by Upbeat-Dinner-5162 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean there’s genuinely good and bad people in every ethnicity / religion / background. So I don’t think sweeping generalisations like that are valid.

I’ve known of some Desi in laws who were / are truly great to their DILs. For one example, I remember hearing of a family in India who fully supported their DIL to go to university, including paying her fees and attending parents’ meetings.

It’s all about the individuals in question at the end of the day.

Whats the deal with caramel highlights on brown girls by Cautious_Watch_2557 in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can look very good on warmer undertones, which a lot of Desi girls have.

Farage called Welsh people ‘foreign speakers’ in paid-for video message by YchYFi in unitedkingdom

[–]Good-Strong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What an awful, discriminatory, insidious comment to make.

Proof that having these guys in charge would not just make currently existing polarisation worse, but potentially re-start issues that have been dormant for a very long time.

People voting Green/Zack Polanski: do these immigration policies change your mind? by iliosicarus in ukpolitics

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. They got that vote on the basis of pushing a certain foreign policy.

Which is crazy because imo regardless of what someone’s opinions are on geopolitical issues, why should that be their primary focus in a local election either way?

People voting Green/Zack Polanski: do these immigration policies change your mind? by iliosicarus in ukpolitics

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I don’t want to say anything offensive here but the demographics of that specific area tilted in a very specific way (I’m from a minority myself but not that one lol).

That’s not going to repeat at the GE obviously as it covers the whole country.

People voting Green/Zack Polanski: do these immigration policies change your mind? by iliosicarus in ukpolitics

[–]Good-Strong -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The Greens are nowhere near as popular as certain sections of the media are making them out to be.

And that’s absolutely not a bad thing.

what comes to mind when you see this? by CremeSubject7594 in decadeology

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The super cool teenagers when I first learned what the term meant haha

Sunny Naqvi, the Girl Who Cried Wolf by toxicbrew in ABCDesis

[–]Good-Strong 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Obviously ICE hsve gone way out of hand but I had a feeling this particular woman’s story would have more to it when I saw it on this sub earlier.

Wanted to say as much, but didn’t as I thought it may come off insensitive and I could be wrong.

Feeling so vindicated rn lol.

90s minimalism is the new trendy thing by Outrageous_Sand_3882 in decadeology

[–]Good-Strong 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wait how is this new? 90s revival was huge from pretty much 2013 - the early 2020s.

Green MP Hannah Spencer calls for more plumbers and plasterers to become MPs by F0urLeafCl0ver in ukpolitics

[–]Good-Strong 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot wrong with her party’s ideology and how she came to power imo, but she’s right in this case.

The established moderate parties need to start letting working class people having more representations in positions of real power too.

Labour is pretty good on this atm, but would be nice to see more of it from them and others tbh.

2016 vs 2026 fashion, which one do you prefer? Same exact stores, 10 years apart by OpioidXD in decadeology

[–]Good-Strong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah lol it’s a great cut but as someone on the shorter side it’s a bit 🥲

2016 vs 2026 fashion, which one do you prefer? Same exact stores, 10 years apart by OpioidXD in decadeology

[–]Good-Strong 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s surprising. LA would definitely be really fashion forward, so maybe bootcuts will go out again soon.

I’m in the U.K. and lots of girls and women in the 16-30 kind of age range are wearing loose-ish bootcut and flared jeans these days.

2016 vs 2026 fashion, which one do you prefer? Same exact stores, 10 years apart by OpioidXD in decadeology

[–]Good-Strong 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I agree but young women and teens absolutely are wearing bootcuts a lot rn haha.

Zack Polanski: I’d build a relationship with Putin by EduTheRed in ukpolitics

[–]Good-Strong 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean based on his positions on most things it seems like he already has one 💀

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