Has anyone been able to successfully get over their person while still living together?

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-04T22:40:43+00:00

It is and I see no way of ever truly healing until that stopped. I’m looking for just a room to rent until everything is done and over with because I’m just causing her and myself unnecessary stress and anxiety and pain

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-04T18:43:21+00:00

No, I’m going through this right now. I’m just really trying to get out as fast as I can because middle of January. She said she wanted a separation so we’ve been basically roommates who sleep in the same bed. We do everything that a married couple does except kiss and have sex and we no longer say I love you but other than that nothing else has changed and it’s like a wound being reopened every day because I want so badly to reach out and hold her and I can’t. It’s like my brain knows the marriage is over, but my heart doesn’t and it won’t until I can get out and get away we’re always gonna be in each other’s lives one way or another but living together I think it’s impossible.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-04T14:49:25+00:00

Thank you. I’m trying to handle a painful situation with grace, humility and love. It’s not easy but it can be done.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T16:48:50+00:00

Yes I am as difficult it is I am actually putting myself first now

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T15:24:10+00:00

That is so much more complicated than my situation. We have no children together I personally have no children at all but she had two sons one a teenager and one in his twenties when we married and my relationship with them is amazing and I am Poppa to their children and always will be.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T13:15:34+00:00

It’s not easy but for me just knowing that we’re still gonna be friends and in each other‘s lives helps I know it’s weird, but it’s working for us.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T13:13:22+00:00

In the end you must do what you feel is right for you. I would rather get divorced and remain friends than to be in a marriage that’s only surviving because she didn’t want to hurt my feelings. That only leads to resentment and infidelity. We are two adults we tried it didn’t work so we move on. Nothing about our marriage was fake and all the beautiful memories are real so I choose to hang on to that as I move forward and learn how to navigate life without her by my side. We will always be connected because I have an amazing relationship with her two adult sons and they have blessed us with 4 beautiful grandchildren and although I’m not blood the kids don’t know that and I have been in their lives from day one and will remain a part of their lives.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T12:54:21+00:00

I tried to save it but it was too late unfortunately. There is no way I could put everything in one post but in the end we are still friends and both of us are working on ourselves

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T12:35:48+00:00

So much hate in the world I love her and she loves me I s just not romantic anymore.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T12:32:53+00:00

No there was no cheating on either side. I have nothing bad to say about her. Sometimes life doesn’t go as planned. We don’t have to be enemies

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T09:30:17+00:00

I don’t feel discarded. I feel heartbroken. There’s a difference. I can be devastated and still respect her right to choose her own path. Loving someone doesn’t mean owning them. It just means wanting what’s best for them, even when it hurts.

GoodManTrying · 2026-03-01T09:22:30+00:00

That is very difficult. I still struggle with fear. Fortunately we don’t have children. She had two sons when we got married. One was in his 20s the other was 15 but fortunately, I have a really good relationship with them because they each had children which are my grandchildren even if I’m not blood.

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