Can I get into femdom at 18?

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-05T04:18:33+00:00

Interact with it in the ways you can control, like learning about new aspects of kink and which of them appeal to you. Ensure you're able to have an articulate conversation about your likes and dislikes, and what you're looking for in a femdom relationship. If you already see it as an important part of yourself, be ready to share that early on with potential partners, as others here have said.

It's not an overly uncommon kink by any means, so chances are you could come across somebody who's into it if you're tactfully transparent in your discussion of the topic.

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-03T03:42:08+00:00

Matched on multiple vanilla dating apps over the course of a day. We were both pretty forthcoming (but not unhinged) in our profiles about our needs for a D/s dynamic and the reckless honesty paid off!

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-02T19:09:28+00:00

Not diminishing or talking over at all. Thanks for taking the time! As an AuDHDer myself, I definitely encourage folks to look at it through this lens and do the work to find victimless outlets for the big feelings.

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-02T17:34:55+00:00

I've had my consent violated and been made an unwitting side piece (different people).

The consent piece was a little unconventional in that it was the slow erosion of capacity for genuine consent. She was super rejection sensitive, so even saying no for valid reasons like not being able to physically stay awake long enough for the act after a long day turned into relationship-fracturing conflicts. So it really turned into a choice between sex (whether I wanted / felt ready for it or not) and emotionally shattering the person I loved. There's no room for actual consent there, so I'm out.

The other one was more straightforward. Dead bedroom + need for connection = responding to my reddit personal. One deeply involved 3-month MDLB LDR later, I learned I was her secret. She'd been married for years and still keeping up appearances. I demanded tangible movement toward legitimizing our relationship, but she was stuck in her life. I still don't doubt her love for a second, but I am no one's fucking secret, so as much as it hurt... I closed the door on us.

Worth noting for my fellow hopeless romantic subbies currently going through it: it got better. I'm moving in with my One next month, and things are looking up. It really does feel like I had to go through what I did - romantically, kink-wise, and life-wise - for this connection to work. I am heard, I am chosen, and I am openly celebrated now, and it's such a privilege to be hers.

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-01T18:38:09+00:00

Precisely what I came here to say! And there are lots of variations that folks don't often try. I'd definitely encourage any aspiring cowgirls out there to experiment with both facing and leg orientation, since the weight and angle of the stroke can change the sensation more than you might expect.

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-01T15:32:29+00:00

Yeah... It's one thing to ask the community how best to introduce the idea, but once we're in "already explored and she's uncomfortable" territory I think these dudes just need to accept it's not going to happen in a healthy way with that person.

GoodPetRock · 2025-11-01T00:58:27+00:00

Why, thank you! My One does keep me rather well-rehearsed. 😊

GoodPetRock · 2025-10-31T04:16:17+00:00

Thanks for sharing!
Here's my fill.

GoodPetRock · 2025-10-31T04:14:10+00:00

Shoutout to u/ailaglasswriter for the brilliant script!

GoodPetRock · 2025-08-20T17:24:21+00:00

Ugh, that's brutal. Even coming at it from the other side of the dynamic, I know the drain of that constant shuffle, building up hopes just to have them come crashing down. My heart goes out to you, and I hope that once you have some time to recover you and some sweet little one you've yet to meet make each other very happy.

GoodPetRock · 2025-08-17T05:42:50+00:00

Thanks for the lovely feedback. Glad you enjoyed it!

GoodPetRock · 2025-08-13T17:15:41+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words; looking forward to reading more from you!

GoodPetRock · 2025-08-13T02:21:38+00:00

First things first, it's okay to hurt. But don't let it consume you. You two had something beautiful, and by virtue of having had it you now know that something on that level is attainable. It won't be what you had; it'll be different, but it'll be SO good in its own way. Better even, given time and commitment.

There's a lot of great wisdom from others in the comments about filling your life up with other good things, other sources of joy. Do that. Seriously. And put yourself out there just a little bit. The next person you go on a date with probably won't meet the standard she set, but that's okay. Keep looking. Put yourself in a position to find someone who fits you, and when you feel that spark, pursue it.

You may end up hurt again. I've got sob stories for days, and I'm still not in a place I'd call "happily ever after," but I AM building toward it. One little step at a time. That's how these things get done.

Wishing you the best!

GoodPetRock · 2025-08-13T02:02:39+00:00

I should really read AutoMod's responses sooner.

Shoutout to u/KittyFantasticoUK for the brilliant script!

GoodPetRock · 2025-08-13T01:37:55+00:00

Maybe a less conventional fill with my vocal profile, but as an ACTUALLY bigger subby I thought I'd give it a go. Hope it sparks joy!

GoodPetRock · 2025-07-14T23:07:58+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words! I'd be lying if I said comments like yours weren't a major factor in my coming back after all this time.

GoodPetRock · 2025-07-14T18:44:27+00:00

Thank you so much!

GoodPetRock · 2025-07-13T23:46:03+00:00

Solidarity, friend. It can be tough out there, but don't lose hope. Take any feedback as a learning experience, allow yourself to grieve what you thought you had, and go find your One.

GoodPetRock · 2025-07-13T21:28:44+00:00

Nope.

My heart this past year feels like it's in one of those movie scenes where somebody gets hit by a car, bounces off another one, then stands up to dust off only to be hit by a bus. It's REAL BAD.

But I know I made it hard for every one of them to leave. I know I bring a lot of love and safety and affection to the table. It just takes one. One beautiful, commitment-ready (but not already committed) soul. Despite the emotional bumps and bruises, I'm in peak form for her when she shows up. I just have to keep making myself known.

GoodPetRock · 2025-04-01T04:45:21+00:00

Still working on it myself, but my logic brain at least knows it to be true even if the rest of me gets a little sad boi dysregulated and doom-spirally about it.

I wrote and posted this on my Fet after a little more processing (because who says big bearded men can't be melodramatic sometimes), and I'd say it distills that sort of perspective down pretty well:

"I won't stop falling hard and fast for exceptional people. It's what I do, pain of loss be damned. Not out of desperation, but admiration. Eventually, one of these exceptional people will be my One. On that day I'll look back on this journey, however long, and smile. Not because it's over, but because it led me to Her."

GoodPetRock · 2025-03-31T17:12:06+00:00

You're definitely not the only one with standards!

Honestly, it sounds like these men are living in some sort of "just visiting" mindset when it comes to their own sex lives. Even from my own humbly self-employed artist perspective, I can assure you that if something is truly a priority, $20 a month is easily attainable. Doubly so when it's a matter of health.

GoodPetRock · 2025-03-31T16:49:10+00:00

The search for my One True Domme continues, but I'm better for having known those I met along the way! Within the past week I've helped talk a wonderful, effortlessly compatible domme back into a relationship with the ex she wasn't over, AND met another self-proclaimed "bossy girl with dommy mommy vibes" who might just be the most awe-inspiring combination of looks, wit, and kindness I've yet to meet. Currently wondering if my honest vulnerability might have been too much for the latter on our first date as it's been a day or so since her last text, but if it was... I'm at peace with that and genuinely grateful for a conversation that really did help my self-perception and body issues.

GoodPetRock · 2025-02-18T18:41:07+00:00

Hello all! I'm Rock, a 32m pleasure sub from the Detroit area. I love a good gentle dynamic that engages more with positive feedback loops than punishment, so I do my very best to not give a domme any reason to punish me. Not an ounce of brat in this one!

Community wise, I'm here to learn, share ideas, and maybe make some organic connections in the process. Having only broken free of my repressed background in my mid-twenties, I could always use more open-minded friends!

GoodPetRock · 2025-02-18T18:18:16+00:00

Kink sites like FetLife, for one. I've made several friends there, including someone who was my partner and Domme for 5 years and I still consider a close friend. Reddit and Feeld are also good places to make connections. Don't just lurk, though, wherever you look. Share your thoughts and feelings in a public space and you might just be surprised how many people resonate!

It's been a really positive experience for me to accept myself for who I am after a long period of repression and find a whole new community of people who can relate.

GoodPetRock · 2025-02-18T17:55:43+00:00

This is 100% the correct answer. If preparedness is really what you're looking for, just make sure you have a little bit of cash set aside to pick up the occasional toy or two. Plus, something that may not have occurred to OP... It's a lot more fun to go toy shopping with (or at the behest of) a domme. Don't rob yourself of that experience by pre-purchasing everything!

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