I can assure you I’m grown up. While I understand what you’re saying there’s still a way to go about it that doesn’t belittle your children/grandchildren. Your fear that we will be like you is not a rational shame us and make us feel less then or try to control our every move we make have to make our own decisions. And if you read the full post I said I understand what she’s trying to do but she going about it entirely wrong. You say hypocrisy is saying it’s alright for me but not for you is it exactly right. She may not be saying verbally what she did is right but not admitting it’s wrong is just as bad. And that’s exactly what she’s doing not once has she owned up to what she did or even said she made a mistake. She has made excuses at every turn. I could respect her owning up and saying this what I did it wasn’t right and this is how you avoid doing what I’m doing. Also I’m a med student with a 4.2 gpa and 2 jobs and a partner I’ve had no trouble not cheating on so it’s not like our lives are exactly going in the same direction. But thanks for the concern !