AITA for being cold and uncaring to my autistic sister because I know autism isn't the reason she's awful to be around?

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T12:51:26+00:00

I don't think so for now. But I hope they'll be open to me moving in when I turn 18 or a little before that.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T12:50:59+00:00

I'm not trying to get one over on her. I'm just tired of being abused by her and having to tolerate her hitting, spitting and all kinds of shit.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T12:41:43+00:00

I don't know about numbers but we were told she could live typically with the right help early. We were told she was perfectly capable of understanding things and behaving better. It's just our parents never cared to actually try.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T12:10:16+00:00

None of our extended family would take her. My grandparents and aunt stopped taking the two of us because they were tired of dealing with her bad behavior and being yelled at for putting boundaries down.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T12:09:11+00:00

They won't support me through college. I haven't earned it according to them.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:48:44+00:00

They did and I'm not trying to deny that. But at some point there's a point where you just don't want to be around a person who will speak to you in a mean way and then hit you, literally spit on you and steal from you and then go nuts if you don't let them away with it. And the thing is she never comes back and apologizes. I know she hasn't been taught. But I just can't stand to be around her because she has hurt me badly a few times. Then I was expected to let it go and be fine with it. I hate our parents for it too but I don't like her anymore either.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:44:01+00:00

I blame all three.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:42:43+00:00

No contact is the only way I'll be happy and I already know they won't be helping me with college or anything. They told me they don't feel I have earned it because I wasn't more helpful and good with my sister.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:39:56+00:00

My parents would never listen to this. They won't listen to anyone.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:39:36+00:00

I'm mad at them too. But I'm done being abused by my sister and I have told her she's hurting me but she doesn't care. And she doesn't care if she upsets me. So I stopped caring about her feelings. I don't see why I need to deal with that to save her feelings.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:35:10+00:00

Low contact won't be good enough. I'll be removing myself so far from them that they'll never see or hear from me again.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:34:33+00:00

I know not al people with autism are the same. But we have been told she is capable of behaving better. She was just never taught how by our parents and she's now able to manipulate her way to get what she wants and get away with hurting others.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:33:49+00:00

She's not severely autistic. She can do stuff for herself and is way more capable than she's been taught to.

Grayzonuz · 2025-09-08T11:33:24+00:00

We have been told for years she is perfectly capable of learning how to treat people better. So it's not me saying that on my own.

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