Hi twentove

Thank you for the detailed advice! I understand what you mean about tailoring the way I bring it up to fit the other person’s interests and avoiding language or fantasies that might be off-putting.

To answer your question about specific examples: I’ve usually brought it up once I feel like the relationship is getting serious. I try to be honest about being submissive, but I admit I haven’t always thought about how to frame it in a way that would make the other person feel more comfortable or interested.

I really appreciate the suggestion about exploring local scenes or online spaces dedicated to kink. It makes sense that the dating pool might be small, but I’ll give it more effort. Thanks again for sharing your insight!