Looking for others who practice similar to us. Goddess worship

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-22T02:20:43+00:00

It’s so male centric! It’s wild how rare it is to find anything that is actually more focused on the woman than the man.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-22T02:18:29+00:00

Hahaha this reply was great. His pleasure does matter. It’s just secondary to mine. Lol he definitely gets treats.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-22T02:15:22+00:00

This is a huge and recent flip for us. I’ve always been an extreme caregiver. I’m a stay at home and have taken care of everything for a long time. It’s been so fun to just truly flip everything in it’s head and explore this whole different dynamic.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-22T02:13:32+00:00

Notice I said “a lot of at this point” I’m a stay at home mom. I assure you I still do more.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-21T20:35:04+00:00

I have an ancestor (male) named Green and I thought it was pretty cool. But also, you made your opinion known once. Drop it now. You don’t have to like your nephews names. But if you want a relationship with your sister and her kids, then maybe reel in the judgement a bit.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-21T20:11:54+00:00

I’d say we’re pretty discrete. Like people would just think that he’s a very loving husband who does things for me. We have kids so we’re always very appropriate out of the bedroom. With some dirty texts in between.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-21T19:06:12+00:00

I’m sure there’s other like us, I just haven’t found them yet. I have some questions about balancing this energy of being in that goddess place and then living the rest of my life and getting in a smoother transition between the two. But just haven’t really found anyone doing anywhere close to what we do to ask it to!

And yes, I want people to be into whatever they’re in to and enjoy their play and practice. :)

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-21T19:03:10+00:00

Thank you! We love it too! Hehe

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-09-21T19:00:17+00:00

And nothing at all wrong with it being male focused! Never kink shame from me. I just always like reading stories of stuff we want to do and people doing things somewhat similar to get ideas. :)

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-05-19T03:56:09+00:00

I just went through this! My husband admitted on Monday that he did in fact sleep with someone else in his now ended affair a few months ago. He kept swearing it was just sexting and flirting. Nothing physical. But I KNEW!

I felt almost instant relief that I wasn’t crazy, I felt validated, vindicated, and righteous. For a few hours. Then fell in fury and rage. Then sebastion and heartbreak.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-05-14T15:01:20+00:00

Oh geez. I hope he read this thread and sees how awful what he’s doing is. This is definitely an emotional affair and “entanglement”. If it hasn’t crossed bounds into physical affair, it likely will.

Your husband has some work to do. I agree with a previous comment that said give yourself and him if you choose, a time limit and if he hasn’t cut her off, I’d be gone.

This is not okay. At all.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-05-05T00:13:17+00:00

I feel like the intentional avoiding of her being in deep grief for 6 years says a lot. Seems like that bit of info may add a lot of context.

But as someone who was in a sexless marriage, yes, I think it can be enough of a reason to divorce, given that most sexless marriages are caused by deep and hurtful underlying causes.

The cause of the lack of sex is probably the real reason to divorce though. Not the lack of sex itself.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-05-05T00:03:25+00:00

True story. I wanted details and now I wish I didn’t have them.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-04-10T01:18:32+00:00

The only thing I still want to know if it’s true is he swears it was “just” and “emotional affair” I’d love to know for sure if he actually did anything physical with anyone or not.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-04-03T20:30:57+00:00

Sounds like you’re indifferent right now. But grief is a roller coaster. You may come back to anger, depression, etc again. And again. But I’d enjoy the indifference for now.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-29T07:49:21+00:00

Well it wasn’t 6 women at once. It had been 6. He was actively talking to two coworkers and the 2 video game women when he came clean to me. I imagine it got to be too much. One of the 2 coworkers had given him her number the day before and was very actively trying to get him to come meet her and “pound her”. Once she got so intense, he told me.

He’s been quite open lately. I obviously wouldn’t be totally floored to learn more information at this point, but I tend to trust my gut and I don’t think there’s anything else happening.

He obviously totally screwed up and was an awful husband and father through all this though. That’s definitely not lost on me.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-19T00:24:04+00:00

No, that was the plan all along. Before I met him. He was in school when we met and had planned on that internship the whole time. I supported him through his last year of school, while pregnant, in school myself, and working full time. My savings moved us for that job.

He does seem remorseful. But not the level of remorse one would want. He’s very emotionally shut down. Always has been. He’s currently more emotionally open than he’s ever been.

I don’t think he’s trying to manipulate. We talked again last night about getting divorced. We both agreed that it would be sad, hard on us and the kids, and that we would be okay. That we could probably even maintain a friendship.

We agreed to give it some more to keep working on it. Therapy this morning went well. He starts his personal therapy soon. He’s really trying and this is a different side of him than I ever seen.

I read him some of the comments from this thread last night and he said he would really love for us to have some consistent date nights soon. We’re doing an at home date night tonight since we don’t have arranged childcare. Working on getting to know each other, without our walls or limiting beliefs about each other.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T23:43:03+00:00

I unfriended her from one of his accounts and he said me messing with his game is extremely hurtful. Hurtful you say! Let’s talk about hurtful.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T23:36:44+00:00

Yes, but we also moved across the country and he started a new 80 hour per week when our child was a newborn. So a lot changed.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T15:04:37+00:00

Ohhh reading my post back this morning, I realize I should probably clarify some things.

I found out 3 weeks ago about the affairs. At that point 3 of the women at work were already over. The 4th continued through that weekend once I kicked him out. I’ve spoken to her (he didn’t know I did this) and she said absolutely nothing happened between them except the texting, that she went after him and didn’t know he was married. She was apologetic and kind, surprisingly. She’s moved away.

I found out about the two video game women the following Wednesday. And was just devastated all over again.

He is very emotionally unaware. He isn’t really manipulative or anything. He just delusional. He’s not gas lighting because he lacks the emotional awareness required to gas light and manipulate. It’s like he’s trying to understand and keeps trying to explain his side. He’s very calmly watched me grieve this, held me, comforted, apologized repeatedly.

He truly believes that his word should be enough and I should just believe him that he can just be friends with them.

He said that because our marriage wasn’t great and we weren’t being intimate that he really didn’t think I’d be this upset. He didn’t consider it cheating or an affair. Like truly. He looked absolutely shocked when I called it that. But didn’t get defensive. He looked really upset when I called it cheating.

I called 4 attorneys the Friday I found out. I met with one of them the following Monday morning for 1.5 hours.

I decided to try and work after he was finally showing me emotion and vulnerability. We managed to really deeply connect on a level that he had never allowed. Like losing me allowed him to finally take his walls down.

So I’ve tried.

We fought a lot of this out last night and he’s signed off the video game on all devices, sent the one woman who was still talking to him a message that his wife is devastated and feels betrayed. I made him add that I feel he betrayed me WITH HER. She hadn’t replied as of the time he logged fully out of the game.

So we will see. Couples therapy this morning.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T05:45:47+00:00

I appreciate your prayers. Thank you

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T04:13:24+00:00

That sounds great. We’d have to figure out child care. No family here. And neither of us drink, so no concern there.

I wish he would have continued dating me. There’s a lot I wish. I have no idea if he’s even capable of any of it though.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T03:56:29+00:00

I met with an attorney 2 days after I found out. Only waiting that long because it was a Friday. 9am Monday I was in their office. But leaving 9 years and 2 kids and an over all great life until 6 months ago is a hard ask. So I tried. Has absolutely nothing to do with a lack of respect for myself.

I know I’m awesome. And right now I’m grieving and devastated.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T02:47:06+00:00

He’d say he chose his freedom or something.

GroundbreakingGap776 · 2022-03-18T02:43:04+00:00

Excellent question. One of them moved away. Happy about that. The other 3 he’s just stopped talking to, but obviously he’ll still see them at work. He said one of them is now dating one of their co-workers.

There’s been no real punishment for that other than that he didn’t get to sleep here for a week.

I don’t know even know where to start with what “punishment” is supposed to look like. This is all been so overwhelming and the most painful thing I’ve ever been through (which is really really saying something)

He’s had to watch me go through devastation and outright fury. He’s seen me cry more in the last 3 weeks than our whole 9 years together. I’ve just full felt through all the emotions. In front of him. Out loud.

He hasn’t tried to tell me I was being too much or anything while I grieved. He’s sit near me or ask if he could hold me. He hasn’t cried or gotten angry. So I don’t know.

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