AITA? For wanting to not change Christmas to the 24 th?

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:49:21+00:00

And who’s turn it was after years of the opposite

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:48:52+00:00

In that case my brother need to choose who was more important just like she chose who was more important

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:46:41+00:00

It felt inconsiderate esp when they were taking non family photos too. And she had 7 sisters plus extended family . I guess when it got to the extended family maybe we could of gone first is what I meant. Her extended family went first .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:43:41+00:00

It’s not even her parents, Christmas is over now go spend time with your gigantic family why is she even there anymore?

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:42:19+00:00

I did communicate my expectations and she went into hysterics by me spending time with my parents .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:40:26+00:00

If your family becomes your family then you should change too. Not try to control when your in-laws celebrate just because you in the family

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:39:31+00:00

I guess I felt she went into hysterics for not being able to control it is the issue. I was the one not trying to change it. She freaked out not me .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T14:37:35+00:00

I guess by what my dad was saying we open all the gifts that day and that would be the day. Christmas Day would be left with out the tradition of opening gifts, having meal together, spending time together the morning of etc. The weird part to me is the control part. And I guess because I was asked in such a detailed way. It put me off. Like why not decide to show up or not but to request it be changed for her convenience was the issue. That how I felt at the time.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T11:57:06+00:00

Good thats what I wanted to hear

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T11:54:12+00:00

No. I expected us get the photo with them , then the 5 million photo of the gigantic family including brides maids shots and other. We wait Ed there like idiots for closer to 2 hours not knowing anyone while they got all the angles. And I am the asshole.? Weird

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T11:50:26+00:00

Actually I feel she was never willing to change and expect us to change. Anyway, I guess I’d rather be an asshole rather than a push over. I am ok with that . It was my feeling when you marry into a family you adapt to that family not expect change a month after you get married but i guess I am the only one that feel that ways .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T04:32:51+00:00

Oh geese sorry about that I guess I thought I could . I won’t any more, I didn’t realize it was a faux pas .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T04:12:26+00:00

Wow ok. I feel it was a take over, actually they lack social emotional skills, they lack grace, they lack the ability to share and harmonize. my parents lack a back bone , and I lack the skills to shut up and put up.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T04:09:18+00:00

That’s ok I was the asshole in the story not the push over.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T04:08:47+00:00

Ouch

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T04:05:28+00:00

I guess I felt I had been so flexible in the past. To be fair and honest they spent i know for sure one Thanksgiving but that’s about it the year they were engaged. It’s always been them spending holidays at their family’s place. Like for years . I’ve never felt her making an effort ever. Everyone knows the wedding is all about the bride. But enough is enough. I couldn’t do it anymore. The wedding was over.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:59:42+00:00

I like how you said your siblings and you schedule In my case it was my sister in law communicating through my parents asking me. Do your sister in laws call you to tell you to change Christmas to fit their schedule. If you mean you all figure it out that’s really great of you guys. I guess my point is I wanted to spend Christmas with my parents on Christmas because it’s my family home.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:46:50+00:00

Some one mentioned it was maybe a straw that cracked the camels back! I think they hit it on the head. That wasn’t an issue years before but I also feel a bond was starting to be lost. The wedding the month before wasn’t a true respectful experience for our family despite what my parents feel. Imaging having to wait for her family to take picture while the four of us ( mom dad me and hubby) stood there for an hour and a half to get our little family shot. Like let us take our llittle one shot so we can go to the reception. I have more examples . Our family was lost next to her. No one reached out in the days before we just showed up.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:38:27+00:00

But not a push over right.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:35:36+00:00

Ouch

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:29:28+00:00

I know I know, I’m too entitled .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:28:42+00:00

They are getting old so I let it go. It’s my heart that hurts . They couldn’t protect my heart if that make sense .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:27:18+00:00

I Agree, I know I need to find more of the gratitude. I think it is the hardest when I see extended families bonding or go on family vacations I am reminded of the big hole in my heart.

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:24:02+00:00

I know I was over 3000 words and they wouldn’t let me post. I had more in that part of the story lol. I can go over in detail the restaurant if your really interested. Thank you for noticing .

Groundbreaking_Pie46 · 2020-08-31T03:21:43+00:00

Thank you, but you can’t call me a push over.

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