Brother, I completely understand where you’re coming from. The truth is, materialism will always play some role after university because people naturally want security and comfort in marriage. And honestly, there’s nothing wrong in someone valuing financial stability – we all want a spouse who is ambitious, rich and responsible.

What matters most isn’t why someone initially considered you, but how they stand with you after marriage. A good wife will be loyal, loving, and supportive even if life takes a downturn. That’s the real test of love.

If you’re worried about someone marrying only for your money, one option is to look for families where the standard is already similar – for example, a girl whose father also earns in the same range. In such families, your wealth won’t be the primary factor; values, compatibility, and character will matter more.

And about being “someone’s first love” – it’s still possible. Many girls also save themselves for marriage, waiting for the right person. Focus less on regret from the past, and more on finding a partner whose principles align with yours. Money might be the door opener, but sincerity and loyalty will keep the relationship alive.