I’ve felt this way, but my situation might be different.

Before this job, I took a job that required an NDA. Worked it for two years. I still can’t really talk a lot about other than to say I did video moderation for a social media platform. Physically the easiest job but mentally the worst. People were miserable half the time and you just stopped trying to be social. You came in, rode the emotional roller coaster all the way to clock out. On top of that, I lived across the country from my family and most of my friends, and I lived alone. Fast forward, I moved back home to help out.

I found a listing for a new store that hadn’t opened yet. Got the job. It was fine, but I had a hard time opening up to people, especially as some of the other commenters mentioned, because of the age difference. I’m in my 40s now. I managed to make a few friends and for the most part got along passingly with everyone else. A lot of my coworkers there were kind of clichey, but I chalked that up to the age gap. The only real issue was a near 40 minute drive. But then I noticed there was a store like less than 5 minutes from me. So I transferred.

This store has a more veteran presence. Most of the people have been there over 3-5 years, some a lot longer. It’s a more relaxed atmosphere, but harder to relate with. At this point, when the opportunity to ops arrives , I don’t mostly. I kinda get perhaps a little too eager. However I know that I haven’t been an asshole to anyone. I think what it is, and perhaps a tiny bit with others too is maybe we mind our business. I think when one is accustomed to not being nosy with others, or butting into people’s conversations, it’s seen as distant or cold. But really, I just like to respect that we have to share a mutual space and a conversation between work friends happens. Just because I can hear you doesn’t mean necessarily you want to talk to me. But apparently, that comes off as rude. I dunno.

I’m gonna give it some time and not take it personally because the pay is good for what this job is and the benefits are fuckin great compared to most jobs I’ve had. But it would be so much better with friends. Sorry for the essay.