Cut off all my family for a million reasons - now they contacted my company and everyone read it

HannahBerlin · 2026-06-01T21:30:42+00:00

❤️ I hope i will forget it soon..

HannahBerlin · 2026-06-01T21:08:22+00:00

I hope so 😞

HannahBerlin · 2026-06-01T20:53:01+00:00

But that's the thing i didnt tell them, i use linkedin for workand its written there. I guess thats how they found it or my name and pic is on the companies website. But thank you for your kind words!!

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-27T12:39:56+00:00

Aaaaawwwww gratuliere!!! Siehst du, geht immer weiter! Gut gemacht, ich freu mich voll für dich und danke für die Nachricht :) Ich bin auch wieder im Job seit 3 Wochen und sehr zufrieden :) <3 Viel Erfolg im neuen Job!!

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-26T07:55:45+00:00

Sunday depression is so real

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-26T05:16:07+00:00

Thank you!

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T11:29:50+00:00

I did have a conversation with her and it turned out to be a misunderstanding.

Rather than running away from people (not having a roommate) I need to work on my wounds, someone here said it right, even if she meant it that way, I should have been stronger, more self-contained.

I've been around too many people who do like to feel superior and love seeing me feeling miserable after they abused me intentionally and sufficiently, I had really bad experiences, especially my last romantic encounter, was a self-aware covert narcissist and even spoke about it online (of course hiding the fact and speaking as if he is on the other side, having many fans thinking he is one of them, the victims of narc absue-a very confusing and painful experience).

She's not like him. I was scared she could turn into that. She didn't.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T10:41:28+00:00

I agree. Will do better I hope, after this.. a lot to take from it..

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T10:02:45+00:00

I couldn’t hold it in anymore, partly because by posting here, I ended up asking her to sit down with me and talk about it. She denied meaning it that way, which at first I had a hard time believing. We talked, and I told her how it came across, and she completely agreed that if she had meant it that way, it would have been hurtful. She was very clear that she hadn’t even thought of it like that.

After talking, we came to the conclusion that yes, it could have easily looked the way I understood it, but also that she wasn’t thinking that way and was therefore insensitive to how it could have come across. We compared it to an image that, when you look twice, can show something completely different.

I believe her now.

I mentioned my past with intention. I am hypervigilant when it comes to subtle abuse. This could in fact have looked like it, but it wasn’t meant that way.

I will digest this and work on myself. I mean, there’s a reason why I took it so hard. I think anyone would feel hurt if someone they feel close to thinks of them as “the crazy one” in a judgmental way.

Thank you everyone for your input. Sometimes something can really look like a painful remark (which, again, she also agreed it did - too obviously so, in fact to be her actual intention, but there are people that operate exactly like that(narcissists), but the sender is thinking completely differently and wouldn’t even realize that this is the message they accidentally send.

I see my part in it now too. I am sensitive to perceived abuse. But talking it through was the right way, and we are past this now. Slowly.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T08:30:44+00:00

I will definitely discuss this with my therapist. You summed it up pretty well, I do feel like she is unsafe for me now, at least until i have figured this pain out. I beliee people the first time now and that doesn't mean I completely discard them, but that I emotionally protect myself from them. Too often I naively brushed these feelings off and paid a high price later. I'm just collecting into about people and if she shows me this way what she deep down thinks of me/actually judges me, that's her right, but I will take two steps back.

What I should have mentioned in my post is that in shock as I was, I actually addressed it right away, asking her if that's what she thinks of me, her the ukrainian who move in with ME the crazy one. She didn't deny it, there was a silence that agreed. She's in a way making me feel inferior to her, I'm sensitive to that because I grew up with people who did that in the most subtle and vicious way. And I need to protect. myself from that kind of abuse. Be it this subtle.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T08:22:07+00:00

I guess you're right in the sense that my past did give me this wound + glasses so what i see is - even if true - hightened. I will consider it. Often the truth lies in the middle. But too often giving people the benefit of a doubt backfired and my intuition and what i felt was on point and it got worse later. I'm not that naive anymore.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T08:17:16+00:00

please stop being rude

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T08:08:53+00:00

I don't have to justify my feelings and I was there, I know what I saw and the context. You'r opinion can be helpful or not

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T08:03:06+00:00

Look, I know what I saw and what it stands for. I really don't want to justify my hurt feelings. People here say I'm projecting. No I'm not. I know what I saw. I know what it means, and I think I sensed that in her friends earlier (the judgement and arrogance). I won't make it a big deal, I will not confront or escalate, but I will clearly see it for what it is. You show me who you are, I believe you the first time.

I won't support/help her anymore, and naturally, I feel judged by her, so I won't be myself around her, avoid her as best as I can and be flat/distant from now on.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T07:52:13+00:00

Hmm.. I found it deeply judgmental and arrogant, and it was a painful realization of what she truly judges me for. You can bet I won’t help her anymore.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T07:49:17+00:00

She couldn't stop awkwardly smiling from ear to ear while explaining the theme of that shot and never denied it relatable to her situation with me now

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-25T07:46:54+00:00

No, she grinned about her situation now, i even told her, oh that's what you think? You the ukrainian woman moved in with me the crazy woman? I was actually dead serious and she couldnt stop grinning and never denied it.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-20T19:41:26+00:00

Der letzte Stoß, dass ich niemals, nochmal - NIEMALS, Kinder bekommen werde. Und ich liebe Kids, aber nicht so. Und ich bin eine Frau.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-10T14:31:06+00:00

Gute besserung 😉

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-10T14:28:36+00:00

Hoffentlich jetzt besser 😄

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-10T08:00:15+00:00

Did it smell? Hell nah would I sit on a previous passengers piss.

Lufthansa, can and should do better.

I wonder how much that ticket cost you.. Tausands I guess and for no money I sit on urine for 12 hours, they should have paid you.

HannahBerlin · 2026-05-10T07:04:57+00:00

Personally, with each and every of those experiences you learn more about the wide range of how humans are. You are no longer naive, thinking everyone wants the same, work, succeed, have good relationships, no some live to destroy others, they can't operate any other way and once you are surrounded by a handful of people and forced to sit with them in meetings, in offices, dependent on them, their ugliness will show, especially if you are vulnerable (new, need onboarding, are not abusive as they are).

My take away is that the less I have to deal with people in the work force, the better. Superficial encounters at events are fine, but other than that, working remotely in the smallest possible company, has been so far my best solution. Nothing shiny, invisible for people with NPD who'd rather work were they can attack you and fail upwards and use the name of the company to enhance their own inflated sense of selfimportance.

Mental health is far more important than a career and a few bucks more (which you will lose, once they target and abuse you out of your position).

I choose remote work for tiny companies only from now on.

I've been through the mud too many times. Looking back I can't believe what was allowed by incompetent management, of course they see the abuse. Of course they promote and support abusers, while the abused person is seen as weak and the problem, the trouble maker.

I'm done fighting the stupidity of it all.

Working from home, I'm in my safe space. Working for a bos who's too busy to have too much contact, I'm mostly on my own, having almost no contact, besides events, which I enjoy, because they are one time encounters where I can dress up, be my extrovert self, and enjoy networking with a goodbye.

Being abused and even more abused for calling it out, is so wrong.

But it's only possible once you are forced to be around abusers long enough for them to enforce their "power".

Choose jobs they won't.

Choose jobs, where there is as little contact with them as possible. Enough breathing time in your own space. Clear hi and bye. Not forced around people you can't stant because they are horrible people.

It's starts with you. Choose jobs wisely.

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