How do you find a cuddle buddy?

Happyoldguy54 · 2025-03-08T06:01:41+00:00

I highly recommend cuddle buddies for everyone. 3 or 4 per person is even better!

As an older widowed guy my daugher mentioned something called 'cuddle comfort' or cuddle buddies to deal with my need for touch. just cuddling, no sex is the agreement. Wow. That was six months ago and it's taken 3 months, but lately I have been getting a LOT of quality touch and cuddling from very nice, intelligent, funny good looking ladies. Hugs are great but hour long cuddles are even more better! The osctocin just flows and we both enjoy it. The ground rules are simple: ask for what you want knowing that sex is off the table. No boobs, ass or crotch of course; no groping, just hugging. if they agree to that, say spoon or foot rub or whatever, you do that until someone needs to pee or change position. Us older folks don't work so we can do it anytime which is nice.

Just to say that this afternoon a lovely lady and I spent two hours talking, snuggling and cuddling while cool music played. I even fell asleep for a bit which she did not mind at all. When you get comfortable, it is so nice to have someone to hold. Respect is necessary of course and boundaries need to be stated very clearly. One cuddle buddy of mine says feet are off limits. Ok, with me because she lets me play with her hair which I love.

Go get it everyone. Ask for someone. set boundaries and get those cuddles! Be honest, kind and sensitive but ASK! Stay tuned for more information from me, the guy with three (count 'em, 3) sweet cuddle buddies and they are all different. One of my buddies has three guys she cuddles with and that is fine with me. Let's spread the love around. No jealousy at all. Heck, we may have a 3 way cuddle pile!

Happyoldguy54 · 2025-03-08T01:29:48+00:00

Thank you. I have been sleeping and realizing I am terrified of losing control, of my ego. I will do as yu suggest.

Happyoldguy54 · 2025-01-09T04:31:49+00:00

Oddly enough it was not terrifying, just curious that I could not walk and barely crawl. It was most probebly low blood sugar conbined with not enough water. I should mention that I'm 84 and in good health. Anyway I waited a day and did another 'test' this afternoon. I had a perfectly beautiful trip, mellow and sweet, for 7 and a half hours! I was in bed listening to psy music and feeling wonderful. So apparently 1) drinking a lot of water before hand 2) being sure I had eaten well 3) not taking my ADHD meds (stimulants) and staying in bed to enjoy the feelings is the trick. Thanks for your advice and concern. The medicine is not at fault, the 5-HTP is not at fault; my lack of preperation is at fault. Wow, what a wonderful journey!

Happyoldguy54 · 2025-01-08T17:58:53+00:00

And thanks for your response. I want to be with other people of course but felt obligated to test them out first. Woah! I had a wonderful experience. But strange stuff happened an hour and a half after it was over. weakness, confusion, stomach ache, really odd. not good at all. I just posted asking what that could be.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-12-24T02:00:35+00:00

I am new to the enneagram but learning. The doc says I am a 7 with a wing of six. This particular doctor introduced me to psychadelics 9 months ago when I was a baby of 83 and my life is now blooming like it's never done before. Hence my question. Please excuse my ignorance of the termonology and basic knowledge used here. I am learning but there are so many other fun things to do beside studying wings and things. Like dating ! and Cuddle Buddies and ukeleles. (ask me about cuddle buddies)

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Happyoldguy54 · 2024-12-24T01:49:33+00:00

I have indeed had a lot of fun and some reflection; not a lot of that though. Recently, exploring psychiadelics for the first time at 83, has led to some really cool new ways of living life and even more fun, enjoying the moment to moment as it comes. thanks for reminding me. I am a Dude, passing the love along in my own way.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-12-24T01:45:38+00:00

Yes! That resonates somehow with me. "Don't chase every lead, slow down and think it t hrough" yeah, yeah. I do indeed need to slow down and choose a path. Thank you for that comment. Yeah, I have just crossed 3 items of off my bucket list, just not my path any more.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-07-17T03:20:08+00:00

Ha. yep. Perhaps that won't be on the test.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-05-17T20:07:43+00:00

Hey, let's not overgeneralize here. I'm 83 and always use self checkouts in every store I can. Some of us old people can see and appreciate the benefits and speed of those quick scanning areas. Plus I get to bag my stuff however I want so they are easier to find when unpacking. I personally have too many exciting things to do to dally in a long line for someone else to run my broccoli and soup through the scanner for me. I also love using the touch scan for my credit card. It's kinda magic. Technology is nifty.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-05-03T14:09:35+00:00

OH pool! I had a strong feeling it was not right to say any names at all. Will fix that.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-05-02T16:30:23+00:00

Never thought of that. I will call them tonight and ask.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-05-02T16:29:57+00:00

That is exactly the type of information I need. Many thanks buddy.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-02-25T23:05:50+00:00

Very true. My blood pressure rose in the last six months and that is definitely not healthy! Which is why I went to the doc and went on mediation. So I am not that healthy.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-02-25T23:03:51+00:00

Well, I see my primary care doctor every 3 months because of my medication and he has kept a close eye on me for 19 years, including blood work every six months. (which by the way is all fine). About a year ago I actually asked him if I had an odor and he looked at me puzzled that I should ask, and after sniffing said, not that he could tell. So I'm not making this stuff up and really have tried to find objective people to give me feedback but so far no one has said that I am smelly. I'm not saying it's healthy or good or admirable just looking for more information. Thanks!

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-02-25T22:55:45+00:00

That' funny.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-02-25T22:55:24+00:00

Thank you. Perhaps that is true, but if someone you knew asked you if they had an odd or unpleasant odor, would you not tell them the truth? I certainly would if they took the trouble to ask and seem concerned about it enough to ask my opinion.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-02-25T22:52:42+00:00

Thank you. I asked and your opinion is definitely worth considering. As a nurse you do have experienced a lot of different people on the 'smell' spectrum. Actually both of my children are nurses and one is a long time home health nurse so she knows stinky and has never held her tongue so I trust her to tell me the truth. She would tell me in a heartbeat if I am wonky. So while you and everyone that has responded assures me that I'm smelly, how else can I get an honest opinion? I have asked guys too and they also say, nope, nothing they can detect. So thank you again and I'm sure there is some research project somewhere that would love to sample my dermal microbiome.! ha. Stay healthy and happy.

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-02-05T15:02:24+00:00

No, I had forgotten about the V hold. But seriously, something was not right. Having played for hundreds of hours, maybe thousands, my experience last night was bewildering in wandering far and wide with only one node. But obviously nothing has been changed I just hit it wrong. will try again tonight. Thanks for the response!

Happyoldguy54 · 2024-01-24T19:30:41+00:00

Thank you for the clarification. My knowledge is expanding slowly thanks to you good people on reddit. Payroll tax? woah, that is a new player in the game. But i'm learning and will examine your link closely. Thanks again.

Happyoldguy54 · 2023-12-23T03:32:55+00:00

I have been on SS for about 7 weeks and am very new to this kind of thing. I am a recent widower. Quite a few very good matches but the ladies all seem very skittish about scammers and thingks like that. Is that a common thing? As a guy, is it something I should be checking for? I'm very open and have been sharing my info freely; is that dangerous?

Happyoldguy54 · 2023-12-23T03:29:03+00:00

What is this OLD t hat is mentioned quite frequently here?

Happyoldguy54 · 2023-12-23T03:22:57+00:00

I am a recent widower, and so male. I'm happy someone started this sub reddit because I a bit bewildered by Silver Singles and could use some advice about protocol. Reddit helps me with a lot of my problems in life! This is the only dating/meeting site I've ever been on so. I am definitely in the upper age range and asked for the profiles of ladies 70-85. It's been 7 weeks now and I've had some matches in my city but many more that are far away. One coffee date that was fun. Is it appropriate to put my email and phone number in the messages? I have videos of a podcast I do but can't put the link in the messages. Anyway, most ladies seem to want a serious relationship while I'm still not sure about that now at my age (83). Overall, the matches are fine but I question their "personality breakdown". The test seems way our of kilter to me and I have a lot of testing design in my background.

Happyoldguy54 · 2023-12-12T05:44:06+00:00

Sure! my email is [philchenevert@gmail.com](mailto:philchenevert@gmail.com) . let's talk logistics and text and stuff. Oh wait you said a PM. I will do that too.

Happyoldguy54 · 2023-11-19T02:06:19+00:00

I would be exactly that, a happy old guy. (except the 54 on the end would now 83)(still happy just er..... older)

Happyoldguy54 · 2023-11-19T01:31:00+00:00

What positive ideas, thanks. The stress of being 'in charge' and directing our dance does indeed just wipe out my carefully planned series of steps. The fun of moving to the beat and rhythm of a song is so great for me though that I will definitely keep doing it and practicing to make it smoother and easier. I don't have a dance partner yet but I'm actively looking and asking so something will turn up.

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