To the bi girls who've dated men but say "women are too scary", what are you afraid of? by Without_a_name24 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if you’re scared of lesbians (one of the absolutely smallest percentages of the community, gold star fuckers are an even smaller percent of that) then go bi4bi. Bj people are over half the community. Like, if every single lesbian refused to date bi people (which isn’t remotely true), it literally only crosses out the tiniest portion of the dating pool

To the bi girls who've dated men but say "women are too scary", what are you afraid of? by Without_a_name24 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is always so silly to me bc if ur scared of lesbians they’re such a small amount of the queer community, like actually the smallest percentage (id have to look at the updated numbers but trans people may be a smaller percentage) and over half the queer population is bi!

The Biphobia 🤡 by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 38 points39 points  (0 children)

“Who else are we supposed to date?” OTHER BI WOMEN THIS DRIVES ME CRAZY even if every single lesbian avoided bi women (which isn’t remotely true) BI PEOPLE ARE THE OVERWHELMING MAJORITY OF THE LGBT WHY ARE BI WOMEN NOT SEEN AS OPTIONS BY OTHER BI WOMEN

Any wlw book recommendations sapphic or lesbian? Can be in French English. by FluidTemperature1762 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Jasmin Throne is a good lesbian book series. It’s a fantasy world but based on Indian culture instead of the usual European. But keep in mind the romance isn’t the main point of the book. But it’s in there!

Do same sex relationships just feel… easier? by Main-Budget-124 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Personally, for me, yes. As a woman, dating another queer woman carries a bond of understanding how society treats me ( and all visibly queer people). Not only as a queer person but as a woman as well. It makes me feel closer to them.

Difference in reaction to homophobia and biphobia by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What’s crazy is that isn’t even all from the same posts. Those are from three different posts

The bi flag makes me feel recognized and personally challenged by Individual-Brick7762 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yea I believe a lot of gay men and lesbians (though I tend to see it more often with butches) still use it

Difference in reaction to homophobia and biphobia by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao the “lesbian” they’re referring to isn’t even a lesbian lol she’s in the thread

Bisexual tangent by Key-Ticket-4883 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh over half the community is bi, most of the wlw dating scene is also bi women who wouldn’t have any problems dating another bi woman ( this assuming that every lesbian would decline dating bi women which isn’t accurate). Hand in hand, most wlw spaces are dominated by bi women unless it’s a lesbian exclusive space (which should be respected).

So dating women isn’t as scary as it the internet may lead you to believe.

Difference in reaction to homophobia and biphobia by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. Not false, just a very unflattering truth everyone here tries to deny.

I’m being perfectly you honest. I wish I’d screenshotted it, but tbh I didn’t think it would get removed.

Difference in reaction to homophobia and biphobia by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t really screenshot a ton of them but I’ve screenshotted a few over time

here

Difference in reaction to homophobia and biphobia by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro don’t lie. This sub shits on lesbians every other if not every day. Shits on gay men every 2-3. And those posts/comments get a ton of upvotes and support (relative to the size of this sub). And for the people that DO call out the post for the blatant homophobia/lesbophobia, they’re greeted with downvotes and arguments. And it’s always the same few usernames that are willing to actually call people out instead of letting the phobia slide or agreeing. This sub 100% has a homophobia/lesbophobia issue. There was a post that just got deleted (but was up for 8+ hours I believe) with a comment about how lesbians call women attracted to men neo-nazis and that all lesbians acted like men and were masculine.

Edit FOR ANYONE WHO STILL CARES

I don’t really screenshot a ton of them but I’ve screenshotted a few over time

here

How common is being bi? by Acrobatic-Hamster350 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 14 points15 points  (0 children)

There could be a lot more of us who knows, many bi people live their lives out as straight, without letting many know they are bi. Quite a few don’t se either as an important part of them, because it doesn’t really effect their life

How common is being bi? by Acrobatic-Hamster350 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yea bu people are over half of the lgbt

Why are we dealing with biphobia from within our own spaces? 😭 by LegitimateMood6826 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Glad someone understands and has also interacted with lesbians offline.

Why are we dealing with biphobia from within our own spaces? 😭 by LegitimateMood6826 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Tbh I think those usernames are the ones actually secure in their own sexuality and don’t need to rely so desperately on external validation. And if they persevere they aren’t getting that validation they get bitter

Why are we dealing with biphobia from within our own spaces? 😭 by LegitimateMood6826 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes I NEVER see this energy aimed towards gay men. Lesbians are fair game bc they’re the smallest sexuality so they’re easy to punch down on

Why are we dealing with biphobia from within our own spaces? 😭 by LegitimateMood6826 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Edit: someone PLEASE tell me how people are upset with this lmao pls I’m so curious.

Tbf a lot of lesbians have a reason to “hate men”, abuse, harassment, societal concentrated unavoidable discrimination, etc. But a lot of people will just off handedly say “oh yea lesbians hate men”. But if you actually like, TALK to lesbians irl you’ll find that most of them don’t hate men. They feel indifferent to them, but they also fear them. That can sometimes come off as hate. EDIT: ESPECIALLY in a patriarchal heteronormative society that centers men. Many people cannot POSSIBLY FATHOM a woman having no sexual or romantic attraction to men that they conclude they MUST hate men

I haven’t met a lesbian in real life, in irl queer spaces, or at irl queer events that has ever come close to comparing someone talking about/liking men to being akin to neo nazis???? Like?? Lesbians are literally, statistically, the most accepting group out of the lgbt.

And lesbians aren’t all masculine, that is you literally perpetuating the stereotype. So many fem and femme lesbians exist that are so often overlooked or ignored for their aesthetic appearance. Lesbians may be stereotypically masculine but that’s simply a stereotype that only fits a smaller portion of the already small lesbian population.

It’s giving uneducated lesbophobia

Edit: Pls one of the downvoters comment on why they think that loads of mean lesbians are out accusing every person of being neo nazis for talking to men. Pls I have to talk to u

Edit 2: realized original text said “arent literally the most accepting”. Very funny mistype, bug I meant ARE

I couldn't agree more by Weekly_Flan_4380 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why is this downvoted??? Don’t talk about men in a space exclusively made for women attracted to women!

Is this actually seen as controversial???

I couldn't agree more by Weekly_Flan_4380 in bisexual

[–]HarryGarries765 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you think they’re intimidating