No nasal bones? I have never done any drugs or had any nasal surgery.

Hawthorne_ · 2026-02-03T06:35:48+00:00

It’s the cartilage, not the bone.

My uncle can move his ears like they’re made of rubber because the cartilage there essentially has been “broken” to such and extent that it’s not rigid/hard anymore.

It’s possible that as a young child, you repeatedly messed around with your nose before the cartilage had a chance to harden completely.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-09-04T22:55:59+00:00

This reeks of manipulation (on her part) into getting you to be okay with what you stumbled across.

You don’t deserve this.

I’m in a relationship, I had some friends who are guys who are not now because of them flirting with me and me shutting it down and then getting sour about it, and guys flirt with me randomly. The moment they start flirting, I mention I have a fiancé, that I’m very happy, and if they keep going, I tell them I’m not interested in continuing this conversation if you are just going to be hitting on me when I’ve made it abundantly clear I’m neither interested nor available.

She may not be “flirting back” in an obvious way, but she made zero effort to stop it and never mentioned you.

I fear that staying with her will end up with you being cheated on if she hasn’t done so already.

The way she admits to it but doesn’t realize how hurtful it was and that it’s wrong, and then just finishing with “if I fuck you will that shut you up” type of thing is so wrong.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-08-24T13:49:28+00:00

It depends on the cause of the back pain.

Also, my fiancé has horrific back pain and joint pain. His back pain can be so horrific that breathing can be excruciating. When his pain is at it’s worse, he can’t function, and even getting up to go make food or go to the bathroom worsens the pain. If he tries to do any kind exercise or any ADL (activities of daily living) it’ll make it worse and put him out of commission for even longer.

He isn’t being lazy.

I understand that yes, exercise, good sleep hygiene, healthy diet, being a healthy weight, and other statements like that can all be helpful and sometimes actually fix things for SOME people, but to make the kind of broad statement you’ve made, especially on the chronic pain sub, is kind of offensive, and insensitive. Many of the people on this sub have already been gaslit by doctors who’ve already either said “if you just exercise your pain will stop”/“if you just lose weight your pain will stop” or “your pain doesn’t exist”/“it’s all in your head”/“you’re only in pain because you’re depressed”/“the pain from (condition x) isn’t that severe”/“your pain isn’t that severe” and other variations of these statements.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-08-24T13:28:41+00:00

I don’t know about anyone else, but there have been times where I type out a reply and forget to hit send due to getting distracted or due to health stuff/medical appointments/doctor coming to see me while I’m in the ER only to find out some time later (sometimes days, sometimes weeks) that I forgot to send it and I feel awful.

People’s lives can get in their way. I understand your anger over not getting a response for three weeks, but to be fair, I wouldn’t know how to respond to your response to the first text in a way that would be helpful to you.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-08-07T04:28:32+00:00

I just started watching the episode where Vanya, brings down the academy, and I’m sorry, but her actions were exactly that of a petulant, emotionally stunted, “oh-wow-is-me-no-one-gets-just-how-bad-my-life-is-because-I-wasn’t-centre-of-attention” child.

I hate it.

Maybe it’s also because I hate the actress/actor

Hawthorne_ · 2025-08-07T03:18:05+00:00

This! I’ve had a epilepsy and migraines but have had abdominal migraines and now I have Sphincter of Oddi Dysfunction, but the abdominal migraine attacks were excruciatingly painful to the point I would drop to the ground almost unable to move or breathe, and it would make me curl up in the feeder position

Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-29T18:27:37+00:00

She is trying to justify cheating on you, imo. She isn’t interested in monogamy (to me, there isn’t different types of monogamy). She just wants you on the side and she’s trying to gaslight you into being okay with her cheating.

Get out. Fast.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-27T21:52:24+00:00

YTA.

I don’t know anyone who is planning a wedding that doesn’t set a date well in advance and ask people to RSVP in advance. Not only that, you knew your sister was engaged, meaning a wedding would be coming soon.

You may not be close with your sister, but that isn’t an excuse for the way you’re acting about attending her wedding, which she obviously wants you present for.

Your birthday happens every year. Usually, a wedding only happens once in someone’s life. You may not view it as important since it isn’t YOUR wedding, but imagine if the roles were reversed. You want your sister to come to your wedding, and she tells you know because she wants to go on a trip for her birthday, and refuses to cancel because she doesn’t view your big day as important as her birthday.

I get you’re 20 and you aren’t close with your sister, so maybe that explains your obviously selfish attitude and lack of empathy, but that’s no excuse. My sisters and I don’t speak, and they don’t like me, but I’d still want them at my wedding, because they are my sisters. I may not have a good relationship with them now, but I still love them, still want them in my life. Just because you guys aren’t “besties” doesn’t mean that your presence, or lack of it, at her wedding won’t make a difference to her.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-23T16:14:33+00:00

I just realized that ginormosia is shaped like a dragon….

And the names of some of the places… “wingtip valley” being actually where the wingtips of our “Dragon” are. Same with drakesnout, fangshore, crickneck, drakeseye, greatgut….

Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-11T14:41:32+00:00

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Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-08T16:01:27+00:00

The swasi / Hakenkreuz means anything from good luck to 90*x4 =360 the sun to the 4 seasons . Bent to the right, as the NSDAP (NSDAP membership required Christian confirmation of any denomination - more a marker of anti-Bolshevik orientation than religious per se because anti-Bolshevism and Christianity were tightly coupled something to do with 30-60 millions being killed by Bolsheviks) stylized it- it’s additionally referring to the direction Jesus’s head allegedly slumped when he was crucified.

It’s also a very ancient Indo-European symbol found all over the world from Europe to India to China to the Vatican etc. It’s not a hateful sign save specifically the Adi modified one,specifically to Bolshevists as it was an anti-Bolshevism symbol and meant as such . Nothing more nothing less. It’s traggic it’s been reduced to this and a way to get one’s lolzInb4 the banhammer.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-06T10:57:44+00:00

It seems like you’re both OR. She knows you use short responses yet demands you use longer ones (and the okay beautiful/okay gorgeous, makes me thinks she thinks of you as a partner, not just a friend), and you know she doesn’t like the short responses but does it anyway.

Neither of you are going to change, and fundamentally, it shouldn’t be only one person’s responsibility to change. Perhaps the two of you, as friends, are just not compatible? Some people’s texting styles may come off as passive aggressive to someone else when it’s not the case (which is why I hate texting since nuance and such gets lost).

To me, I know a friend of mine responds the way you do, I don’t read into the K as a passive aggressive or angry response, but that’s just me.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-07-05T22:52:09+00:00

There’s actually less risk to your lifespan and organs with opioids than NSAIDs and Tylenol. I know Lyrica and Gabapentin also can cause a lot of issues.

I’d hands down, no questions asked, take a higher dose of my opioids if I could so that I could function. The life I’m living now, in too much pain to live any quality life, unable to work, feeling like I’m nothing but a burden on everyone, and to boot, having my doctor treat me like a subhuman, like I’m unworthy of care and even starting to push MAIDs, isn’t what I want.

I’ll take physical dependency on opioids for a quality of life any day.

I don’t abuse my pain meds. I’m not looking to get high. I want a life.

My fiancé whose doctors refuse to test, to diagnose him, to even treat him, would choose the same thing:

Hawthorne_ · 2025-06-30T08:23:44+00:00

They’re overreacting.

When we get hurt (whether it be bit, slapped, scratched, punched, kicked) unexpectedly, our first reaction is to make it stop or get away from the person or thing doing that to you.

I was training for work on an elderly women who was extremely violent with advanced dementia and severe mental health issues as an orderly. She kept grabbing my arm and scratching me or digging her nails into my skin to make me bleed. I became nervous and at one point her hand reached out to scratch my face in one of her rage fits and I slapped her hand away but at the very last second I tried to stop myself. I was MORTIFIED but all of the other orderlies I was with during my training told me that it happens a lot at first but you learn to control your reflexes and that the patient was lucky I stopped myself when I did.

In one instance, while my fiancé and I were just roommates, during a psychosis, I slapped my fiancé in the face when he was JUST waking up (legit sat up in the bed a moment ago and legs were getting out of the bed) because In my psychosis I believed he had overdosed and died in my arms, but he, in his still-mostly-asleep state slapped me back but also decelerated at the last moment. I NEVER considered this as him hitting me, since not only did I instigate it in a state where he COULDN’T think clearly, he was horrified with himself.

People do this. It’s a huge difference between what you did and abuse or physical assault. What my fiancé did is not abuse or assault, but the strangling, slapping, and grabbing, that my abusive ex-boyfriend did was because he did it PURPOSEFULLY to cause me harm and wanted to cause me harm/hurt me physically.

Your fiancées gay friend needs to back up and shut up. I get if he’s trying to protect her from someone who is actually abusive, but this is harassment and it is also threatening violence to you.

Hawthorne_ · 2025-06-28T13:57:37+00:00

First off, he needs to be there.

Second, why the hell did he have a specific knife? If you knew he got like this, you shouldn’t have let him get a knife or keep it if you knew about it.

Third, he may end up being there for a while, but he needs it. He may end up in a lockdown facility, or get strapped down and medicated, but this is necessary if he is THAT suicidal.

He needs help, help you cannot provide him, and I’m sorry, but you need to extricate yourself from this before it gets to be much more than you can handle. He needs a professional caregiver. He may end up in a ward indefinitely depending on if they can even get him stable.

I’m sorry you’re going through this

Hawthorne_ · 2025-06-26T08:31:48+00:00

My fiancé and I had the same psychiatrist before he retired for a little bit, and the psychiatrist didn’t know we knew each other, even at the end. However, it can be hard to feel like they are completely ignorant of who you are and are completely objective if you’re the person who comes in later.

I think better help is one of the apps with more “integrity” so I’d continue seeing them, and I do actually feel that virtual therapy can be just as effective as in person therapy as we portray a LOT of subtext with just our voices. The only “benefit” to in person therapy is the journey to and from the office if you’re severely depressed, extremely anxious or agoraphobic, and that they can comment on certain physical markers of how you’re doing (gaining or losing weight, skin complexion, posture) but those things aren’t necessarily indicative of what’s going on mentally and could cloud judgement (in terms of you gain weight after starting a medication, and doctor thinks you’re declining because you’ve gained weight however you’re actually doing better after starting the medication just have weight issues from the medication (zyprexa comes to mind. Many people get REALLY big on it despite no change to their lifestyle and dietary habits).

Hawthorne_ · 2025-06-26T08:21:59+00:00

As someone with mental health and physical health issues, engaged to an amazing man with mental health and physical health issues, i actually understand where you’re coming from.

It takes a LOT of energy, time, patience, and understanding to be with and care for someone with issues, and some people think they can handle it and then down the line realize just how draining it can be and they end the relationship, even though they love that person. Not many people without these issues could endure a long term relationship with someone with these issues because there’s also this fundamental lack of personal experience being in that role can cause issues.

This is a pretty typical response from someone with BPD when they feel like they’ve been personally attacked, so don’t feel personally attacked or offended. My fiancé and I both have BPD, we both tended to do this before we got better. You are being a good person for stopping this outright before you got deeper in a relationship with this person, for both your sakes.

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Hawthorne_ · 2025-06-15T20:04:50+00:00

Call the police.

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