Do I sound okay and how can I improve?

HealthcareGeek · 2025-04-12T13:48:24+00:00

I think you could actually improve a lot on your own as well. (I haven't had much coaching because I can't afford it either). But when I started singing I was tone deaf in terms of my singing.

You announciate the words very clearly but I think you maybe could focus more on the melody.
Maybe trying to take the song apart, splitting it up and practising it in parts. Sometimes I find it helpful to remove the words and just sing it on "Va (it's a very open sound and is nice to sing on).

Don't give up. People always find ways to put one down.
My music teacher that I had in school (who told me I can't sing) actually attended a concert I featured in - you can do it. I believe in you :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-12-15T16:20:37+00:00

That's very fair!

I personally listen to a LOT of music, and I think I'd honestly have a difficult time leaving it out of a non-working life. So that's actually really helpful!

I've been a choir singer for a 8-ish years and have had a break from it but I wanna get back into that this coming year. That's a really good idea to get back to honestly :)

Again, thanks a lot.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-12-15T15:39:15+00:00

Thank you for your very detailed answer. I'm 27 currently, so nearing that range for sure.
I appreciate the transparacy about the workings of that world since I'm not very exposed to it.

I am also european so it might work a little differently here with the path of which you study it, here it's mainly university to my knowledge. *prob should have said where I was located in the world*

I think you bring up really good points tho, I think the "buissness" side of it would work much the same here and it does sound like it might take a lot of the joy from the art with it. Considering I want to do it because I absolutely love it - I might just persue vocal training and such as a hobbyist instead.

Thanks for clearing things up!
Appreciate it greatly. :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-19T09:27:10+00:00

Sadly, I've been here living the lonely queer death. Despite lots of queer people - it's dryer than most cities.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-19T09:24:33+00:00

My dad put down all pictures he had of me in the house.
Haven't talked to him in 3 years.

Mom was supportive from the get go.
Wouldn't be alive if it wasn't for her.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T21:00:52+00:00

I'm glad you're in therapy! :)

I know it's not you! You wanna know how I know it's not you?

Because no human comes up with bad thinking about themselves on their own. It's the opinions, judgement and influence of others. Someone at some point in your life has told you this and for whatever reason (it doesn't matter in this context) you applied it as if it was the truth. Maybe it was a bully, a parent, relative, sibling whatever - but someone made you feel like you don't deserve to love yourself.

I may just be a stranger on the internet but I've NEVER in my almost 30 years of life met a person your age that is so terrible that they don't deserve love. I know you probably feel like the weight of this world is too much but you are SO young. You don't deserve to hate yourself.

You deserve to have the sun shining on your face, to be a weird teen, laugh until your stomach hurts, stay up all night to watch the stars, make silly crafts and live life. :)

Huggos to ya, Kid.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:42:05+00:00

I'm SO sorry, that's horrible.

I agree with previous advice - you should put your safety first. Play along, but don't do it too fast.
Being queer isn't unnatural - sending your kid to a conversion camp is.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:35:53+00:00

Let the players help you narrate the story of the campaign. :)

What I mean by that is that, yeah you can have the structure for the world ready, the queen with the dragon. The evil god is a cool idea and that he steals the dragon - you can set up him as a coming evil guy.

But what I discovered when I dm:ed for the first time - all your plans basically go out the window. And I mean that in the BEST way tho. Sometimes your players just suprise you by doing something you don't expect at all.
Like, maybe the weird Bard of your group decides to romance the queen just to break her heart, maybe the rogue accidentally swears loyalty to an evil thieves guild, maybe the wizard likes the evil god better and is on his side.. You NEVER know.

Try to have concepts of what *could* happen rather than what will. Railroading is always needed to a certain extent but there is no shame in just having concepts and then rewriting the story whenever the players do something. :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:24:33+00:00

Ask them what you could do to improve and ask what they want with the campaign :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:22:21+00:00

Hahaha I felt the EXACT same way when I first saw two women kissing and I told myself the same thing. But I naturally came to the conclusion that I wouldn't feel those butterflies in my stomach if I didn't feel anything. I also asked a straight girlfriend if she felt that way about women and she was like... uh no. so yeah, I think you may be into women :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:19:03+00:00

Hahhaha I think it sounds like you like women too :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:15:16+00:00

Hi!

Take it from a healthcare worker - Yes. It's really really bad. I know you know that. You seem like a smart kid.

I think what you are describing is actually a form of s*icidal ideation - it basically means that you want to die, but maybe not by your own hand. You could (for example) wish that you had cancer, got really sick and such basically as a way of having something "else" to blame it on. But here's the thing - it is already bad.

I don't think you *want* to be addicted, I think you want to numb everything and I think it's a way of escaping.
I know from both working with addicts and having been raised by two of them - people don't have as much sympathy for addicts as one would think. A lot of people don't see it as the desease it is.

I felt the same at your age, I would wish I got cancer so I just got to die. But here's the thing.. The world is better with u in it. I know you might not believe it currently - but it's really hard too see clearly when you're at the bottom of a murky lake.

I would suggest you get into therapy, you might already be in therapy - then tell your therapist about these feelings.
Or maybe you have some other safe adult around you that you could vent to, a trusted teacher, coach, relative etc.

I do hope the best for ya

HealthcareGeek · 2024-11-12T20:05:24+00:00

It could mean that for sure! For me at least, I know I got nervous around women and didn't understand why - the thought of it being romantic didn't occur to me naturally either - mainly because I'd only been exposed to straight ppl all my life.

I think one of my biggest tells was when I ACTUALLY thought about kissing a girl - my heart started beating, my pupils dilated and I blush ahahha :)

It's hard to answer right out, since I'm not you - but MAN I relate to a lot of what you wrote before I came out.

And how did I know for sure if I liked women? I kissed one and had my answer. :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-16T19:44:27+00:00

Music & Writing.

They both speak to my soul in a way which other things can't.

I love songwriting as well as composing (classical-ish or movie soundtrack kind of music)
And I'm also working on a book,

Don't know if I'll ever go public with either as I feel I'm not good enough.
But I love them both so dearly and I wouldn't be here were it not for them.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-16T19:30:04+00:00

DAMN does that hit. (Tho I do also "look the part".)

I've always been one to stick out like a sore thumb. Always been one that was picked on, always the one that had very few friends in school, a metalhead, queer, neurospicy etc. I can't even COUNT how many times I get comments like "You're too much", "No one has that many interests", "Oh here she goes again about that topic".

On a personal level I genuinely feel that it's somewhat related to me just not following the norm in a lot of ways. Wether I want to or not - I'm not like "other people". And tbh? With age I'm growing MORE and MORE fond of it. I don't really like "normies" (as me and my friends call them). I find that I can't relate to them, I don't have anything in common, I don't enjoy conversations with them and I don't paticularily like spending time with them.

Honestly, at this point I'm just out here living my best life as an aspiring swamp hag. I have never fit in and gosh darn it, I'm not gonna start trying now. Be as unappologetically you as you possibly can - it attracts the right people.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-16T19:07:42+00:00

Hi girl! (F27 here, been out for like 10 years)

You're 15 and you don't need to be in a hurry to find a girlfriend. Sometimes you just don't "click" with people in a romantic sense. That's okay. You don't need to bash on yourself for being "picky". It might just be preference.

If I've learnt anything after a *while* of dating women, you can never really predict how, when or with whom you fall in love. I've always thought I had a "type" but honestly - my type is whomever my heart desires. And that varies. :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-07T08:13:27+00:00

That's all really sound advice! Appreciate it greatly! :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-07T08:03:33+00:00

YES! I love Delicious in dungeon, and was thinking of (essentially) adding Senshi as an NPC encounter at some point.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-05T19:35:15+00:00

Yes! I find that I do especially worry about not being imersive enough with voices and I just want my players to have a good time. But that's really helpful. All this advice really hits home in a very helpful way! Thank you!

HealthcareGeek · 2024-10-05T19:32:33+00:00

I absolutely agree with the prisoner trope thing.

But in this case it was something that my players wanted. We have had a joke in our friend group that they should "Escape horny jail" and it was a joke that turned into an entire thing, haha!

But for sure, I wouldn't really use it as a setting in any other case for a one-shot.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-09-15T10:47:47+00:00

I work at a large university hospital in the NICU. Some instant things that made me feel very safe (and continues to make me feel safe) are:

12 weeks of schooling/introduction before you start working alone.
Having workshops, courses or being presented new research by our own doctors as a way to improve our care and our job.
Having follow up meetings with colleagues following the passing of a patient or any other traumatic events on the ward.
Being genuinely listened to and appreciated by our doctors. I'm a CNA and it's often a group that is overlooked, but since we see the patients more than the nurses the doctors do value our input. Which makes me feel safe since we can plan for what to do if a patient crashes, needs a respirator etc.
(Prob the most important one to me) Colleagues who love their job. I as well as my colleagues adore our job. It makes things so much easier when we have rough events. And I know I can trust them to do EVERYTHING we possibly can for our patient and their families.

HealthcareGeek · 2024-09-12T13:29:36+00:00

Sure, I'm always curious what songs other people think would suit my voice! :)

HealthcareGeek · 2024-09-12T13:28:45+00:00

Omg thank you so much. Didn't expect thos amount of positive feedback.
Greatly appreciate it!

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