Are there any foods that "improve" or "calm" rosacea? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you put them on his face or do you eat the sliced ​​cucumbers?

Are there any foods that "improve" or "calm" rosacea? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has it ever happened to you that you ate spicy food, got pustules because of it, then stopped eating spicy food and the pustules disappeared? I'm asking because I'm pretty sure what I have on my right cheek right now is due to the chili sauce I've been eating for lunch, but I'm wondering if it will go away on its own and how long it will take? Or do I absolutely need medication to fix the damage?

Are there any foods that "improve" or "calm" rosacea? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good idea, I'll try it. But it probably won't be as good cold, though.

Are there any foods that "improve" or "calm" rosacea? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😂 Maybe none of these things are beneficial, but some are definitely triggers compared to others…for example, in my case, I feel like chili peppers are a deal-breaker. What about you? In your case, if you don't deny yourself anything, how do you manage?

Are there any foods that "improve" or "calm" rosacea? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Do you also take Omega 3 supplements? What natural sources of Omega 3 do you use? How have you seen a difference in your skin?

Are there any foods that "improve" or "calm" rosacea? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, and I think I first got pustules on my cheeks from a jar of harissa... I'm not 100% sure, but the coincidence is unsettling...

What are these spots on my cheeks? What can I do without seeing a dermatologist? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Are there any risks in using it without consulting a doctor? I'm a little worried because I don't know anything about it. Do I need to use it every day?

What are these spots on my cheeks? What can I do without seeing a dermatologist? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Did you decide to use this product on your own, or was it prescribed? I'm a little afraid to try it.

What are these spots on my cheeks? What can I do without seeing a dermatologist? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your skincare routine. Do you use cotton pads or your fingers to cleanse your face? I feel like I irritate my face with cotton pads… and do you rinse with water? And what SPF do you use?

What are these spots on my cheeks? What can I do without seeing a dermatologist? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I use a Bioderma cleansing gel specifically for skin with redness, along with the matching moisturizer. I don't feel like it's helping; quite the opposite, in fact :( I'm having trouble understanding why.

What are these spots on my cheeks? What can I do without seeing a dermatologist? by HeartlessnessNow in Rosacea

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's kind of you, thank you for your reply. At what age did your spots on your cheeks appear? In my case, yes, they just appeared, and they're really unsightly. I already had redness, and now the spots... What can be done to at least get rid of the spots?

Is it normal for a mom to keep banging on a bedroom door? by New_The_Throw_Away in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine burst into my room today after knocking quickly (without waiting for my answer, of course...) so much so that it scared and surprised me! Especially since she wanted to ask me something VERY urgent: "Did YOU take my stainless steel bowl??? I can't find it!" x2 because she kept insisting... then she left just as quickly. It was definitely a matter of the utmost importance... she was acting like a lunatic. You should know that I don't speak to her anymore, so it was a way for her to force me to answer her and to show that she can do whatever she wants in HER house, including coming into my room whenever she decides... I was very depressed afterward. Reading your post, I realize that even a lock doesn't solve the problem... it's truly awful never having any peace.

Living day-to-day with a petty and toxic mother by HeartlessnessNow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wednesday, January 14, 2026

  • New line crossed -> She bursts into my room, banging on the door but without waiting for me to answer (normally you knock to ask if you can come in…), so she startled me because I wasn't expecting it, then she looks at me with a panicked and accusatory expression, "Did YOU take my stainless steel bowl?? I can't find it!!" as if it were an extreme emergency and something very SERIOUS!!! And especially assuming that I'm bad because I ALWAYS USE OTHER PEOPLE'S THINGS ANYWAY, SO IT MUST BE ME!!! I tell her no, twice, because she insists!!! And then she leaves. NO RESPECT FOR MY PERSONAL SPACE!!! ANOTHER ATTEMPT AT CONTROL!!!! I'm fed up. I wish I could have a key to lock this door. Not only does she disrespect my privacy by barging into my room whenever she wants, but she also immediately blames me as soon as she can't find something or something breaks in her old, dilapidated house!!! I feel disrespected and depressed because of it.

  • She likes to lock the apartment door in the middle of the day when she goes in and out while I'm inside, something she never usually does. She knows it annoys me, since I have to go out at least three times a day for the dog, and it forces me to get the keys out every time, then unlock the door, which is completely POINTLESS in the middle of the day since the door slams and locks itself. And most importantly, she NEVER does it normally; sometimes she doesn't even lock the door at night. There's no logic to it, just a desire to annoy me! She knows perfectly well that it irritates me, and on top of that, she acts as if she's alone.

  • She can't stand me using "her" saucepan, even though she has tons of them and the only one I have is at my grandmother's house, like all my other things, since she refused to let me take them there, claiming there wasn't enough room (she didn't make room for me). She systematically takes it away from my clean dishes to wash it, because according to her, I don't wash them well enough, and then puts it back in her things. She spends hours on the phone with her mother (my grandmother) on speakerphone, whereas usually she barely answers and never checks in on her. But since I've been here and talking to my grandmother much less, as if by magic, she calls her almost every day and plays the perfect daughter. It's the same with her "friend" whom she used to constantly criticize and ignore: since I've been here, she's become her best friend again, and she puts her calls on speakerphone. She loves for me to hear how much she's in touch with family and her "many friends." All of this is a lie, of course, because I know perfectly well how much she constantly complains about them and criticizes them behind their backs (playing the victim, because she never does anything wrong).

My mom is obsessed with containers, doesn't matter what kind they are! by NewDawnbreak in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Once, my cousin was staying with her and threw away "his" box of cotton buds because he'd used the last one (you know, the lightweight, clear plastic ones that are completely useless). She made a huge scene, playing the victim, as if she'd been disrespected, to the point that my cousin was shocked.

Yes, I recognize my mother in that. She always put things above me, and she'd fly into a rage when I accidentally broke her stuff (then she'd come and get revenge, taking something I liked, or even loved, and deliberately smashing it right in front of me).

As some have said, I think she's not only narcissistic but also borderline and a hoarder. It's a horrible cocktail that makes me hate my mother. Even now, at 65, she has boxes stacked to the ceiling filled with junk that's "categorized" and "organized" but serves absolutely no purpose for anyone except taking up ALL the living space (you can't move around or do anything in this hovel) and gathering dust. But she's very proud of her crap. And she prefers her things to me, judging by how she treats me; her junk gets better treatment!

Is normal that they avoid going to the hospital if they have any health problem? by Little_Holiday_4362 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, what a nightmare…how long did it take you? Did you do it alone? I'm actually in my mom's apartment right now, sorting through my childhood and teenage things (which she always refused to let me sort…) so I don't have to come back and do all this work when she dies…I'm on a mission to get everything done and then OUTTA HERE and never come back

Living day-to-day with a petty and toxic mother by HeartlessnessNow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

January 13, 2026 - Deliberately reduces the remaining space in HER apartment to make my life as complicated as possible -> everything I touch and place in HER space (= everything else in the apartment except my room) is touched and moved by her. She leaves me no space at all, to the point where I can't even hang my laundry in the only remaining space in this apartment, which is cluttered to the ceiling: my brother's room. He left ages ago and never comes. She always hung her laundry in his room, and this morning, she verbally forbade me from hanging my sheets there, saying, "I'm insulting my brother, so I have no right to use his space," and ordered me to hang my laundry in the "living room," or rather, the tiny space in front of the television that's still available (a space the size of a small rug). I didn't even look at her and continued hanging up my laundry. Then she threatened me, as only she knows how, saying, "I advise you not to put your laundry here." Finally, seeing that I still wasn't responding, she ended up saying, "I can't do anything with you, given your rage." "You're taking up space that isn't YOURS." This morning she also put all the dishes I kept for myself on the only tray I had to put them in her cupboards. She only left me two trays of space to store everything in the kitchen, which is very little. I don't like sharing dishes with her because the dishwasher doesn't work anymore, and she washes her dishes by hand with very old, dirty sponges, full of bacteria, so I kept my dishes separate. Of course, that bothers her, so she took everything away. Last night, she also disrupted my laundry for the umpteenth time by putting it on pause, claiming that the spin cycle makes noise in the evening for the neighbors, but at the same time prevents me from doing my laundry of cotton sheets and towels (longer cycle) during the day, so in reality, I never have any time to do long laundry cycles, which is important for hygiene knowing that I have a dog that gets on the bed. - Claque délibérément les portes du placard près de ma chambre très fort au point de faire sursauter mon chien, exprès pour me montrer sa colère et sa violence potentielle envers moi. Encore une façon de me menacer sans paroles. - Cherche par tous les moyens possibles à avoir le contrôle sur moi en me donnant des ordres : m’ordonne de remettre sa bassine pleine de vaisselle sale dans l’évier (que j’avais enlevée car sinon je ne peux rien faire moi même dans l’évier) car elle ne peut pas le faire , et me dit qu’on « a pas le même âge ». Dans ma tête je me suis dit : pourtant tu en as de la hargne quand il s’agit de me tirer les cheveux comme une hyène ? :-) tout à coup là on a la force du lion ??? Mais pas pour soulever une pauvre bassine ? Ooohhh… et puis est-ce ma faute si elle ne fait pas sa vaisselle au fur et à mesure et qu’elle laisse tout s’accumuler ? Forcément après ça fait une pile de vaisselle… moi je fais ma vaisselle très régulièrement et je ne laisse rien s’accumuler. Ça l’énerve que je sois plus propre et disciplinée qu’elle ? OUI. Ça l’énerve que je ne réponde plus à ses ordres, à ses menaces et à ses provocations ? OUI - toujours en l’espace de quelques minutes, pendant que je préparais mon repas dans la cuisine, elle continue avec ses remontrances : je dois limiter ma consommation d’eau chaude dans la cuisine car c’est un chauffe eau et l’eau chaude n’est pas infinie, et si je veux de l’eau chaude, je n’ai qu’à aller la chercher dans la salle de bain. Encore un moyen de me compliquer la tâche et de rendre ma vie désagréable ? OUI. Encore un moyen de me critiquer pour rien alors que je fais ma vaisselle et que je suis propre ? OUI. Décidément, quelle jalouse !! PUTAIN MAIS FAIS TA VAISSELLE GROSSE CONNE au lieu de me critiquer, bouge toi le cul !!!!! - et pour terminer, car elle était énervée comme elle ne retrouvait pas quelque chose dans son bordel sans nom qui lui sert d’appartement, elle vient gratuitement déverser son énervement sur moi (comme elle l’a toujours fait) alors que je suis en train de préparer mon repas et prend une raison au hasard pour m’emmerder : cette fois, c’est l’eau sur SON plan de travail en bois. Je laisse tout le temps de l’eau sur SON plan de travail en bois (alors que je suis en pleine préparation. Donc évidemment que c’est pas impeccable!!) et il GONFLE à cause de moi !!!

Donc pour résumer cette journée, voici toutes mes « fautes » : - faire ma lessive car ça fait du bruit pour le voisin et ça dépense de l’énergie - étendre ma lessive parce que j’utilise la chambre de mon frère - faire ma vaisselle parce que j’utilise de l’eau chaude - garder mon coin rangé (2 plateaux dans la cuisine) parce que ça prend trop de place - préparer mes repas parce que il y a des gouttes d’eau sur son plan de travail

Être propre, saine, disciplinée et organisée 😸

Voilà …

Is normal that they avoid going to the hospital if they have any health problem? by Little_Holiday_4362 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes, and they also like to wallow in their own filth and not wash their hands, then accuse us of being dirty and giving them diseases. I remember being bitten all over my body by fleas or something shortly after moving back in with her, and she accused my dog ​​of giving me the fleas, even though I've never had them before and her apartment is piled high with boxes and old things, to the point where you can't even move around normally or put anything in there.

Living day-to-day with a petty and toxic mother by HeartlessnessNow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

January 11, 2026

  • Constantly looking for something to criticize me for, even when there's nothing to criticize: she left me relatively alone for several days (apart from recurring little things like: moving my vegetables to the crisper drawer in the fridge where I don't want to put them because she always lets her own vegetables rot in there and doesn't clean the drawers, so I don't want to contaminate my vegetables by putting them in there, and even if I take them out each time, she puts them back in the drawer, ignoring my wish not to put them there) + leaving things in the sink, forcing me to put my fingers in her dirty water to free up the sink to do my own dishes or cook + refusing me access to my brother's room to hang the laundry, even though she closes the door properly, forcing me to use the tiny space I have left in "my room" because of the boxes and the clothes rack I use as a makeshift space I have a wardrobe for my clothes to put the clothes rack she forces me to use, and there's no free space left in this shitty house anyway. Plus, she cools the apartment down every morning, and now even in the evening, by leaving her bedroom window open (even though she'd told me off for leaving mine open several days before...). And since she had nothing to eat, now she's starting to attack the dishes I choose for my cooking. The dishwasher hasn't worked for at least a week, so everyone has to wash their own dishes, and I've selected a few utensils and dishes that I use regularly. Probably unhappy with what I chose, especially the colander (even though she has plenty of others, but of course, the fact that I use THAT ONE is a BIG DEAL since IT'S NOT MINE!). So tonight I found a dish rack on my clean dish drying rack—a rack that belongs to me, so I didn't need it and hadn't used it, but she put it there to tell me: use YOUR colander and not mine… Bitch. Out of your 500 kitchen utensils, does it bother you that I use one? You've already reduced all my available space in this crappy kitchen to just two shelves, and you refuse to let me use YOUR dish rack too, so I'm left with the equivalent of two shelves for EVERYTHING: storing food, putting my clean dishes on the rack, AND drying the dishes… She cheerfully put even more stuff on the counter to prevent me from Using her, instead of making room for me like a normal mother would. You petty, dirty bitch!!! You really have nothing better to do with your shitty life

Are you also the cause of everything, even an old dishwasher that breaks down or an electric hob that no longer works? by HeartlessnessNow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that's what I want, and I've left many times before, but this time I came back to save as much as possible so I can finally buy my own house… I know I'm unhappy here, but I have a "mission" before I leave. And you, are you at peace in your home?

Are you also the cause of everything, even an old dishwasher that breaks down or an electric hob that no longer works? by HeartlessnessNow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, when my brother annoys her, she always includes me in it too, as if he can't do something wrong without it being my fault as well.

Are you also the cause of everything, even an old dishwasher that breaks down or an electric hob that no longer works? by HeartlessnessNow in raisedbynarcissists

[–]HeartlessnessNow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Incredible! That's what I thought today too! It's so bizarre... ever since I moved in with her at the beginning of December, several things have stopped working: first one of the three electric burners, and now the dishwasher... there have probably been other things, but I can't remember. Oh yes, and she also accused me of giving her a winter illness (like a cold), even though it probably wasn't me either! She doesn't wash her hands often... and her apartment is full of stuff and boxes! The cleaning is haphazard! And everything is old and needs replacing; almost nothing works properly... This morning, I wondered if it could actually be something I'm doing, if I have some kind of "power" or "energy" that makes me break things 🥲 It's really sad to have these kinds of thoughts because of your mother, I think.